Why can not I be alone or to devote his life to the work: the most in-depth study

Seventy-five years - an unprecedented period for sociological observation. And that is how much Harvard researchers examined more than 700 people from different walks of life, to assess how happy and long they will live their lives. Three main conclusions of this large-scale observations do not speak in favor of those who justifies his loneliness or chasing worldwide fame, he lives in squabbles or lost at work.

We are constantly told that it is necessary to rely on the work, diligence and achieving more. We have the impression that it is to this we must strive to live better. Complete the picture of life, made by people making and the consequences of those decisions - such a picture, we practically inaccessible.

But what if we were able to see life as it develops over time? What if we were able to trace the people from adolescence to old age and see what actually makes them healthy and happy?

That's what we did.

Uoldinger Robert (Robert J. Waldinger)

The basis of the performance at the TED «What you need for a good life? The lessons of the longest studies of happiness "Robert Uoldinger known American psychiatrist and prominent scientific figure of our time, presents data unique observation of two groups of men of different social status: the prestigious Harvard College students and young people from poor areas Boston. For 75 years scientists have monitored, how should the life of 724 participants in the experiment, depending on the way their lives: whether they can live a long and happy life and leave this world, and not knowing the normal human happiness.

In addition to regular questioning themselves volunteers about the state of their health, career and personal life, the scientists carried out medical examinations with blood sampling and tomogram of the brain. Its assessment of what is happening and give family members of these men is gradually maturing. Thus it was possible to make a complete picture, shed light on the source longevity and happiness certain participants, some of which are by far exceeded already for 90 years.

So, what is the focus its efforts to die with happy eyes in old age? Speaker gives three simple settings that you must remember.

loneliness kills

Firstly, the relationship with the people we are very useful, but loneliness is killing.

Availability social bonds determines the physical health. People who have strong family ties and has good relations with his colleagues and friends, physical health. Single people, on the contrary, feel worse, their brain is aging before that generally reduces their life expectancy.

The quality of relationships is of great importance

The second lesson of the extracted contact: it is not the number of friends and not in whether you have a constant steam, and as these relationships with loved ones.

Sometimes divorce is better or to quit workSo as not to poison their lives extremely harmful conflict relations. Such relationships are detrimental to human health. In turn, the warm spiritual atmosphere protects people from early troubles with health.

Trust relationships strengthen senile mind

And the third lesson about relationships and health internalized by us - is that a good relationship not only protect our bodies, they protect our brain.

The elderly couples where decided to trust each other and to substitute a strong shoulder in difficult times, the longer the firmness of mind. Couples whose life together - it just disjointed coexistence experiencing memory problems much earlier.

What to do, knowing all this

In conclusion, we note that a large-scale study by Harvard researchers has just begun: Now it involves 2000 children of the original participants in the experiment. But it is unlikely today's interim findings and changed in 75 years. We advise all as often call their parents to go and see them with children, Meet with friends, cherish your marriage and become friends with your colleagues.

In relationships there is no guarantee they are difficult, complicated and require constant effort, returns to family and friends, this is not the glitz and glamor. And there is no end. It is the job of a lifetime.