Why it's okay to be sad about little things

In recent months, we have all had to give up many important things. Cancel birthday, graduation and wedding celebrations, reschedule trips and travel. Add to that the stress of work and anxiety about the health of loved ones, and depression seems inevitable.

As notedThat Discomfort You’re Feeling Is Grief thanatologist David Kessler, who studies grief, “the loss of normal living conditions, fear of economic consequences, lack of communication - it all hits us and we grieve. Collectively. We are not used to this feeling of universal sadness. "

Don't berate yourself for this feeling. “You can be sad because of your losses and at the same time have compassion for the sick, ”says psychologist Robin Gurvich. And there were many losses. Someone was left without work, someone without their own business, which took years to create. Someone has lost a sense of security, because they have to risk their health on duty. We are all trying to find our bearings in the new world, unlike our usual reality.

In this chaos, it's perfectly normal to feel sad about the little things and find joy in the little things.

Gurvich knows this well. She started working as a psychologist in 1995 in Oklahoma, just as a major terrorist attack took place. Then many parents considered it inappropriate to arrange holidays for their children, given what had happened. But, as she notes, for a child, a birthday holiday means a lot, even if at this time a general tragedy broke out.

The same is true for small joys and sorrows during an epidemic. They may not be commensurate with what is happening in society as a whole, but they are important for you personally.

However, if you feel that sadness and depression is with you all the time, don't try to deal with everything alone. What does not kill us does not always make us stronger. Depression and anxiety are certainly not worth ignoring. So if it's hard for you, if you feel that you are choking on everything that happens, ask for help.

What feelings have you been experiencing lately and how do you deal with them? Share in the comments.