15 signs that you are a mature person
A Life / / December 19, 2019
1. Ability to introspection
You can look at life through the eyes of an outside observer, take a neutral position, to assess the actions, thoughts, emotions. This approach allows us to better understand their strengths and weaknesses and decide where to go next.
2. self-control
You first think and then do, you can calculate the feasibility and consequences of actions. Infantile man lives momentary emotions and desires. Mature - not disrupted in the family, it is able to remain silent if a conflict is brewing stupid.
3. Thanks
you have learned be grateful for what happened to you and what you were able to escape. You appreciate the people who make you happy, and do not take them for granted.
4. open-minded
You are not only in words, but in fact ceased to evaluate a book by its cover, and people - to form and stereotypes. Teenage maximalism no longer interfere to realize that the world is not black and white, others may be different from you and remain good, but the correct view is sometimes there are some.
5. The alignment of the boundaries
You understand that in a relationship is acceptable for you - love, friendship, work - and how far you are willing to go, what to sacrifice in order to save them. And if someone breaks beyond the limits, You will act, talk, and do not pretend that nothing has happened and all that live.
6. Stable moral norms
You consider your actions than through the prism of "what people think" or "but if someone sees." Mature man defined the moral boundaries. From wrong actions it warns is not the certainty of punishment or possible conviction and a clear awareness that this is unacceptable. Therefore, it does not make questionable things for themselves, even if no one sees and learns.
7. A responsibility
You are responsible for words and actions that do not promise the impossible, not to shift to other solutions. A mature person realizes that his quality of life - this is entirely his a responsibility. External circumstances can make their own adjustments. But if you keep complaining that everything is bad, but do not do anything to change the situation, then you are probably an infantile personality, rather than a victim of circumstance.
8. self-acceptance
you have learned accept yourself so, what is with all the advantages and disadvantages. This does not mean that we should cease to improve and correct defects. But it is necessary to learn to be pleased with himself now, at any stage of the path to the ideal, because the road has no end, and disappointing to spend all my life, hating and blaming ourselves.
9. Patience
You are no longer only rely on instant results, and have learned to wait for the fruits of their labor. That some things happened, not enough to want them - you need to work hard. And even that does not guarantee that you will achieve your.
10. Independence
You understand that no one should solve your problem. A mature person does not act at random in the hope that someone will swim out of the abyss. Pull money on trinkets and family leave without eating, thinking that the parents or friends just settle some money - it's infantilism. Correct behavior so that in the event of a problematic situation was an opportunity to solve everything yourself - the act of a mature man.
11. Ability to learn
Learn from your mistakes, but not all. A mature person draws from the lessons of failure, recognize similar situations and does not allow for repeated failures.
12. Constructive engagement with reality
You do not run away from problems, do not close your eyes to them, do not think that they are somehow dissolve themselves. A mature person accepts difficulties and looking for ways to cope with them.
13. Honesty
In most cases, you do not consider it necessary to lie. On the way to maturity, you have surrounded yourself with people that this is not required: it is not necessary to wear a mask and romance. If a lie still need to mature a person is aware, for what he does. Trying to protect a person's feelings with lies, and the desire to manipulate it - not the same thing.
14. Ability to build relationships
A mature person realizes that he is not the center of the universe, therefore, is able to build equal partnerships, in which not only takes but also gives. He is able to sympathize with, support, pay attention to and show sincere interest, and accept help without feeling vulnerable.
15. Realistic-optimistic view of the world
You really think about the situation, but do not lose faith in a better and presence of mind. A mature person realizes that good things can not occur continuously, there are also failures. But the black bars to an end, especially if you do not give up. However, pessimism and defeatism may lead to the fact that the forces will not be happy even in really bright days.
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