Are you sure of yourself? Perhaps some may say "yes", but the majority, however, as I replied in the negative. Becky Blalock, CEO Advisory Capital LLC, wrote bookBy means of which any of us can become more confident. We offer you the key tips in this book.
A few words before we begin. Leadership and confidence - is the ability with which we are born. Therefore diffidence and modesty - it is only a condition that we impose ourselves, and here is how to get rid of it.
Keep your thoughts under control
On average, a person has about 65,000 thoughts daily, and 85% of them - are negative. Most of these ideas - this fear and doubt, and that's fine. Blalock says it's a relic inherited from our ancestors. If we reach out over the fire, our brains give pain signal that we do not try to do it again. Defense mechanism that allows us to survive.
However, this protective mechanism sometimes works against us. Try to maintain the aspect ratio between the positive and negative thoughts. Here's what you need to understand that the thought - this is just a thought, they do not necessarily have to reflect reality.
Begin with the end
This advice is very important for me as a person, graduated from the university. Questions about what I'm going to do next and where to go to work, turn me into a dead end, but it should not be.
Knowing what you want - this is the key to success. Everything else should lead you to it.
Start your day with gratitude
"Think about it from the 7 billion people on Earth, many do not have the opportunities that you have," says Blalock. Therefore, waking up in the morning, think about the things for which you can be thankful for life and the people around you. If you start with that, then the whole next day will take place in a positive atmosphere.
An interesting fact about the comfort zone, if every day we will try to step out of it, it will expand. If not, it dries out, as well as our lives. Being trapped in his comfort zone - not the most pleasant experience, so do everything possible to get out of it.
We all have had the experience, when we did something frightening and repelling us, but in reality things are not so bad. Here are some example results Bacci in his book:
One day I visited a military base and was on the parachute tower, which make training jumps. I decided to try it, but when I was already buttoned up all the uniforms, I realized that I could not to do this, she turned to the military and said that I would not jump, because I have a small house child. One of the soldiers picked up and just pushed me from the tower leg. After landing, I realized that I grateful to him.
Not always there are people who can push us out of the comfort zone, so you need to learn to do it yourself.
Remember that dogs do not chase parked cars
Whatever you do, there will always be people who do not understand you, condemn and insult. Of course, if they say people close to you, you should listen and think, but do not drop everything just because of other people's conversations and criticism. People do not like change, and if you're me - it hurts them.
Be prepared to fall
The strength of a man is tested in his actions after the defeat. As soon as we rise after the defeat, we realize that it was the reason that did not work, and we can try again. The more attempts you make, the greater the chance that you will succeed.
find a mentor
Whatever activity you undertake, there are people who have already achieved success in it and can help you with advice and become an example to follow. Find these people and learn from them all that you can.
It is wise to choose mates
Your outlook, says Blalock - is the average horizon of five people with whom you spend the most time. So be careful in choosing your friends. Make sure that you spend time with people who inspire and motivate you into climbing higher and higher.
Do your homework
In almost any situation, training helps become more confident in yourself. Tomorrow, you will need to make a speech in front of many people? Speak it a few times myself. Record on tape and listen. Meet new people on the job? Find them and their organizations on the Internet, look at their profiles. If you are prepared, you are much more confident in myself. Internet allows you to do it extraordinarily simple.
Relax and do not forget about sports
Remember that we are biological organisms, and sleep, nutrition and sport help us to keep yourself in good health. And consequently, help to be more confident. Find a free half-hour three times a week and add sports in their lives. It is strange that in the list of priorities of the sport is often the last place.
Breathe!
This tip - the easiest. When breathing oxygen enters the body. The brain is enriched with oxygen, making us more cheerful. In this tip, there is also a hidden trick is controlling the breath, we know that we can control your body, and hence become more confident in their abilities.
Be prepared to look confident on the part of
You can terribly worried and afraid of something. But only within themselves. Outside, you have to exude confidence. If you understand that just can not get rid of fear, try not to show it to others people.
ask for help
Do not assume that people know what you want. Let them know about their desires and intentions. Ask for help from someone, you will be surprised at how many people who really love to help others. Of course, this is due to the fact that they are pleased that they ask for advice, but who cares?
Even if someone says "no", you can always ask another. However, based on my experience, this happens very rarely.
And you have a way to overcome self-doubt? My head does not climb anything other than the Board "Imagine the audience in their underwear."