How to get what you want
A Life / / December 19, 2019
There is nothing wrong in that, in order to achieve success in all the targets set and started in all matters. It seems that it is - a complex and daunting task. In fact, get everything you want, it is much easier than you think.
Listen before you speak, and never stop to listen
Ability to listen and hear - one of the most valuable qualities on the way to getting almost everything that you want to achieve out of life. Even Hemingway said: "If people say to you, listen to them until the end. Most people never listen, "Alas, the great American writer was right. We all just that and do that talking about themselves (or are going to tell you about myself), but the time to listen to the other person, we almost did not remains. Empathy and attentiveness to the other person - a small "key" to getting the desired, even if your plans are not included to benefit from contact or from contact with a specific person.
Always help others
Oddly enough, but it works: instead of asking someone about the service and at the same time look for someone who I would be willing to help you, give in return own assistance to the person who you want or interesting. If you do not know what can specifically help this man, do not be afraid to ask a direct question. And besides, to help other people just as soon as you have the opportunity and time to help whenever possible.
Help first, not expecting anything in return - and you will see how often this assistance will come back to you a hundredfold when you do not expect a similar impact. Users are able to appreciate the help, but decided for some reason to believe that it is not.
Be yourself: other roles are already occupied
Oprah Winfrey once admitted to reporters: "I had no idea that being myself, I can earn a lot of money. Had I known this before, would not have had any of portraying himself, and I would sooner began to behave naturally. "People "Old school" used to repeat that professionals should not show its true face, should not be open. Another problem (especially in men) - a fear of appearing vulnerable, "weakling", "sissy" (especially to outsiders). In the end, we all appeared confusion, it is worth to reveal, and what is not in front of strangers on the Internet, at work, in the range of random passengers or guests at the party. The truth is that openness within reason and honesty in relationships with others will serve you well. People who believe in you and know that you deserve their mutual trust, will do for you anything you want. Be yourself.
Tell, not "sell"
It is also important not just to listen to others and help them, but also to talk about what you want and what you're trying to do. But for heaven's sake, do not be like a vacuum cleaner or seller of insurance policies: people do not tolerate may, when they "sell" ideas, things, or other people's needs (if only these people - not venchrunye investors). Instead of "selling" a loved one better tell a story that is interesting to your casual interlocutors. The ability to tell stories and enthrall the audience is much more expensive than the ability to rub price tags and enticing promises.
Invest his heart and soul in any case
If you bezralichna topic about which you speak, and the work that is involved, makes you melancholy moaning in his stomach - as others can help you, or imbued with your idea? If you want to get something from the deal, which busy - you have to "burn" it. Passion and energy is driven by everything from a man who could in a wheelchair to do skateboard tricks on the ramp up of those from startup turns into a multimillion-dollar brand.
Surprise and other raduyte
In any casino on the planet there is a small trick: the new visitor should enter as somewhere the depth of the playing hall is heard the ringing of the winning slot machine that just gave someone winnings. Psychologists call this technique "variable award": you do not know when exactly you will win, but all around you have heard and seen these elusive echoes of happiness, luck and success for which you are, in fact, came here.
When you are happy and surprise surprises people around you, you do not just make them happy in this particular moment: in their consciousness gradually you associate with the fact that "positive and good syurpizy -. it's you," You become in the eyes of these people special man. If you - a special, it opens to you more "doors" and features over time.
And finally, do not forget about the 4 most important words in business and life
"I'm sorry" and "thank you very much" - 4 cherished words, the constant use of which in the life and work in demanding situations that is able to create real miracles. Everybody makes mistakes, and everybody knows about it. But not everyone can simply and sincerely admit that they were wrong and apologize. Just apologize - and "move on": in life, in work, in relationships, in transport or in the supermarket queue.
Thanks and the ability to express it in words and actions - another important "asset", thanks to which you can get a great deal on the desired in this life. Try to keep this gratitude was genuine and was at the behest of the heart, not by the order of the chief.