10 things that everyone around you better understand

1. Personal life

"You have so many years, and still not married / not married? It's time to have children, and then in old age no one will file a glass of water! "

If you do not live on a desert island, you probably often encounter people who strive to organize your personal life. They are happy to suggest whom to meet, when to marry, what to give your partner and when to have children. And if you have anyone there is no relationship, you look as if you are not in order.

It is easy to give out advice when it is not about your life and how you feel. But everyone is different. The fact that one seems a very sensible idea, not necessarily suitable for another.

In addition, not all counselors sincerely care about you - some just want to look by experienced experts in cardiac cases. research

Try to convey to the advisors that not all of their recommendations may be useful to you. If they stubbornly refuse to understand this, just ignore. In the end, you know best how to live.

2. Parenting

"What's your cute baby! And he had begun to speak? Oh, something you do not do so. Our in his age already read Shakespeare! In original. By memory".

Scientists from the University of Michigan calculatedMom shaming or constructive criticism? Perspectives of mothersThat an average of 6 out of 10 young mothers faced with unsolicited advice of relatives on how to raise children. 42% of women admitted that the criticism of others causes them depression and suggests that they can not cope with the parental burden and would be better if they were not to have offspring.

Not particularly optimistic, right? Even if your friends and family are sincerely willing to help with education the child is likely to concern them will only cause you anguish and uncertainty in the forces. In the West, for unwanted advice of this kind have even invented a special term mom-shaming (mom - «Mother», shame - «shame»).

Each child's own characteristics. And even if your friends get the perfect children, it does not mean that they know how to bring up your.

So if you are not a professional advisor such as a pediatrician Benjamin Spock, its recommendations can skip past the ears.

3. Hobbies

"Computer games - for the children in the world are so many interesting things besides them!"

The world is indeed a lot of different activities. Someone model airplane glue or making figurines made of polymer clay. Someone is jumping with a parachute or sent to swim to the canoe. Others are running, airsoft or crochet. But there are always people who share hobbies into normal and abnormal, male and female, to the worthy and unworthy.

The fact that one person is interesting, exciting, and even holy, another ceremony may seem like a waste of effort and money. Do not listen to what they say about your hobby. It is better to find those who will share it with you.

4. Education

"You go to the philologist? Soon you will cry out, "Free Cash!" "

Sometimes parents are too involved in choosing a profession for their children. As a result of yesterday's student, did not come to where want to unlearn a course or two and throws. And in the worst case - receives a diploma, is arranged on a specialty and then the humpback on unloved work only because five years ago, listened to too pushy relatives.

As adults and independent, some think about changing the profession, but then doubts: "Is not it too late already retrained? "Of course, never too late, but time and money spent on the first degree, will not return.

So do not listen to others when deciding what to be that to be able to learn and how. It is a choice that will affect first of all your life.

5. Finance

"How much, how much is your new computer? Yes, that kind of money, you can buy a car to travel to the country. "

Some people love to count money. Especially strangers. They are not haunted by the thought that you live in a rented apartment and still dare to buy a motorcycle - the dream of your childhood. They are ready to infinity torture you talk about what you can not keep budget, Save for something really important or postpone their retirement.

Perhaps they are right, and even your money, you can find a more worthwhile use. But not solve them.

You can limit myself in everything, to open a bank retirement account and hope that sometime become gray and wise man and no one would dare criticize your spending out of respect to age (or, at least, everything will be blamed on old age marasmus). However, it is likely that money will not bring you such joy. What's the European tour, korvalola to buy.

Of course, squander everything to the penny and go into debt is not necessary. But also in spending on something that brings pleasure right now, there is nothing to be ashamed of.

6. Food

"What do you mean you do not like brawn? Everyone loves jelly! Eat, and then some bones but skin. "

If you are at least occasionally are present at dinners with relatives, you probably faced with such situations. You are trying to feed that you do not eat, and sincerely offended when refused.

Such people can only say one thing: the taste and color of comrades there. If you can not stand the "right" dumplings, which are prepared by your grandmother, and only digest its "wrong", then eat them. And gently suppress unsolicited attempts to feed you.

Separate conversation - when food try to control "for the sake of your own health." It is advised to go on a diet or, on the contrary, there is more in the hope that after all the conversations you begin to meet the same strangers concepts of the norm.

Remember: to recommend to you that, how much and when to eat, can only be a professional nutritionist. If your not one of those advisers - is a good reason not to listen to them.

7. Health

"The doctor is not right. You do not need pills to spoil the stomach, better drink tea and eat onion peel! "

People's faith in the healing in folk medicine, homeopathy and other dubious methods indestructible. Apparently, in the modern man says, still mythological consciousness, We have inherited from the ancestors. They, too, believed that the plantain, a tambourine and urine will remove any ailment.

In our time, the disease has no cure faith, a sign and ritual, and science. But they rely on it not all. Many believe: "These doctors know nothing about! We know better! "

If unsolicited advice about the appearance or hobbies are relatively harmless, like the following recommendations can cost you health, and in severe cases and life. And not just you.

The only advice on health, which should listen: "Go to the doctor at last!"

8. Appearance

"New haircut you are not talking. Tattoos?! Horrible".

Appearance - is the first and most important topicThe Annual Bullying Survey to discuss others. No wonder: meet on clothes. And in most cases, escorted her too.

However, to criticize appearance other indecent and even cruel. If a person has a problem with self-esteem, that such statements may just finish it.

If you find yourself in such a situation, remember: Beauty - a subjective concept. Someone thinks attractive fair-haired people, someone - brunettes or redheads. Someone to the liking of the athletes, someone - a cheerful and charming tolstyachki. What seems ideal for one, does not fit the other. Not please everyone.

body shape, clothing, hairstyle, tattoos - a private matter. It is not necessary to discuss the appearance of others. And listen, if you are discussing.

9. Sport

"A man should engage in sports, to be strong. A woman should not swing, and it will be like a man. "

Talk to people, completely confident in their own right, not easy. And if the athlete and fan HLS in front of you - even more so.

Sports - that's fine. But there is no better way to cause an aversion to any occupation than to convince a man that he should love him. People are more willing to do things that are not required.

10. Art

"An adult will not watch movies about men who wear shorts over the tights. And the music you are listening to, just terrible. "

You love rock and relatives think of your idols messengers of the devil. You read out the fantasy, and friends laugh at these "children's fairy tales." You can periodically cry watching some touching drama, and associates say a leisure unworthy of a "real man" and pointedly questioned your mental stability.

Opinion about what should be considered and not considered art, all different. For some, for example, it is an ordinary urinal by Marcel Duchamp. At "Sotheby's" one of the copies was estimated at $ 1.7 million. If even the toilet can be considered a work of art, a book of your favorite author or album you like the group, too, can be entered in this category.

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