5 tips to help you overcome the inherent limitations

Self-confidence can be compared to an iceberg ice, which floats in the ocean. We often think that we need to get on top of this there is a swinger and hoist the winning flag with the inscription "I did everything just fine." We really believe that there is a vertex of the iceberg, and consciously strive for it.

Here lies the biggest mistake: at the iceberg of our innate idealism is not the top, as opposed to an iceberg in the ocean. We are just ordinary people, and rarely do anything without a single blot.

However, we have a property to inspire myself to strive for an abstract ideal. When we do not reach it often leads to despair and frustration, from which and to depression near. And there are internal barriers.

Internal barriers - a taboo that we set for ourselves voluntarily, without even realizing sometimes that they are the main obstacles on the path to success.

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Get rid of them and uproot subconscious belief in false ideals help some useful habits.

1. Monitor your speech

The first warning signal indicating that you have some internal barriers that may become your speech. Watch for it. It is likely that you often repeat phrases such as "It's impossible" or "I will not work." When you feel fear or uncertainty in some question, they often slip and show that there are things that hinder you and hold you back. Try to pay attention to it yourself or find someone who would inform you of the annoying reservations.

2. Look for obstacles that stand in the way

You feel stuck on a certain segment of their lives? And maybe there's something in your past that does not give to live in peace? Or are you on something too emotionally react?

A little reflection will not hurt anyone. It is necessary to delve into yourself, find things that bother you and you would like to change, and understand why you can not move on. This is a very good way to determine the starting point, which was the starting point for the emergence of internal barriers.

Schatten has identified three main areas which are most often serve as a source of all inhibitions:

• Success. Do you believe that the need to understand absolutely everything, and certainly better than anyone, and more - all to achieve on their own. None of these requirements is not achievable.
• Everyday life. Many people believe that their sacred duty - to make other people happy or to perform social roles imposed by society. You may have the feeling that other people's interests are more important than your own. Sometimes you can even donate them, so as not to condemn in others. This path is known to false.
• Owning something. It's a vicious circle: you are sure that you will be much happier when you reach a certain position or will acquire thing that really want. After that, your life definitely will have to be better, but it remains the same. You spend energy trying to achieve the impossible.

3. stop doubting

Your internal barriers can be formed in early childhood. Enough time has passed to ensure that they are firmly entrenched in your mind, and now they are difficult to eradicate. Once you find such barriers, try to cope with them. Stop doubting, though it sounds today like something from the category of fiction. Give yourself a break from the constant uncertainty, stop drive themselves into a corner.

If you do well in any way does not work, consider himself a hero of a film, which is necessary to overcome difficult obstacles. Once you're a little dim your inner voice, which is disgusting squeaks that you have does not work, ask yourself: "What would I have done in his place?" And the answer there appear!

Andrew D. Vittmen (Andrew D. Wittman), the expert team building

When you put yourself in the position of an outsider and a stranger, your brain starts to work and look for possible solutions to the existing problems, is not bound by any prejudices.

4. Set yourself ambitious goals

Let's say you have set for yourself targetWhich in that no matter what you want to achieve. Once you have planned all the steps, allowing her to get over it, set another over-ambitious target.

Psychologist and PhD from New Jersey Patricia Farrell (Patricia Farrell) is convinced that this trick will help you a lot faster to move in the right direction. It is designed to get you out of your comfort zone. You can not achieve the desired immediately, but will work hard to get closer to the result. The more you work, the more will begin to feel confident in yourself and in what you are doing. This will help you to forget about self-restraint.

5. Forget autopilot

We have a general idea of ​​how the world should be, ideally. And the more specific they are, the easier it is to live and to monitor themselves and the world.

Schatten Andrew (Andrew Shatté), Ph.D.

All of these internal barriers make of you a zombie. If you are on autopilot, allowing them to manipulate you. When you begin to realize it and fix the frame, you are released internally.