To say "I love you" - not enough
A Life / / December 19, 2019
We are so used to say "I love you" that already do not understand how it is possible in another way to express their feelings. Below we will explain how.
"I love you" - that these words, we are accustomed to express their warm feelings for the person. However, if this is not enough and there are better ways to tell people how much you appreciate and love?
Harriet Lerner, first of all a loving wife, and only then, Doctor of Psychology, conducted some research about what should replace the three most famous words in the world. The results will surprise you.
Several years ago, Harriet realized that she and her husband stopped to praise each other. They still recognize each other's feelings and said: "I love you." Do you think that's enough? It turned out that there is.
You probably know that children of all ages should be encouraged for their good behavior. It is not enough just to say, "You're the best" or "I love you so much." Children need to hear: "Well done, that shared his toys" or "I think you did a very brave to tell others that you feel when he did not call you on the day of birth."
When Harriet realized that she wants the same praise from her husband, she first felt a little silly. We say that if you are a confident person, then you do not need praise from others. It turned out that this is not so. So she decided to adopt the habit and began to use it to communicate with her husband.
It began a few months of unusual experiments. Instead of once again to tell her husband the phrase "I love you", Gerriet praised him for his individual actions. "You're a very funny joke at a party," or "You were very tasty pancakes." And what is interesting: the more Harriet praised her husband, the more she began to appreciate and respect it. Win all round.
To say "I love you" - this is very important, but do not express these words all the feelings and emotions. Praise my soul mate and to respect all its achievements. And see what happens.