What have we learned in 2018: Layfhakera team - the lessons and discoveries

Important, not the idea and its execution.

1. We have almost all the answers you need. Mankind produces an incredible amount of information. Information Diet, which we wrote about five years ago, is now becoming fashionable again, and tomorrow will be a part of healthy lifestyle as jogging or counting calories. Under these conditions, are important competitive advantages of discipline, willpower, curiosity and openness to the new, rational skepticism. Knowledge which layers lie beneath his feet (for free!), Will be enough to achieve a lot in this life. You only need to learn how to select and apply the most necessary.
2. Some things better to learn from someone else's experience, some error is better not to commit himself.
3. The ability to express their thoughts so that it can not be misinterpreted, which occurs less often than you think. It is especially important to remember the leaders and the people, who are preparing to marry. 🙂
4. Important, not the idea and its execution. This year Layfhakere we did some things that were previously discussed only in theory, and realized that a) it was necessary to do for a long time, and b) it is only the beginning of a long journey.
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5. Physical health - a gift that you need to begin to appreciate as soon as possible.

Happiness within.

Imagine two nezazhonnye candles. Take one and try to ignite it another. It turns out? Of course not. Now light a single candle to light it and try another. What do you feel? Heat, light, comfort. Pleasant feeling, is not it?

This year, I realized one simple thing: you have to light the others. It is necessary to synthesize happiness within themselves and to charge them to the world. It is useless to look for happiness outside. It is inside. And if it is inside, so you do not need to demand happiness from someone else or wait for a word of thanks, no matter the opinions of others and do not need approval.

I am responsible for the happiness and no one else.

To get satisfaction, pleasure, pleasure from any activities can simply the process of their fulfillment. There's just me and my actions, and only on them depends on my feelings. Done well, conscientiously, with the drive, so that the heart aches, and chills running on the back - believe me, it will be noticeable.

Therefore, I work, I love, communicate, make gifts, travel, chatting foot - all this with the changed perception of happiness. The most beautiful thing in this whole story, when you do anything in this state, your words, actions, emotions, actions - they charge others. I do not know how it works. But it works. And it's magical.

Disconnect from work - this is normal.

I have a long working day. Absolutely. I'm constantly flying to other cities at the conference, working out of the office, remotely, anytime, anywhere. I start work at five in the morning and finish late at night. Because work Layfhakere very much - it's cool and inspiring.

This year I was invited to play squash. I was a child playing tennis and had long dreamed of returning to life a little sport. I went, I tried and fell in love. Now I go to workout three times a week and killed on the court for an hour or two. Sleep better, eat less, a little thin.

I was most bothered that I sometimes dream job. I could not disconnect from the important tasks even in a dream. Now I have 3-5 hours a week, when I only think about the rubber ball and how to have time to make it into the wall more difficult. Disconnect from work - perfectly. So do much better.

Any change is always for the better. Life - it is an experience.

During this year, I realized that any change, even the most positive - it's better than mark time. When you're comfortable, you get used to and do not want anything more, to stop the development and try to keep what is already there. This is mistake. Whether it is relationships, hobbies or work. We need to find the strength to make a choice and move forward.

No need to wait for some particular mark, or Monday of the month. No time limits - start whenever you want. Do not focus on the past, learn to let go of a situation and turn it into an experience.

It does not matter how often you make mistakes, and then what are the lessons learned from them.

Strive to be the best version of yourself. Everyday. Step by step. Learn to forgive, to find compromises and always go to his purpose. Look back, only to realize they do not need to do. In the rest - only forward. Live in the present and believe in the future.

You do not have to be perfect, and that's fine.

Perhaps the most important thing for me was the realization that there are no guarantees. And I love them. And, most importantly, I believe that you can organize your life, that everything will be OK, everywhere. You can get married and not be lonely. You need to eat right and exercise, and I definitely will be well. If I'm done, and to do everything well, I will love.

You can and should be here all this, but the result is not guaranteed. Rather, it is quite different in itself. Lonely you can feel even in the circle of loved and loving. Health problems are not always from poor lifestyle choices. Really love just like that. For no reason. Just because they love.

Everything happens because it happens, and I do not know the rules of the game. And this year I finally understood and accepted. And it's cool.

An important lesson was for me my disease. I'm so used to living at high speeds, changing at a furious pace of the city, the people and events that he believes his energy and multitasking anything for granted and did not appreciate. After the operation, I was not sharp forces. I just could not stand up. I could not even think. I completely dropped out of life and become helpless. This is scary. It passed. And now I am incredibly grateful to my parents who have laid in me the potential that allows me to live actively and as much as I want.

Discovery for me was that people like to help. I'm so used to doing everything myself and not rely on anyone's help, that being in the situation, I can not do anything, the most difficult thing was to start asking friends and not so loved ones to help to me. So. It is not true that every man for himself and all spit on you. Yes, all the millions of their own problems and their own lives. But the people are kind and was originally about love. They are happy and pleased to help, if possible. If it does not need to break your schedule, to endure some inconvenience, and so on. And many are willing to even it. People are beautiful.

And yet, as follows from the above. Discovery was that I should not be 24/7 fun, happy, good, strong, a good mom. There are times when it is not so. And that's fine. It's about life. It's like rain, without which no grass grows.

Meditation - a cure for many problems.

The biggest opening of the year for me has become a meditation. I used to think that this practice has some sacred meaning, and if the string up, then you can go to the astral plane. But it turned out it is not so. I meditated for two months and found that this activity can solve perfectly ordinary everyday problems. It helped me to concentrate more on the work, be more productive and deliver me from the stress. The last way, I noticed after the holidays, during which interrupted practice. In general, meditation - my main love of the year.

If you are afraid of something, the only way to stop - do it as often as you can.

Reading another book about the brain, I found an interesting theory. Responsible for emotions amygdala or amygdala, and for the evaluation of information, decision-making and action - the prefrontal cortex. When we are afraid and do not do anything, the amygdala takes over, and what it does most often, the stronger the fear and difficult to overcome. The only way to deal with fear - to act. Then, due to the prefrontal cortex to strengthen and help defeat the amygdala. This here is the confrontation.

Over the past year was marked by the fear of a new weight in weightlifting. I'm scared all the time, as soon as the weight comes in the snatch 30 kg, and in taking, and the clean and jerk - for 50, though I have never, do not cover the pole. To overcome fear is very difficult, sometimes I just throw the bar with the new weight without even trying to lift it. And then I worried.

Usually it happens when there is a clear inner spirit: everything, I'm not leaving here until you do. Then I scroll detail in the head as do the capture or jerk this weight - it helps a lot. Still sometimes imagine that I have to do with the big weight, and this weight - lightweight, easy intermediate point, only a 2.5 kg more than last year, - garbage! It triggered one time in three, but still. I recently made a breakthrough, and the capture of 45 to 60 push. Still scary and painful, but rates are rising.

I think it will work in all areas of life: detail scroll in the head script to tune in... and do!

Keep an eye on your health. The sooner you will understand this, the better.

Stiffness, promiscuity in food and alcohol made me thirties like a tortured life of forty belly. Not to say that has begun to move because of the outbreak of health problems, just once again I saw himself in the mirror and realized that he did not want to be that way.

I caught on the eyes Challenge with a hundred push-ups a day, and I decided to pass it. Thanks to the six-year old son, who wrung out with me, I passed the test to end. Fundamental changes in the past month, of course, did not happen, but it gave me an incentive to move forward. The next step was the program of the 100-day street workout, beginning I started to follow diet and completely refused alcohol.

Until the completion of I left a couple of weeks, but the changes seen in my life right now. Weight decreased by almost 10 kg, I began to look better and feel healthier. But the most valuable of all these changes, I think develop the habit of exercise. I do not want to abandon it, and plans to improve further.

Clearly specify its goals and gradually go to them rather than go with the flow.

Actually, this year I had a much duller previous. In 2017 I traveled a lot in Russia has been on the force for two months. In 2018 exactly the opposite: never leave the country.

But no, it's not so sad: I finally started doing what I really like - write. I worked for almost four years in PR, but when she returned to Moscow in early 2018, I realized it was time to change something. It sounds corny, but it was. About anything I do not regret it (and hopefully will not).

In fact, this year - a transitional stage. Because the next scheduled many important events, one of which - a move to another country. These 12 months were needed to prepare everything in time and.

Allow yourself to stay in the comfort zone, but do not get stuck in it.

Homer Simpson once said, "I'm not trying something that has not been tried." In my environment it has become a local memchikom to denote extreme tedium when you order in a restaurant is the same, look the same and do not throw myself no calls.

This year has been nervous and full of events. And the approach of "I'm not trying something that has not tried" sudden load is 100% to deal with stress, grounding and understanding for what you are here at all is still not thrown everything and ran away into the sunset.

In 17 years of effective driving force becomes something that you have nothing to lose. At 30 you always have something to lose. Therefore, you can not drop everything and burn bridges. You have to save them too, and mental health. And comfort zone - it is not an end to progress is the island, where you freeze running across the road.

So Organize your comfort zone, there is a sofa set, order pizza and do not hesitate to go there sometimes, no matter what anyone said.

It is necessary to do what he likes.

This would seem obvious and even trite. But somehow I was surrounded by the history of the years of creative people (musicians, writers, artists) who have turned their hobby into a job, and then to hate this occupation. Now to me it seems that all these stories came up with those who do not have the heart to find something of their own.

Forced break from work for a month (unfortunately associated with a fracture) gave me the opportunity to devote himself to just writing articles and reviews. And then I looked at the office workers who live exclusively "from the weekend until the weekend," and I realized I did not want to engage in their favorite works only fitfully in the spare time.

The matter to which you devote each weekday, should be fun, and nothing else. Although, of course, tired of it has not been canceled. But the result will always justify their efforts. That's why I stopped doing boring office things, and now I write every day.