What is "successful success" and how it prevents us from being happy
Miscellaneous / / October 19, 2021
It is better to focus on your own idea of well-being than on dubious attitudes from social networks.
You have probably seen all these wonderful people on social networks who drive expensive cars, buy apartments in the capital's skyscrapers, operate their own yachts and periodically offer to teach others how to achieve the same. Or they don't offer, but “just share” their achievements, accompanying them with hackneyed quotes and lengthy arguments about how important it is to work hard and not be afraid to take risks.
Over the past five years, all these rich, confident and happy people have formed something of a "successful success" caste. Although this very concept - "successful success" - is more often used on the WebMaster class "Successful success" in Russia like an ironic meme. And it is obvious that to all this deliberate display of wealth and achievement can't be taken seriously. Often this is an exaggeration, or even outright deception and an attempt to cash in on a gullible audience.
And nevertheless, even adults and seemingly thinking people "successful success" does not leave indifferent: it makes you nervous, be critical of your own results, and sometimes spend money on questionable courses, consultations or investments.
What does successful success look like?
Most often, people who make good money and talk about their life on the Internet do not want anything bad, do not shove wads of money and packages from expensive stores in the face of subscribers, do not give advice, do not impose their point vision.
And adherents of “successful success” behave in a completely different way:
- It is almost never possible to tell what they are doing at all. It is only clear that “they muddy startup"Or" develop the project, "but as a rule, it will not be possible to achieve specifics.
- They are very fond of lecturing others - they tell how many opportunities are around, how stupid it is not to use them, and what they are, adepts, great fellows, unlike everyone else.
- They love to show off luxury. Each post includes dinners in fancy restaurants, trips in business class cars, flights on private jets, trying on branded items, and more.
- They try to sell something, such as courses or blog ads, and sometimes offer to invest in their project.
- They don't show their product or detail exactly how they got there.
For example, the owner of a clothing brand usually writes about fabrics, dresses and shirts, the owner of a cheese dairy usually posts photos of happy goats and cheese heads. And only representatives of "successful success" are engaged in the sale of only certain "consulting services", and not tangible items.
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- Who are info-gypsies and how not to lose money on their courses
People who hold the secrets of "successful success" say that entrepreneurship is easy and accessible to everyone. It doesn't matter if you have education, knowledge, connections, money - you can “do business” even if you are a seventh grader.
And you can see an interesting trend. If initially the idea of “successful success” was promoted solely for a selfish purpose, in order to “sell” people some kind of webinar or lure them into network business, then over time there were those who just strive to keep up with the rest and show how cool they are and how good they are it turns out.
What is wrong with "successful success"
There is too much of it. And this is always a deliberate, hypertrophied demonstration of results, which, firstly, can enrageand secondly, it leads to a couple more problems.
Success only comes down to money
Harmonious and happy relationships, interesting hobbies, victory over diseases, big family and good friends, home, self-built and grown garden, read books, charity and helping others - all this is as if absolutely unimportant.
The cult of "successful success" kind of erases all this and convinces people that they can be proud of themselves only if they earn six figures. And if they drive a used car and dress in the mass market, then they are rogue.
At the same time, the fact that not everyone dreams of a penthouse in a skyscraper or a bag from a limited collection is ignored as non-existent. Although for happiness and comfort, people, according to their own estimates, needThe Russians called the monthly income necessary for happiness / RBC not at all millions, but 173 thousand rubles a month. And in general, happiness is associatedHappiness Index - 2021 / VTsIOM not with money, but with the family and its well-being.
Lack of success is blamed on the person
Anyone can live in the Maldives, drive a sports car and take a bath of champagne - happy and beautiful people from Instagram tell us. And if you don't live like that, then you are simply an impossibly lazy loser.
Different levels of health, income and education, different personalities and mental constitution, in the end, just luck or lack of it - all this does not matter. Zuckerberg could - and you can.
The race for success pushes you to do stupid things
And it’s okay if a person buys the courses he doesn’t need from a dubious “successful” businessman. But there are times when people are so dizzy with luxury and wealth that they give scammers significant sums of money. as an investment or, for example, they decide to quit their job, sell an apartment and start their own business with this money, because so advisedIn a Russian city sentenced to a fake millionaire from Instagram / Lenta.ru make some Instagram millionaire.
How to stop chasing success and live in peace
Here are some guidelinesStop Chasing Success. Seek Significance / Becoming Minimalist Joshua Baker, writer, author bestseller on minimalism "Less is more."
Define your values
Ask yourself what success is for you, why do you need money, what do you want to buy with it, and, accordingly, how much money you really need.
For example, it may turn out that behind the desire to make money on a super-expensive car, there is a thirst for attention and recognition. And this is an occasion to reflect on what other ways this very attention can be obtained: with the help of creativity, sparklingly funny posts or beautiful photos, really useful recommendations based on your knowledge and experience.
Or, say, success for you is the safety and health of family members. Then it is worth calculating how much a house in a safe area, security and service in a good clinic will actually cost you. And, perhaps, you will see that we are not talking about absolutely fabulous money, so it is not at all it is imperative to take risks selling property and investing in projects that promise impressive profit.
Develop different sides of life
Money, work, career and success in general are important, but they are not the only ones that have value. Hobbies, creativity, sports, charity and volunteering, communication with loved ones, taking care of the house - try to keep your attention in different directions, and not focus only on the thought of money.
Review your subscriptions
If someone on your feed is overly obsessive about reaching goals like “die but get rich "or" stop being a beggar, just take your butt off the couch ", perhaps you should press a button "Unsubscribe". Especially if such a person does not give any specific, practical recommendations.
Focus on your accomplishments
Usually the cult of "successful success" makes people feel like failures, and their results are considered insignificant. And this is an excellent ground for self-criticism and rash actions.
Therefore, it is worth reminding yourself more often of what you already have and how hard you have worked to come to this. You can make a list of all the reasons why are you great and lucky. And re-read it if you suddenly get a desire to compare yourself with successful people from social networks.
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