How to become the most miserable person in the world

Most people are about as happy as they decide to be happy.
Abraham Lincoln

The debate about what is happiness and what is necessary to achieve it, probably began immediately after the appearance of the first man, and attracted the best minds of mankind. The most outstanding scientists, philosophers, writers expressed on this subject, and each of them has its own formula for happiness and how to achieve it. Most of them believe that our happiness depends very little on external circumstances, and motivated primarily by the internal state of man and his relation to reality. Maybe that's why the rating of the happiest countries so stubbornly did not want to be superimposed on the GDP growth rate, and barefoot Aborigine, rumba shake a leg on the beach, it looks much better than in the expensive prosperous European car?

Very often it is by our actions, deeds and thoughts depends on our sense of inner happiness. We really want to be happy, but they involuntarily each time reproducible steps that lead to the opposite result. We've put together for you a list of specific advice, which should never be followed if you want to wake up in the morning with a smile.

1. Complain (no matter what)

One of the most simple but effective rules unfortunate man. Always complain, everyone and everything. You can start with the weather that is too cold or hot, then go to the neighbors, do not give you sleep or vice versa, suspiciously quiet living, then complain about the quality of products, prices, government. Inexhaustible subject for complaint - family life, parenting, work. If you are diligent enough, that their complaints will be able to quickly achieve the title of the most miserable person in the world.

2. Avoid solving problems (and suffer)

Everyone in life there are difficult situations, but poor people should be avoided in any way to solve them. And at the same time quietly suffer. If you have a stomach ache or teeth, then in any case do not go to the doctor, it is better hassle myself with thoughts that you have an ulcer, cancer, pregnancy, periodontal disease, scurvy - and all at the same time. All kind express an extreme degree of desperation and hopelessness. Skillfully combine it with the complaints from the first point, in this case of an accident condition is reached much faster.

3. Compare yourself with others

Sometimes, all your efforts go down the drain, and life is still arranged as needed. You have a good family, an interesting job, a higher salary. But in this case, do not despair - there are a hundred percent reason to become unhappy. You only start to compare themselves to be more successful, rich, interesting acquaintances. Or friends, it does not matter. The main thing is that very quickly you feel that all your successes - dust, vanity and self-deception. In fact, you no one to call you in any way. And overtake you endless misery of knowing that.

4. Worry about what has not happened yet (and may never happen)

If you have to any unpleasant or important event, you have to start worrying about it as soon as possible. Start training in the implementation of this paragraph may, for example, worrying about the visit to the doctor in the next month, you can then go to the unrest on a holiday in Next year, a gifted instances can even be sad about the future end of the world or a gradual decay of the Sun (depending on the religious preferences).

5. Do what you do not like

Some of this advice is given with difficulty. Others on the contrary - they find it perfectly natural. First study the unloved profession (for parents), then long-term seat on the unloved work (for money), lying in bed with the unloved person (for children) and so on, so forth - it is necessary to start and line up the chain of unfortunate life itself a.

6. unhappy family

One of the most effective ways to become unhappy - is to have a negative, irritating, absorbing your energy relations in the family. Unhappy people never see that side, after which their relations are futile and aggravating, even if one hundred million people in one voice will point them to it. Instead, they just quietly repeated his mantra: "Debt. Self-denial. Self-sacrifice. One more chance.»

7. Try to change the other person

It is difficult to accept, but you can not change anyone. Anyone.

You can only do certain things in the hope that they will change, but ultimately it's their choice and the will to change it or not. Feel responsible for the change in the other person - it's a surefire way to set yourself up for disaster. In the end, each person is the creator of your destiny and your desire to correct and to bring happiness to everyone around will to the fact that you spend half your life in trying to change the other, leaving only one person unhappy - you.

8. Try to please everyone

The desire to please everyone and be for the good of all - it's a surefire way to drink from the source of grief. Perhaps someone you do and happy, but not themselves. If you aspire to become really unhappy, then in any case not to defend his point of view and his "I", but simply follow all the instructions and wishes of others. You do not live for themselves, but to match, follow and meet the expectations of other people, right?

9. Set yourself goals. It is desirable unattainable

This is the most complex and controversial way of finding trouble. The existence of goals in life - it's a very positive and necessary thing, but only if they are real, within reach and are accompanied by concrete steps to achieve them. But if you think of yourself absurd, unattainable or even you do not need the target, it will make you suffer. Very well, when the item is aligned with the preceding paragraphs, that is complaining, inactivity, comparing and anxiety. This cocktail of any person will make unhappy in no time!

And the final touch - never, under any circumstances, do not listen to music barefoot solar peoples! Only a grim and depressing music in your ears will help to complete the picture of your universal misery.