REVIEW: "Flexible mind. A new look at the psychology of adults and children, "Carol DUEK

You were little?

Yes? I never would have thought.

And you then adults said that you - genius? Or handsome? Or a hero?

Well, they gave you a great disservice or even mangled life. So says Carol DUEK.

In this post - review of her new book.

Carol has discovered that there are two kinds of settings:

• Installation on a reality
• Installation on growth

Installation on a reality forces you to take care of, first of all, how you appreciate; plant growth - to think about self-improvement.

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As you know, the author praises the plant growth and criticizes the installation on a given.

It describes numerous examples from sports, business and family relationships. He lived himself and lived a man with the installation of a given, fared poorly. Then he changes the setting, and his personal life is blooming, and the success he is knocking on the door. Typical American business literature... in a good way))

New old look

The title of the book, we see - the "new look", but whether he is new?

Look, we add:

• The first skill Covey "Be Proactive" (be the master and not the slave of circumstances, create their destiny by themselves)
• The seventh skill Covey "Sharpen the saw" (constantly being improved)
• And instead flow orientation results orientation of Mihayya Csikszentmihalyi

And we get - TA-Dames! - installation on the growth of Carol DUEK.

Do not think that I blame Carol for plagiarism. In no case! In many ways it develops the above-mentioned ideas and moves on. In addition, she practices that underpins all experiments (especially with children). What's wrong with that great ideas have seen the light at a different angle and to a very different audience?

Through his theory Carol miss many things. I will enumerate some of them.

Settings and policies

Have you noticed that many politicians and even entire nations have fitting on reality?

In these countries, often remember about tradition, about the great past, about the uniqueness of its people, and the leader is often considered to be the messiah and the indispensable man. We can recall, for example, Nazi Germany and Hitler with his theory of the superiority of the Aryan race - is the ultimate installation in a given policy.

Installation and business

The business leader with the installation of a reality too in danger of falling into a dictatorship and tyranny. In particular, it strongly criticizes Carol Lee Iacocca, the legendary manager, who is usually accepted praise. Carol also carries it easy to smithereens.

Installation and children

A good half of the book is devoted to the education of children. After all, you do not have to be Freud to know that all our adult cockroaches appear in childhood.

But as we like to educate your child? By and large, they are only used carrots and sticks - criticism and praise.

... no one laughs at newborns and does not think that they are stupid, just do not talk.

Carol says that the traditional model of criticism and praise is based on the installation on a given. Forced to agree with her.

Examples of my own. Idiot piece krivorukost goat - someone will say that parents do not abuse children. Believe me, abused, and even not so! I see it almost every day.

And the idea is simple - do not need to hang labels on the children, whether it be good, like "genius" or "handsome", whether it is bad, like "moron" or "Krivorukov". Positive label discourages child makes him arrogant. Negative label gnobit and stifles initiative.

I myself am a young father, and the book made me think.

Installation and the education system

In my school first-graders were sent for testing. Best - enrolled in the "A" and "B" classes. I hit the "A". We then paid increased attention to providing the best teachers were sent to the Olympic Games, and so on. We considered ourselves very clever. Elected. And the rest obdelyali.

The losers are those and those. The first - with a positive label on the neck, and the second - the negative.

But, tell me, what the hell? It is, by and large, a matter of chance, is not it?

Stupid, stupid system.

Summarizing

The book promotes the right ideas and motivating growth. And, it does it well. At least, my mood and morale is improved))

This is not surprising, because Carol opposes all of this positive literature in the spirit of "Smile, relax, and the universe itself will bring you success," I frankly do not digest.

In general, the book is easy to read. Minimum reasoning maximum examples.

To read: Yes. Especially if you educate children.

Evaluation: 7/10

And with what setting you brought up as a child? And as you raise your children?

"Flexible mind. A new look at the psychology of adults and children, "Carol DUEK