How to divide the expense in a restaurant

The most important rule

We will see exactly the different situations, but remember one universal and useful rule of thumb: if you invite someone, you are the host, so it is assumed that you will pay the expense. If we invited you, then you are considered to be, and most likely, you will not have to worry about the bill.

Dinner with friends

A large group of friends

When going to a large group of friends, it is best to each pay for itself. Usually, etiquette suggests that the amount equally divided among them all.

There is nothing wrong in the fact that each has paid only a portion, and the fact that they did all eat, can be folded. Then it does not matter, you just ordered a sandwich or spend on steak and wine, insults, no one there.

To the waiter did not have to count all over again when you will be going away, just be warned in advance that each require a separate check.

several people

If you are close friends regularly dine together, you can pay for the expense of the queue.

Or, if you have about the same level of income, it is possible to divide the amount equally. Then even if someone sometimes order a more expensive item, the score is still equal.

One on one

When the dinner the two men, the rules are simple. Or can pay for everyone, or someone pays a bill, kindly mention something like: "The next time you pay!".

All a bit more complicated if the man and the woman having supper. If we are talking about appointmentPay must always be a man (if only a woman did not insist. Then everyone pays his share).

If you're just friends, everyone can pay for themselves, or agree to pay on line.

Birthday

The exception to this rule is the celebration of a birthday or other important event (anniversary, promotion at work).

When friends are invited to the birthday dinner, they pay his bill. It is very comfortable. You simply divide all the additional amount.

Some, on the contrary, prefer his birthday treat others. If you want to invite friends to a special dinner, be sure to mention in the invitation that you are going to pay the bill for everything.

Dinner with the family

Parents

It all depends on age and family relationships.

When you learn more, you do not offer to pay the bill, if you do not have any special reason to please their parents.

Moreover, parents can insist to pay for you, even when you're already working. However, paying for the parents, you show your independence and financial stability. Most likely, they will not mind. They will feel proud, because now you are grown up and can take care of them.

In addition, the role played by more geography. If you live in different cities, and came to visit his parents, they are more likely to want to pay the bill. If they come to visit you, offer to pay for them.

parents of the couple

Although this situation fit the recommendations referred to above, there are some features that should be considered.

Women usually do not have to worry about the score when she has dinner with her husband's parents. From it will not expect it to pay for all or even for himself, unless she has dinner with them alone, without a husband. In this case, you should offer to pay for itself, even for parents spouse, if possible.

Men in this situation may be a bit tricky.

Of course, most parents pay themselves wives. You do not need every time to offer to pay for itself, especially if the joint dinners are a tradition.

But if you just started dating, and certain rules yet, offer to pay for themselves or for anyone.

Brothers and sisters

If there is some special reason, one can simply pay for itself. Certain rules of etiquette for this situation is not provided.

Uncle and aunt

All depends entirely on your relationship with a particular relative. If the relationship is close, for example godfather and godson, or you simply communicate often, older relatives are likely to offer to pay the bill. But do not count on it. Always offer to pay for itself.

Dinner with colleagues

If the event is held by your company, of course, you do not have to worry about the bill.

If you dine with colleagues at the same position, everything is simple: Each person pays for himself.

When you dine with the head, it can pay all at the expense of the company. This is a fairly common practice, but, nevertheless, it is always better offer to pay for itself.

How to argue about who will pay the bill

If someone reaches for a score, but you feel that you have to pay, say so firmly but kindly. If the other party insists can to meet the courtesy to ask again again. And do not forget to thank.