Work vs personal life: how to find a balance?
Tips Motivation / / December 19, 2019
When a lot of work - personal life suffers. If too little work - personal life suffers because the problems start at work. Like it or not, and the balance is difficult to find and work in any case, it is an integral part of this vicious circle.
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Even more difficult to balance, if the work fell on hard times (the delivery of reports, a lot of tenders, etc.) or you decide to start your own business. Who works for himself, that knows that sometimes on weekends, holidays and vacation sometimes you have to forget for a year, if not longer. And if we can not properly talk to your mate about his work, there are still problems in his personal life. Inner torment will not help and will only exacerbate an already difficult situation. What to do? Psychologist Rachel CACM provides three simple tips to help you save not only privacy, but also work. So whether there are happy and busy family?
There. Just as in any relationship, in a relationship of "work-family" thing to talk with each other about everything. It is much easier to prevent an offense or a brawl than to clear up the mess.
Warn in advance of the "hard times"
it is extremely rare that these "hard times" never come to an end. If this is true, then it is time to think about changing jobs. Tell your partner that in a certain period, you will be virtually inaccessible because the need to do a lot work, because you have: the reporting period, advantageous tender, the launch of a new project, the "hot period" in your industry and the like. In this case, you do not just put before the fact: "I'm sorry, dear, I have the reporting period. I did not turn over to such and such on such and such. "Because the second person also has a job, and other equally important issues. Otherwise, it will look as if you absolutely do not care about your soul mate, and it works, and will cause a lot of negativity to detonate the main charge.
It is better to sit down and calmly discuss the upcoming case, at the same time thinking about how you can make this time even a little nicer. One head it's good, but two better.
Do not be afraid to ask for help
Though my mother and telling me that if I work with my husband, we will come to each other quickly and all the squabbles workers will be transferred to private life. Sometimes this is true, but if you keep balance and to share personal life and work, everything can be much more interesting, rainbow and more promising. In the end, are we worse than the Italians, who have a cozy family restaurant handed down from generation to generation and the whole family worked there? So that there is "before"! this is happening in a small town. And they work there because there is adopted or made, but because they like it.
Most, for some reason, thinks that it is better not to ship its second half operating concerns, saying "The less you know - sleep tight." In fact, it is often the other way around. Because when you see a loved one tired, angry and silent, becomes sad and sick at heart. Since I want to help but do not know exactly how. And you begin to gently, as if stepping through a minefield, to ask that as a yes. Of course, to pour out all the negative too, should not immediately, but still better to share what really grieved. You'll see, you get good advice, which will help solve the problem. And when a person is involved in an affair with you, he begins to realize how much work remains to be done and will not be offended and will try to help as much as he can.
If you are working in different jobs, most importantly do not forget about that and your mate may have difficulty or blockage at work (or at home with small children). And your wife or husband, too, sometimes need treatment and help.
Do not forget about pleasant things
"The devil is in the details" in this case can be paraphrased to say that "the devil is in the details". Yes, you're busy. You are very busy. So busy that even at the time, do not watch. And no one asks to call every hour and lisp on the phone or drop everything and run home at exactly 18:00. Enough at least one SMS or call, who will understand your beloved that you love to remember and miss. You like pinging each other - "Hi, I'm bored with you!" - "Hello, I was just thinking about you!" The relationship needs to be fed, or they will simply wither from hunger. And it certainly does not help you with your work. Because it is in any case temporary, but family time does not happen. It's like with children rent. Arrange joint picnics in the park close to work or meet up together at a dinner in the cafe. If you have one free day a week, try to spend it with your family as you would like. And even if the weather is not conducive to festivals, joint wallow on the couch, baking and eating cookies sometimes, too, are very useful for watching family films;)
Do not forget about your loved ones. Talk. Share your ideas and thoughts. And you'll see, they will fly, because support for loved ones - the most powerful.