20 paradoxical truths of life, which everyone should remember
A Life / / December 19, 2019
Mark Manson (Mark Manson)
American blogger, entrepreneur and author.
Here are 20 paradoxes that, strange as it seems to work.
1. The more we do not like some trait in the other, the more likely that we avoid it in themselves
Renowned psychiatrist Carl Gustav Jung believed that the qualities that annoy us in others, are in fact a reflection of the qualities that we deny in yourself. For example, dissatisfied with their weight will always notice plump. And people are experiencing financial difficulties, will criticize those who earns much. Sigmund Freud called this projection. Most would call it simply "be a jerk."
2. People who do not trust anyone, do not credible
People who constantly feel insecure in a relationship, do they undermine more likely. After all, we often try to protect themselves from the pain, the first cause pain to others.
3. The more we try to impress people, the less they like us
No one likes anyone who tries too hard.
4. The more often we fail, the more surely will succeed
Edison created more than 10 000 samples of an incandescent lamp, invented before good option. And you've probably heard many more similar stories.
Success It comes when we correct and perfect ourselves, and we have to be corrected when we failed.5. The more we are afraid of something, the more likely it is to do
Except for the really dangerous for life and health situations, our instinct of "fight or flight" usually It is activated when we are faced with the trauma of the past or to the actions that cause us discomfort. For example, we usually hard to speak with an attractive man, call someone to ask for work, to speak in public, start a business, make a controversial opinion, be with someone very honest.
6. The more we are afraid of death, the less enjoyment of life
As Anais Nin wrote: "Life shrinks and expands in proportion to your courage."
7. The more we learn, the more we realize how little we know
Every time we learn something, we have new questions arise.
8. The less we care about others the less take care of themselves
It would seem, should be the opposite. But people relate to others as well as yourself. It may not be noticeable from the outside, but those who are cruel to others, usually manifests the brutality and to himself.
9. The more we have opportunities to communicate, the more we feel lonely
Despite the fact that we now have a lot more different means of communication, in recent decades, the researchers note in the developed countries increased level of loneliness and depression.
10. The more we are afraid to fail, the higher the probability of failure
It is also called a self-fulfilling prophecy.
11. The more we are zealous, the more difficult the task will seem
When we expect that some business will be difficult, we often unconsciously do it more complicated.
12. The more accessible a thing, the less attractive it seems
We subconsciously believe that rare thing more valuable, and in fact that is abundantly available, the value below. This is not true.
13. The best way to meet someone - no one seek
Usually we find the second half when we are happy with themselves and do not need someone else to be happy.
14. The more we recognize its shortcomings, the more people believe that we have none
When we are comfortable with the fact that we are not so good, people around her think it worth. This is one of the benefits of vulnerability.
15. The more we try to keep someone, the more we repels them
This is a strong argument against jealousy: when feelings or actions are transformed into commitments, they just lose their meaning. If your partner feels obligated to be with you the weekend, the time spent together, deprived of all value.
16. The more we argue, the less chance we have to convince the interlocutor
Most disputes based on emotions. They erupted when members try to change each other's opinions. The discussion was objective, both sides must agree to put aside their perception and apply only to the facts (which few people can).
17. The more we have choices, the less we are pleased with the decision
So manifest a well-known paradox of choice. When we have a lot of options, and increasing the costs of lost profits (what we will lose by making the choices). Therefore, we are not satisfied with the solution that eventually accept.
18. The more we are convinced that they are right, the less we know
Meanwhile, as people open to other points of view, and how much he knows about a subject, there is a direct relationship. In the words of an English mathematician and philosopher Bertrand Russell: "Alas, so is the way the light: thick-headed firmly confident and intelligent are full of doubt."
19. The only thing you can be sure - is that if nothing can not be sure
Take this very important, as it were, brain nor resist.
20. The only thing that remains constant - change
This is one more of those trite sayings that seem very deep, but in fact do not mean anything. But from this it does not lose fidelity!