Time management in simple terms. Always say "no"

Productivity / by admin / December 23, 2019

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Always say "no." This is worth all the time-management.

Famous Pareto rule: 20% of efforts gives 80% of the results. Is it not about to say "no" to the remaining 80% of cases of garbage?

Or third skill Covey: "Important things do first." Is it not about to say "no" minor tasks that do not lead to our larger goals?

Infodieta or when we give up TV and social networking. It is not about the ability to say "no" empty temptations that surround us?

This is the first article of the series "Time management in simple terms."

Take notes. Write down all the things and all their worries. Mark asterisk important.

What you will see at once? What to do ALL things will never be.

That's just stupid - NEVER you will not have zero problems. You can not cram all their problems, dreams, thoughts in the 24-hour day.

What to do? Perform only important for your business. And put a knife rest.

Saying 'no' is not easy

It is not in human nature - to give up. I recently read a book Cialdini "Psychology of influence". He says that a man likes to keep options open. Why so many lovers mumble "do not know" or "maybe" instead of clear "yes" or "no."

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But we live in the XXI century, where only one Internet provides a sea of opportunities for entertainment, business and information retrieval.

The more successful you are, the more you fray opportunities and offers. It is therefore important to be able to say "no" with a light heart.

But what do we see? Many books promoted: "Wait for my chance", "Get ready to grab your luck by the tail," "Do not think - act!". All this leads to the fact that we are beginning to grasp at any offer, to go to all appointments and meetings.

And yet there are people who pathologically can not say "no." They always agree. Even if your heart and mind say "no", they say "yes." And what is the result? Schizophrenia! When a person is actually sabotaging the cause in which he himself had written.

I myself was such a "yes-man." Learn to say "no", I had to hear that I am for the last three years:

ungrateful;
conceited;
dull (HS);
pessimist;
egoist.

Neither the time-manager will not escape these accusations.

But what if I do not want to hurt other people's failure?

Do not be afraid to offend someone refused.

Much worse, when you say "yes", fit into the business, but they is not trying to not show interest. Is not there a hidden treachery? First to say "yes", and then do everything possible to fill up the venture?

Would not it be more honest to give up at once?

Especially because your "no" is not in the style of "Go to hell," but rather in the style of "I'm sorry, my friend."

Explain the reasons. If you have big goals, then the reasons for refusal are no problems. Adequate person understands.

But the next time you say "yes," even if it is one out of ten times, one will know that he can count on you for real! You will have a reputation that you can trust.

How to learn to say "no"?

The first thing you should make a list of your goals for five years, one year, one month, one week. The electronic format or hard copy - is not so important.

Without such a list is difficult to determine what to say "no", and what to say "yes." Still no hunting "provtykal" chance of a lifetime))

I fell off a new opportunity? Sentence? Request? Just look at your list of goals and values. Is it me advance my goals?

How, then, rest, friends, relatives and other pleasures of life?

Yes, plenty!

Recreation, entertainment, communication is very important. They allow us to recharge your strength.

I often wrote about it:

Constant fatigue? Laziness? Depression? Try it!
All workaholics make this barely noticeable error.

It's not about to give up the fun and relaxation. The thing is that we often harnessed in some tedious work which does not bring us closer to our goals. Neither fun nor good.

Have you never participated in something like that?