Want to help someone? Do not say, and listen!
A Life / / December 19, 2019
Ernesto Sirolli in his speech at the TED very eloquently with colorful examples of his personal life and work tells the story of how they We are trying to save Africans from starvation old methods (humanitarian aid, financial assistance and the like), and why this is not personal It happened.
Ernesto and his colleagues taught poor Zambians grown in the rich soil of the valley on the banks of the river Italian tomatoes. Zambians rested, did not want to come to work in the fields and to study agriculture. And they had to pay extra for what they had to work. And one fine African night, when the tomatoes are fully ripe, from the river reached 200 hippos and ate the entire crop. After that, the locals say that this is why they are not engaged in agriculture - still eaten all hippos. When they asked why they had not said anything, they replied that they had not asked.
Who has not tried to help someone (negligent younger sisters-brothers, friends, relatives), the Council, acquaintances or money when you are not asked? And in the end? And as a result - empty. Why do you think it would be good for these people? Because it is good for you? And maybe for them "good" - it is something completely different? Maybe they do not do as you advise and teach, because it has a really good reason?