Appreciate yourself and look at the world differently: 6 things that children taught us

1. Take it easy on the mess and do without the Internet

I have a fad about order in the house. And with the advent of children in general, I wanted to bring everything around to complete sterility. But it was Munisa and Ibrahim who taught me to take it easier. And not at all because they scattered toys and made cleaning useless. I just noticed that they don't mind what looks like a mess to me. But the tortured and always making remarks mother - how.

From the applied benefits of parenthood - with the help of children, you can quickly get information on an issue of interest. At different periods of his life, the son was fond of dinosaurs, cars, stories of world wars. Without the Internet, I could find out the details of historical events or the range of an extinct animal. Comfortable!

2. Appreciate yourself more and take your time

The children helped me to re-evaluate the attitude towards myself. I studied and worked a lot all the time - I graduated from two institutes at the same time, immediately went to residency, then I was a practicing specialist and a graduate student. I did not like this load, I was too tired. It was the children who showed me that I need to rush less, take care of myself and think about my condition. When I changed my profession, my life became more conscious and balanced.

Thanks to my daughter and son, I improved my time management, organizational skills and the ability to negotiate. I can fully work from home with an infant and a puppy and at the same time feel that I am being realized professionally. In addition, the experience of parenthood raised our relationship with my husband to a new level: we are very proud of each other for the fact that, in fact, we made two cool people out of nothing!

3. Let go of situations and disguise vegetables in dishes

“Turn off an uninteresting movie and close a boring book” - this has never been given to me before. Throwing what you don’t like, my eldest daughter Dasha taught me. She always chooses what she really wants to do, and rejects the rest without regret. Looking at her, I realized that I can do it too.

My youngest daughter Sasha has been independent since childhood. Her character helped me learn to let go - stop controlling everything in the world and allow the possibility of a non-ideal result. I'm still in the process, but making progress. I think the older the daughters are, the more useful this lesson will become for me.

Even children teach their parents resourcefulness. For example, mine do not eat all vegetables except potatoes. Once I fried potatoes with zucchini. The older one ate it without batting an eyelid, and the younger one complained that “some potatoes are strange.” I said, "It's just a different variety, baby." And she ate everything. When dinner was over, I said to my husband, “Do you know why some potatoes are weird? Because they are zucchini. Hehe. This is the best trick of my parenting career so far.

4. Rejoice in every new day just because it has come

My daughter Eva is a hedonist in life. From childhood, she was pleased with completely ordinary things: a delicious apple, a walk in the park, riding a swing. With her, I began to appreciate simple little things more, to enjoy them and be distracted from problems.

Previously, I often spent internal resources and nerve cells on global experiences and concentrated on work even during rest. Thanks to Eva (almost) learned to switch. The daughter wakes up with a great mood, despite yesterday's sorrows. And it inspires me to find strength in myself and enjoy the new day simply because it has come.

And Eva loves to share. She does not spare toys, willingly gives them to other children. This led me to the idea that I can give away good things that I don't need. I even became involved in charity events.

5. Take care of your feet and go to bed on time

I am just entering the role of a parent, but I have already managed to change a little. My son helped me become more accurate. For example, I no longer leave any small items on the floor! First of all, in order not to harm the child, but it’s easier for my wife and me: the chance of accidentally stepping on something in the dark was reduced to zero.

We also learned to go to bed on time. This has been bumped into many times before. Let's say you watched a movie or read a little longer on the weekend, but in the end you didn't get enough sleep. The child always wakes up at 7 am, so we now adhere to a normal regimen, regardless of the day of the week.

6. Do not choke and remember your inner child

My daughter is now at the age when children give out pearls all the time. For example, she likes to chat before going to bed, she can do it until late, and then not get up in the kindergarten. So at some point I try to curtail conversations. And Lukerya says to this: “But the world can’t collapse if we still talk before going to bed?” And after my explanations about the regime, he calls me stuffy (yes, this happens). Then I think: “Really, why am I suffocating?” So she constantly teaches me not to forget about a child inside yourself and look at ordinary things from the other side, forgetting about the boring rules from an adult life.

Children need little more than love and care. They love us for who we are. Due to working remotely, I began to wear makeup and dress up less often. But as soon as I just put on a dress, my child immediately gives compliments: “Mom, you are the most beautiful, I want to be like you.” She sees more in me than I myself in the mirror, and it's very nice!