Irina Shvets
Social activist, director and founder of the training company, a novice blogger. It has twenty years experience of successful entrepreneurship and twelve years business coach.
The ability to speak in public - an essential skill a business person. Negotiations, meetings, presentations or meetings, sooner or later forced to go public. Why do some people feel insecure in public speaking? wall of complexes, Fears and prejudices comes between them and the stage.
In my work I have to persuade people to perform on stage, and I encounter their fears. Most often it is the fear of being a laughingstock. More people are afraid of responsibility, too much attention, conviction and even the evil eye. However, they can say "I am not afraid, I just do not like the stage!" And got a microphone, so addicted, that tear the regulations of the event.
The reasons for these fears often come from childhood. One example - the high school. I propose to move to a regular class. What can you see there? Pupil activist, doing the job of the teacher, excitedly pulls the arm, but the teacher does not cause it to the board. The teacher is not interested in this disciple, he wants to call someone who is not prepared for the report. When an untrained student will receive a deuce, the teacher gets to the person who tried to board, and God forbid, make a mistake this "upstart". Teacher and he can say: "Children," I "- the last letter in the alphabet!"
That children understand for themselves at such a lesson? Do not put out, and vysuneshsya - narveshsya for trouble. In adult life, this lesson is transformed into a dislike of public speaking and condemnation of those who love the stage.
Now let's be clear, what is the scene. This podium with microphone, around which people sit? And if without a microphone - it is the scene? And if there is no podium and microphone? Platform around which people sit - this scene? A playground around which people sit and stand - this is still the scene?
Let me move further. The site, which is just around twenty people are - this scene? And now - attention! If only one viewer came platform is still the scene? The fact of the matter is that at this stage we act every day when talking with children, partners, friends, relatives, co-workers and so on. We stand on the stage of life. And we already have experience in public speaking - left to stop them afraid and begin to love.
How can love unloved? Have you noticed that we do not often love what we do not get? And not just because it turns out that we have a little practice. To practice public speaking, start with a small audience. Appreciate each viewer.
The most sincere (and strict) audience - children. If your child understood it, and he was interested in, so it will please everyone in the audience. And it's not a primitive level performance, but in the clarity and liveliness, which we inevitably use when talking with children. I propose to take this formula to communicate to an audience of any age and status. So how do you get rid of fears and excitement of public speaking?
Use the excitement as a tool
The excitement is even useful, it helps to mobilize. Due to the excitement on the face appears red light that touches the audience. Your cause great excitement in the viewer empathy, because he is afraid to be in this situation. And if you are more honest and admit it, you can to support the hall safely rely. Just do not say stereotyped phrases, and tell anecdote or show a video in the subject and at the same time say: "Look, please, while I deal with anxiety," or "Well, tell an anecdote, while I deal with excitement. "
Visualize your performance
Do not write a long outline of his speech, and draw pictures that you hint about what it is necessary to say. This technique allows less fuss, do not look into the text, and not to wear sunglasses during performances.
Speak only about what are good
Remember exam on the subject that you knew and loved: you go at it as a holiday and not to worry. So-to-speak, go on holiday, since you understand the topic and you loved. And if you are asked to speak on the topic in which you do not understand, honestly report it and discard. This action will cause more respect than the speaker who does not realize he's talking about.
Speak each part of speech in the mirror
Speaking with every part of your report, you specify its duration. Writing yourself on camera, let look at the person you trust completely. Asked to comment on the content of your speech and gestures, facial expressions and words of parasites. Just do not overdo it. This needs to be done a couple of times. Otherwise, the scene you do not say what we planned, because the subconscious decides that you have already said.
Warm up before the show
Quietly knead legs - it can be done sitting, quietly opening and closing the foot. Just do not jump and squat, it go astray breath. On the scene did not run out, go in peace. Before the performance of chant with your mouth closed, as if promychite song, it will warm up your vocal cords.
See and not see
Ideal during a speech to look into the eyes of the viewer, but, as experience has shown, it scares novice speaker. Take a look at hairstyles spectators - they decide that you look them in the eye. And if you'll notice a malevolent glance, it does not mean that the listener does not like the story. People, when they listen carefully, as a rule, facial expressions do not control.
favorite technique
Repeat ten times: "I love the scene" - and it is sure you will hear and answer the same. I welcome this work, I'm afraid. When you talk about love, fear goes away. It is impossible to feel both love and fear. Try it!
Magic dressing to your speech
Love. Do not criticize. Respect. Do not humiliate or raise. Not to teach, and together make a wonderful discovery. Tell the truth. Bring joy. Be interesting. Be useful. Be concise.