How to remove the "curse" motivational slogans
A Life / / December 19, 2019
Is it possible to make the neighbors, instead of excrement, underlay under your door homemade cakes?
The fact that "all the bad comes from the nerves," we know from childhood. How much time before our children's ear involuntarily came the mysterious and terrifying, "she was nervous, that's it, and bent." Or, "All the last days he was on the nerves, God rest his soul." The most sacred person said to us when we are already in middle age: "Do not be nervous, but it will be a heart attack!".
But it is very easy to advise not to worry. What actually follow this advice, if your daughter failed the exams in the Institute; at work you are threatened with dismissal, and neighbors with regular constancy enclose the feces under your door? Last - not artistic exaggeration, and the case in real life. Only we the neighbors is the most underlay (incognito, of course) right in the baby carriage standing in the general corridor :)
There are a couple of "homegrown" ways to calm down:
- Become "on-mimi-STOM" and start meditating. What, however, it makes it bad, because in the end you feel un-Mimi-ostomy and stupid loser.
- We can say: "For all God's will." Also not particularly comforting. What kind of freedom is such if her daughter did not give to receive higher education !!!
- Have a recipe - take after each stress valokordin 20 drops. The danger of this technique is that the causes of valokordin-Mimi-gp chemically due contained therein phenobarbital; and phenobarbital - a strong neuroleptic, causing, in turn, is addictive. To the delight of neighbors and colleagues at work, it is quickly and efficiently turn you into a vegetable.
- The fourth "home-grown way to not be nervous," you can enter here themselves, based on their experience.
a common defect is present in all these processes. They fight not because of our nervousness, and with its consequences.
But there is another, more effective way, proved to me many years of practice: to set the settings of your body in a way that will be nervous not just because of what, because her daughter took to college, at work you love, and neighbors, instead of excrement, in the morning you enclose by the door home pies.
So, we proceed to action.
Today I will talk about verbally shamanism. Not! No miracles, no wizards and spells. It's about, it would seem quite harmless and, at first glance, even a useful motivational slogans that we hear on every step from childhood, and which, in the end, become the same in the "spell", making us old men and losers.
BUT! It should be easy to remove the slogans of the goods, as life miraculously adjusted.
Motto of the first, the most harmful. Live as if today - the last in your life
It sounds very romantic, and even promises to flight on the wings of freedom. In reality, such a setup creates in the body a stupor, and, on a subconscious level; which means that reveal this crap is very difficult. It is possible to live all your life with this motto in mind, and with stupor inside, and to wonder, "Why I did not catch anything?".
Why not get on, I will explain. For a start many life processes requires a certain amount of time. And, for the most part, it is much longer than the daily cycle of 24 hours. If the process of life compared with the Boeing 737, then, following the motto of the aforesaid, you are trying to raise the plane into the air, using forty-meter runway instead of the two thousand.
It is not necessary to cheat your body. It is better to give him a proper installation: "I'm going to live a long full life!". Believe me, this information is then encoded in your subconscious, and "all the instruments on board" beginning to work in the mode position for them.
This series refers popular saying, or rather exclamation, we Sui anywhere, not even knowing about its negative impact on the subcortex. On this phrase should not just forget, but if you're reading this out loud, do not even say it out loud: "Life is so short!". Believe me, as you say, so be it.
MOTTO OF THE SECOND. Have before him purpose and will not displace the selected road
It sounds just as romantic as the first shnyaga, and is a symbol of resilience will, success and determination. In fact, this motto contains two conflicting concepts. Have a goal and before the eyes of nowhere equivalent to collapse, as if we wanted to get from St. Petersburg to Moscow, never turning the steering wheel of his car.
As for the goals, the last of our biographies its installation should be completed with the charming "Hasyu be kasmanaftom". After that, for us there is only vision and PATH.
There are two ways of passing the path:
- method strategist. If you are subtly feel all the vectors that affect you in your life, in addition to the basic version of the achievement desired, it is necessary to develop a few spare, for which you will begin to follow in case "Plan A" does not load. So are all the great strategists and forgive criminals.
- free filter process. If you realize that all the vectors affecting your movement can not account for life, then you are trusting in their good karma, simply gave on the total flow of grace. Usually, it works, and from people walking in this way, we often hear: "Just think, the parents tried to make me an engineer, and I turned out well-known lawyer!".
Here it is necessary to pay attention to one very important thing. Considering the vectors that affect our lives, we then sculpt them a label: "Head-beast, because he wants to fire me." And we do not even have to know that the head of - an animal does not in itself, but because it is part of the invisible, well balanced natural system, which is trying to turn our movement into another, more reasonable direction.
When I lived in Kaliningrad, there was quite a scary event in my eyes. I was riding in a tram during rush hour. The tram got stuck in traffic. One of the passengers got worried, tried to persuade the driver to release him, he de somewhere late. The driver said that it will release its only stop. A guy started yelling and beating on the door. The passengers began to calm him. A guy in any. In the end, the driver could not stand it, opened the door. A happy man jumped out of the tram and... immediately hit by a dump truck.
Output. If you can not move in this direction, do not try to break through the wall with your forehead. Go around it in a roundabout way, or walk away from it. It will save your nerves, and maybe save a life.
MOTTO OF THE THIRD. Win at all costs
Those who play computer games, are aware of this effect: going with friends at the screen, you begin any type of race «The RUN», trying to show what you're cool and... immediately lose. But it is worth to stay with the game one-on-one and try to complete a level "just for laughs", as everything turns out better than nowhere. This is because in the first case, we are gearing up to inevitable victory, and in the second we assume the possibility of defeat.
There is nothing worse for the health than the position itself as a permanent winner.
- Tuning in will certainly win, you create in your body "stupor of horror" - in the head you have the thought: "And what if I lose !!!". Fantasy dorisovyvaet possible trouble and the consequences, making it difficult to operate adequately. Your brain overwhelms the fear, you are tense, your body breaks down.
- Keep the winning streak is even more difficult. And there are objective reasons. There is such a concept: the duality of being. If it is very simply, it is the processes that can be operated only in pairs. For example, do not make a qualitative expiration, you will not be able to make a qualitative inspiration. Or, not spilling out of their negative emotions, you can not really enjoy. Same with victory and defeat: not manage to lose - and qualitatively "in full", will not be able to win.
- But even if you are lucky and win haunt you every day, your body is still destroyed. There is even a disease - "the winner of the syndrome." His sacrifice she chooses just the lucky athletes, actors, businessmen. Accustomed to the constant victories who now expect from them, as it should, the winners are so afraid to fall short of expectations, which often goes the distance, unable to withstand the psychological pressure.
Yield one. It does not just include the possibility of loss, but absolutely consciously learn to play with the purpose of purchase a new experience, but also understand that the loss - it's not the end of life and end of the world, but a necessary springboard for victory. By the way, for that invented computer games (which is so fashionable to attack), simulate various situations in life and allows you to feel TASTE loss, without sacrificing any career or life :) Add to this the team sports - and you have a whole untilled field appears to experiments.
MOTTO quarter. It is extremely focused on the work carried out by you
Let's talk about our Russian mentality, because in the West, things are quite different. We are so used to the constant monitoring that fifty percent of our attention goes to something that does not work, and the fact that the show: "I'm working." To me it became clear, when I saw a comment on his article about "Operations street workout».
How long have you put your feet on the table in between the elementary fatten the text? - and, in the meantime, it is very useful and is not a sign of bad taste. With his feet on the table, we distills venous blood from the legs to the body, facilitating the work of the veins and the freeing of tissue from toxins. It is a widely known fact, adopt the leading companies around the world.
Have you been wrung out of the armrests office chair? Meanwhile, it is plain exercise "unleashes" node, located in the throat area and the sixth cervical vertebra. The appearance of this unit leads to compression of the vertebral artery supplying blood to the brain. A lot can be done if your brain is not supplied with blood?
That's what we have in the course of work in a constrained, forced to pose headaches, neck pain, shoulder blades, forearms; numbness in the hands and fingers, swelling of the face, the failure of the natural breathing rhythm, premature wear of the body.
It would seem that the answer is simple: working in the office, use an ergonomic chair and spit on the boss and etiquette, do physical exercise at least half-time. But in this case, we will not re-fight the causes and consequences of. Indian yogis spend hours not only internally, but also the most uncomfortable positions to the human body; however, they not only do not experience any discomfort, but do not suffer from clips and displacement of the vertebrae. Why? Because the voltage problem lies not in the biomechanics of our body and in our mental, emotional state. We exaggerate the fraction of the attention that is needed to do the job.
- When I wash the dishes (I do it the old fashioned way, in the shell), I do not need to be dipped in the sink "with head, "I can have a simultaneous conversation with friends, joking with their children, to glance at the screen TV; change posture, relieving muscle tension, even doing passing exercises for the knee ...
- Fatten the text on the computer does not absorb me completely - I have the time to look out the window, noting that today perfect weather, as well as the opportunity to exchange a few words with colleagues and noted that today, the lovely Lena dress…
- And when I drive a virtual car on a virtual road, I have time to fix my son repeated my race, crawl toy cars on the parquet; and to correct foot dented carpet on the floor ...
- Even in a forest full of poisonous snakes, there is no sense glare at each snag, inhumanly straining while. Enough to know how to look like a snake, and keep in mind that they will never attack first (also had experience).
Yet rewashing the dishes, for all its seeming relaxed and raskontsentrirovannosti, I know that have time to react, if the glass will pop up suddenly from the slippery hand soap. And I do not miss a single mistake while typing the text, because it is ready to notice any of them. Enjoying a car race, I inwardly prepared for any turn of events on the screen. And I happened to stumble when I walk on a thin log, thrown across the stream, I immediately restore balance.
IE, I'm ready for any surprises, but do not expect it in advance, wasting energy on understanding what happens "if ...".
Tension and knots are not tied to my body, because I do not allow yourself to be sucked into the vortex of the work; I do not concentrate on their work to pain in the cervical vertebrae and to numb fingers. The common people, this is called "to do their work effortlessly." Those who folklore seems wise enough, use the term "state of alertness."
MOTTO OF THE FIFTH. Remember who you are and always maintain their status
This is a wonderful setting, which starts all the street fights, "What are you, blah, do not know who to contact!!! I - the deputy, the person inviolable! ". So says the man, following this motto and maintain its status as "I - deputy".
Here are a couple of dangerous for health status, to make it clear what they mean.
- STATUS "I - a mother (father, grandfather, grandmother) of a child!". The reason why we have so many elderly men and women of forty years, and many unfortunate mothers lies in the fact that, on moral values Russian man, the role of "fathers and sons" is given for life with the right to life of both parties to harass each other with their presence and their principles. I do not know about you, but I can not watch Zhenya Lukashin relationship with his mother (the film "Enjoy Your Bath") without pain. Or a well-known TV series "Capercaillie"... This mummy protagonist, suffocating him in his arms, turns me inside out. A familiar from childhood - "Horatio, I perish. Mother, farewell! - Jura, I am here!!! ". The whole problem generalizes the phrase uttered charming Svetlana Hook in the TV series "Liquidation" - son, why do you want a wife, if you have a living mother! Yes, all of our cinema nurtures these cute relationship between fathers and children, while a half-century ago, the genius Alfred Hitchcock in his «Psycho» film showed the danger of this kind of role behavior.
- STATUS "I - a real man". This is someone who will never play with the boys, beach volleyball, and prefer to stroll sedately along the coast, proud of how his biceps and representative belly.
- STATUS "I - a real woman". This woman would not stomp in puddles in sneakers. On the chic "Merce" it will drive up to the fitness club will rise to the "treadmill" in the best place, where it can see everything, and start discussing with a friend last festival in Cannes.
You can say that it is perfectly normal "role behavior" of any healthy person. And I answer, that this role behavior (feeling in the role) does not give us freedom, looseness creates stress knots - although we believe that we feel very comfortable.
, Worn on the body to get out of their status (and per capita) as a deep-sea diving suit, you need to do a very simple exercise. Remove all my clothes, stand before a mirror and ask yourself, who you are in this world, outside of society, regardless of its mottos is his standards.
Here's how an "exercise to remove the suit," I have served
- I - a respected 53-year-old uncleSinging songs, writing a book published and having a literary prize. This image is swept aside and removed after the clothes, because today I am respected, tomorrow - no; today I sing, and tomorrow has lost his voice. Everything is superficial, not "eternal."
- I - the father of her children. This image also swept aside. If I will continue to stay in the image of dad, I do disabled people and themselves and their children. Then I can have them at the best friend. And then, when they will have new boyfriends or girlfriends, they all leave me. And rightly so.
- I am a good athleteGiving advice on healthy lifestyle, which is read by more than two hundred thousand people = swept aside on the Internet. Closes tomorrow "Layfhaker" and my blog is banned and no one for me nothing more to hear.
- But now, in spite of the rain, I wear shorts and sneakersAnd run along the dike with grazing sheep to them, amusing passers-by and collecting "likes" in the real world, not in the social networks. And it'll be really me. I - Weather Bulletin, and, good. People see me running in the rain in his underpants, and say, "Listen, probably out there, is not so bad, if this guy running in his underpants!"
- And I have an obligation to before my (state) clearing - I have to keep watering the plant to stay there, because without me they wither, and a small pond is dry and die tiny fish that swim there. So who am I? I - the man from whom Nature is waiting for help. - Human Nature.
So it turned out that I - herald the weather and the nature of man. Everything else does not count.
Of course, in order to correctly perform this exercise, you need to activate a one "gadget", the existence of which we often forget: a sense of humor. And always keep in mind that a sense of humor - this is not the cat in glasses on the "Armani" and the ability to see the situation (and yourself in this situation), under unusual, paradoxical perspective. Under this angle, when everything around is suddenly simple and straightforward.
Last year, in early spring I had to spend several days in Moscow. For some reason, I could not for a long time to move from the house where he lived. Thus, I broke the usual schedule of sports activities. nearby sports equipment was not observed, but there was a playground and lawns covered with snow, which "shovel" wipers.
Deciding what to do in this situation, it flashed through my mind with lightning speed. Put the zipper on the "freeze-frame" and see how, consistent with all the principles outlined above, the decision arose:
- I have a lot of plans ahead, I have to be in shape. I can not stop doing sports.
- Habitual way ghetto street workout for me here is unacceptable, but I have left "Plan-B": at the time, I turn into a street sweeper and be shoveling snow.
- Perhaps the tenants decide that I got to be insane, or at least behave strangely. And I have a strange: a messenger of weather and human nature.
- Let me look loser. Today, I am a loser, tomorrow - the winner.
- By the way, I will get a new experience, because going to do is not just a sport, but new to activity: I will cleanse lawns of snow, combining business with pleasure. And the janitor rest.
So, coming into the yard, I asked the janitor to lend me a couple of hours a shovel. As you can see, Ahmed was not against. And I got what I wanted: the opportunity to work out a new experience, strong hands and strong nerves.
PS
Before I left home, my door bell rang. It was a neighbor from upstairs. You know what she had in her hands? - a plate of hot homemade cakes!
(via yuri Balabanov)