8 things you shouldn't tell kids

1. Believe everything that adults say, simply because they are older, and don't ask questions. How will children develop personality and individuality if they are not allowed to come to their own conclusions? — AtLeast5

2. Making mistakes is bad. A child who has grown up with this attitude will not change his mind, even if he is given a lot evidence, simply because he is unwilling or afraid to admit that his original position was wrong. — oti890

3. “Do you think you feel bad at school? You don't even work yet. " "Don't make it up, it's nonsense." "What do you know about problems." Don't tell your children that their problems are small things. All this removes you from the child, makes him feel that his emotions are not important and he cannot count on your support - which means that it is not necessary to share something important with you. Problems don't have to be "grown-up" to be serious and important. — Fantalitymlp

4. “Does he pull your braids or call you names? So he likes you. " Such phrases are frighteningly close to "Hitting means loving" - and from early childhood they teach children that it is normal to expect cruelty from those who like them, and that violence is a way of expressing feelings. — mbar2004

5. “Are you being insulted? Don't react and you will be left alone. " In this case, only two outcomes are possible: either the child will continue to be bullied, or they will find another goal and switch to it. The sooner a child learns that it is possible and important to stand up for himself, and that his abusers are doing the wrong thing, the less likely he is to bully others as he gets older and stronger. — EGoldenRule

6. Complaints = ingratitude. I can't count how many times I was told to shut up when I complained about something, because I I should have been “grateful, because from birth I have a lot of things that others cannot and dream". Yes, I'm glad I wasn't born into a starving family somewhere in Africa, but that doesn't mean you have to stop and not try to make your life better. — II_Neo_II

7. Forcing children to hug / kiss relatives. All these "kiss auntie, you love her" often have nothing to do with how the child actually feels - but they are forced to act in a certain way. Because of this, he may have problems not only with communication, but also with personal boundaries. You can always invite your child to do this, so that he learns to distinguish in which situations such actions are appropriate. But you shouldn't force them to make physical contact. — NemoKhongMotAi

8. "He (a) is younger than you, do not swear." "You're older, behave accordingly." I think you should not give younger children (in the family, in kindergarten or at school) a sense of impunity. Of course, this does not apply to very young children, and we are not talking about violence and insults, but the idea of ​​"junior always right ”leads to alienation of the older child and can spoil and lead to poor behavior junior. — christt28

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