The phrase "because I have 30": Is there a sense in it?

On the "crisis of 30-year" replaced by a midlife crisis came: this is where the phrase "because I was already 30, and I ..." begins a variety of regret and bouts of self-pity. "I am already 30, and career did not work", "I have already 30 - and the children still do not have", "I have already 30 - and the salary is not above the market average, "- these thoughts come to mind (why hide) including readers "Layfhakera".

Something to bring you "in the ears" infinitely caring relatives or at least caring "friends" (in quotes - because if you care about your friends your lack of career opportunities, credit Ford Focus and three squalling offspring, take a look at it more closely: maybe you're not friends with those people); but something subconsciously there "in the days of doubt, in the days of painful reflection" (when even the "great and powerful language," which sent us a classic of Russian literature in general by no means saved). The phrases that begin with "because I was already 30 ..." - do they make sense? Let's try to understand together.

When you are 20, you will inherent a feeling that it will last forever. You 25-28 - that feeling is: "I will always be a little more than 20", you can not bathe and make plans. And then after 28 the world suddenly begins to accelerate, and events begin to happen much faster than you would like. You suddenly notice that many do not have time and not be able to "rewind" time back to "catch up" to have time to do, "dolyubit" to graduate, to watch, to read - it has already passed by and did not return.

First comes something like a mild panic: what to do now with my life, what do want more?! After a certain period of time instead of rushing you and the feeling that "the world is collapsing" and "all is lost", becomes calm and decide to watch what happens next. Comes the understanding that 30 - this is not the end of the world and a turning point in your life (even if your mother, grandmother and best friend with a sad expression on his face assured you otherwise). This is - just a date on the calendar, and a next year that you have to live. Here the question is how you will meet this new year of life and how it will live.

A common stereotype is partly came to us from the outside, is that the period from 20 to 29 - it's just "training." You like to give yourself a "swing" to try to live nothing to worry; but the "real life" will begin after 30. And therein lies the problem much more than just the absence of your children, a career, your own business, or in the garage for 30 years. As many as 10 years, as long as you "seek" college, university, and a short period after graduating, you live as if "on machine ", considering all the possibilities of passing by you, expecting something and nonchalantly staying in the belief that all" self will come. " And it is "self" does not come.

If 20-30 years ago, 20-year-old more serious about what they do with themselves and their lives, now veranda cafes and restaurants are filled blooming young idlers and bezdelnitsy, eternal "startups" are not built a single project, and "students" who do not know what they would have a diploma get, Coursera hear what course and on what party to go to.

Within a year or half of them in blozhek or on the couch, the analyst begins to "dig deep into yourself" to find those terrible and horrible reason why to the 30 in They have in fact nothing "for the soul," and it is necessary to start all over again (even friends, except for "hi-how-case" in such "maturing" of characters not found in the difficult moments, life).

"Of twenty nothing to worry about" - this like a mantra, that instead of peace and harmony leads to a nervous breakdown at 30. "The Grasshopper dragonfly red summer sang" - and 30 found that it is necessary to begin "doing something." And there are two roads: either you continue riding a longboard, becoming a professional "extremals" and earn a living - or accept for some meaningful thing in his life, in addition to the tears of emotion on festival films and endless discussions TED videos.

By "get to work" we certainly do not mean that you have to "surrender as a slave "of some highly paid office boss, Get on a suit and tie (still most people do not know how to wear it, and the pig shirt color appropriate only in bank loans advertising) and give up the dream to become a pastry chef or knit hats for snowboarders. Just maybe, it is time to finally become a pastry chef and bake cakes, open workshop and knit caps, make "custom-Vela" and sell them, and not just ride on them, sipping "Dr Pepper" in expectation "of the miracle "? Get to work, dammit!

Now a lot of young people aged 22 to 28 years old "write off" their moral, financial problems and personal "disorder" in the economic crisis (Now, if I'm not mistaken, was the second in the last 5 years), the poor environment, the pressures of authoritarian parents or remote province in which they live. I think it is unnecessary to remind readers of "Layfhakera" that you - not a tree, and therefore change the location, environment and lifestyle you always can.

Even if your "20th" occurred in the period of total economic and political "mess" (my way, too) - it does not mean that you should stamp loser "Eternal student" or a person who is unable to capitalize on his idea on his hobby, to that from which the "burning eyes" (of course, if you do not at the same time something illegal). Even if you do not want or can not fundamentally change their environment or move from a small town into a metropolis - you can change your body, your mind, your occupation. While you from 20 to 29 - it's just easier to do. But at 30, and even at 40 you are still unable to radically change a lot, just to have it a little more work than the 20 or 25.

Start today. After all, you already 30, so - you can start anything the same way as you did in the 20, you now have a little more experience. Do not be nervous so much from the fact that "you have 30". You have one life to live, and "2" or "3" + figures in the passport does not matter.