20 things to let go to be happy

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1. the approval of others

What is the difference, what they think about you? If you are happy with your decision, you made the right choice, no matter what others might say. Imagine how much energy you spend trying to read the thoughts of others, and still can not guess.

Listen to advice - please, but do not let others decide how you live.

2. Anger and resentment

Anger destroys the inside, so learn to put up with annoying people. This does not mean that you can allow others to use you, but would not bring up the scandal. Just have to deal with hate, resentment and pain that remains inside. Remember: the one who angers you controls.

Some relish the insult like a gourmet meal, and it does not lead to anything good. Such feelings are hurt only you, and not to those to whom they are directed.

3. The image of the ideal body

How often do you conduct on the trends of the beauty industry, the opinion of your family and friends? Body - is the little that really belongs to you. Who, if not you, to decide how it should look? What matters is how you feel. The rest - the ashes.

4. Dreams of a perfect partner

Each head has a set of qualities that should have an ideal partner. But life usually spits on these lists.

To be happy, you have to love someone with all your heart, feel easy and comfortable with him, and he must accept you for who you are. Coincided at least the first two points - excellent, you find what you need.

5. Ideal life

Just as there is no perfect partner, there is no ideal destiny. Life - this is what you are putting into it, so if you are not willing to work seriously and make an effort, so you have decided to be miserable.

You can create your own world, the most beautiful of all worlds.

6. Wealth as an end in itself

Many people live with the idea of ​​becoming a millionaire. This is a good goal, but to achieve it will require a lot of work.

Do not focus on large amounts. The main thing - to find a business that will be your passion, and self-realization, then the money will come.

7. Hope for good luck

Do not wait when you are lucky. Appreciate your life and be thankful for what you already have.

8. excuses

Excuses - this is your attempt to not to feel by shit, when you once again not to do that long ago should have made.

9. Thoughts about the former

You broke up, and that was the reason. Reminiscing about his former love, do not think about the person, and the lessons that have presented to you a life. Do not focus on the feelings to someone who will never be with you. It will only destroy a new relationship and make you suffer.

10. stubbornness

It is hard to admit that you are somewhat mistaken. It's just that other people had more knowledge or ability to do something right. So stop resisting, just accept it as a fact. The less you have stubborn, the more you are open to something new. Think about how much you can experience and feel, if you try to understand and accept someone else's opinion but his own.

11. procrastination

Stop transfer tasks for tomorrow, live today. If you constantly put off some business, think about whether it is worth to take on him? Maybe it is you do not need? And if you want, then take him right now: a constant procrastination causes feelings of guilt and stress. Should I suffer so much?

12. baggage of memories

You should not pull a baggage of memories, especially about past relationships. If you are very fond of someone or thought that love, will subconsciously compare it with the new man, which is in no way to blame.

Setting the stage for a new relationship, get rid of the old ones. Not only in life but also in your head.

This is true for falling in love, and for all relations in general: with friends, acquaintances and colleagues.

13. Negative

Thoughts and words materialize. So change your attitudes to "everything will be fine." Nothing is impossible for a person who believes in it.

14. conviction

As the world - it is a projection of our thoughts, we know that all the gossip about us (because they themselves do it). A vicious circle: you will not be able to perform board number 1, that is, not to think about someone else's opinion, if you do not stop to criticize other people.

Just remember: you have not been in their shoes, even if you think you are. Each head cockroaches, but in life - their circumstances, so that tie.

15. Envy

Social networks make people unhappy. We look at their former schoolmates and friends and greening of envy, feeling worthless.

The next time you catch yourself in this sense, think about this: "I'd like to be a person who envy?" Surely not, you also love yourself (even if somewhere very deep down).

You look at someone else's life, who does not know. You can not even imagine what this person thinks. Maybe when he dives into the pool of his private home, he hates himself or something wildly afraid of? Maybe you're walking through the woods sunny day, having much more fun than him, basking on the white sand in the Maldives?

Enough to look at the others. If you are well now, then, all right. If not - do so that was good.

16. Uncertainty

Do happy people tend to have a sense of self-worth (not to be confused with a bloated ego). They are happy with themselves and radiate confidence.

There is no reason to doubt yourself. If you have traits that you hate, there are two ways: take them or change. In every man there is everything at once: the libertine and puritan, and deceitful bastard, and a gentleman. You choose what you will be.

17. Dependence on others

Nobody will fill the emptiness inside you. No one will make you a positive and self-sufficient, if you are unhappy fate. To share their happiness with someone else, you must first be happy yourself. So do not even hope that your success in the hands of others. Only in your.

18. Past

Live in the past - then burying her real. Mistakes were - well, who did not have them? Arrange your memories a big funeral, remember only the lessons and live on.

19. Total control

Sometimes you need to just relax and let life take its course. You can not control everything, and have to live with it. Otherwise, you will constantly nervous, but in the end still does not change anything. Simply, there are things that are beyond your control. They should be taken for what they are.

20. expectations

People think that others must meet their expectations. That's bullshit. No one you do not have to, as you do not have anything. No one should be polite, attentive, careful, honest, and nice, clean, after all. Nothing should be perfect, delightful, memorable, but it can be. If it is - great, if not - you do not get upset. Be ready to accept whatever life sends you, and will gain happiness.