How to unlock the potential of a child without taking away his childhood

Focus on success

Don't take success for granted. Violently scolding for bad grades and reacting dryly to good ones is not the best way to educate. In this case, there is the Green Pencil technique. It suggests that you will focus not on failures, but on successes. At the same time, careful feedback is important. One wrong word and the child will not want to take the initiative. If something goes wrong, praise him for his diligence and be sure to add that he will achieve his goal next time. Tell your child how you dealt with failure. This will show him that mistakes are a normal part of life, and he will not be so afraid to take on difficult cases.

Support his hobbies

They can develop into a life's work. And the sooner the child starts, the sooner he can achieve success. There are enough such examples. So, pianist Evgeny Kissin got carried awayEvgeny Kissin is the world's most acclaimed classical pianist / Economist music at the age of 11 months, and at the age of 12 he gave his first solo concert at the Moscow Conservatory. A football player Roman Pavlyuchenko

beganPavlyuchenko Roman Anatolyevich / Vesti.ru play at school. At the age of 16, specialists from a sports boarding school noticed him, and at the age of 21 he signed a contract with Spartak Moscow.

Everyone has a predisposition to this or that business, and it can be noticed even in childhood. Watch the child. Perhaps he is drawn to singing, or he is ready to spend hours on programs for creating games. If it seems to you that the child is not interested in anything, talk to him about this topic. Perhaps you will find him a hobby together.

Do not put pressure on the child. If a parent at one time failed to become a football player, this does not mean that the student should realize his ambitions. He may not like the classes, the teacher, the team, all this, coupled with the pressure of loved ones, can lead to nervous exhaustion.

Set a personal example

To do this, you need not only help to do homework. It is important to remain disciplined on all fronts. Agree with family members that you will spend time together without smartphones. People feelMuhammad Shabbir Sarwar, Humara Gulzar, Ahsan Bhatti. The Impact of Mobile Phone on Family Life: A Case Study of Lahore, Pakistan / Journal of Peace Development & Communication feel uncomfortable when loved ones are distracted by gadgets. If a child sees that an adult is not interested in communicating with him, then over time he will move away.

Try to participate in competitions together: you can play quizzes, run mini-marathons or show your talents in competitions. Prepare for them carefully, without missing training and rehearsals. By observing how you want to win, the child will follow your example and will learnMenusch Khadjavi, Andreas Nicklisch. Parents' Ambitions and Children's Competitiveness / Journal of Economic Psychology achieve goals.

You can also read books. To instill in your child curiosity and the desire to learn new things, discuss with him the works that you liked. Try reading aloud as a family—say, at the end of each week. So you can develop a good habit and find a reason to communicate with children. In addition, family reading will teach all participants to analyze works and competently defend their point of view. This will set a good example for your child.

Don't forget about rest

In the struggle for knowledge, it is important not to overdo it. Author of the book “Let Them Go. How to Prepare Children for Adulthood by Julie Licott-Hames notesJulie Lythcott-Haims. How to raise successful kids - without over-parenting / TED Talks Livethat parents often form a schedule in which the child does not have time for games and rest. Adults also get tired of this routine.

It is difficult for a child who is torn between school and circles to dream of success. Even if he shows excellent results, he is more likely to do it solely in order to please his parents. There is a high risk that then the child will burn out and lose interest in learning.

Check if he has time to rest. Enter with the child all his affairs in the calendar and discuss the resulting schedule. If you see that most of the time is devoted to studying, suggest that the student refuse some extra classes. If the child is too tired from the lessons, go to meet him. And also leave him the right to be lazy. Agree that the child will have, say, one day in the month when he can skip school and devote time to his hobbies.

Help your kids unwind after a school week. Set aside time in your schedule to spend time together. Try not to do household chores during these hours: it is better to take a walk in the park or go to the movies.

Listen to your child

Children under the age of six loveOlga Ovsyannikova, Larisa Shkil. "Are you really interested?" / raising children.rf share with loved ones what you have recently learned, whether it be the names of constellations, a new word or the plot of a new cartoon. Growing up, they are less likely to tell their parents about their lives. This is partly because children understand in advance what exactly they will be asked about and respond with prepared templates. To the phrase "How are you at school?" they'll say, "It's okay." And when you hear “No one offends?” - they will immediately throw: "No, everything is fine."

Parents in this situation can also be understood. Often, after work and household chores, they do not have enough time for conscious communication with children. At the same time, the child may have his own reasons for pride and anxiety, which are worth discussing. Let the student talk about what fascinated him. So he will understand that his thoughts are interesting to the elders.