People plus size: how to cope with the flow of criticism and even capitalize on it

We live in an amazing time when the personal life of each of us is constantly in the public space. The possibilities that modern technology provides, pose a great temptation to share with the world of alternative reality of our lives. It all glossy positively brought almost to perfection, without a dull and boring life everyday.

We like transported on the covers of magazines imaginary, where everyone wants to show myself and others what he beautiful and interesting: the right angles, clever phrases, filters, Photoshop, which can no longer even be installed on smartphone. Picture-in-result is a quality, but osadochek remains.

After eating a deliberately artificial life, the public has spawned a whole movement, stood up for everyday calling and accept myself and my body (and as a consequence, and his life) as it is. For example, there Bots in Telegram, Removes makeup with photos.

As any action, the wave of struggle against hypocrisy resulted in opposition: the army and the haters sheymerov went to defend the ideals of the lost beauty.

In fact, nothing new is happening. Sheyming despite its newfangled name, is totally traditional, especially for the Russian people, a reaction to someone's behavior is different from the behavior of the majority.

Remember crowd-sheymerov grandmothers on the benches at the entrances or the ubiquitous aunts-haters in queues. These are the true champions of universal injustice and advocates of world harmony. Aunts do exercise, the grandmother did lift and Botox injections, but the essence of the phenomenon has not changed.

Let us examine the various cases sheyminga and three steps that help to cope with it.

The first story, "What did I say?"

Not so long ago in two highly respected journals articles were published dedicated corpulent girls. The goal was a very noble - to support mood bodipozitiva. But something went wrong. Tolstushki not stood in line appreciated, did not cause an encore.

Why is it, in fact they really thick? What's insulting - is unclear. But the thing is, that the noisy school nicknames like "four-eyes", "bot", "drysch" remained at puberty. You can even give you some free tips on how to dress and how long skirt to wear, because anyone wants to teach thick, how to live, eat, play sports.

The second article is perfect in content, but Bild editors manned it deliberately holivarnymi photographs depicting all the deadly sins: sloth, gluttony, cellulite. In this case, without malice in the article were placed light merry portraits Writable journalist Natalya Kiseleva.

Natalia outraged, fat traffic poured, and editors wondered, what's the problem, because the paper is something positive... however little who wants to become the epitome of the domestic oil, to associate themselves with all the vices in which you are not to blame at all.

Step one: you are not a dollar to please everyone

In general, the latest trends bodipozitiva somehow perceived by the majority (as, indeed, part of the adepts) as a call to the fullness and unhealthy lifestyle. And it is fundamentally wrong, that much of the name body positive. It is about the right of everyone to be happy.

That's so simple: on paper it sounds undeniably, in life - people just starting to bomb, if a girl or woman who is not As the standard of beauty, she says all verbally or non-verbally, that it is completely satisfied with her body, her life and her all OK.

- How dare she? I can not achieve the ideal - so I sit and do not shine!

- I achieved ideal blood and sweat, and some just took the cow and said that she still OK.

And the truth is that there is no ideal, and that the majority of diets and workouts - is the pursuit of happiness, which, to the surprise of many, lies not in centimeters. It is in the brain or heart, or soul - we do not know where, but not in the amount of clothing and shape of the abdomen.

Someone wants to find or keep loved his beautiful figure, someone - to express themselves to others, to be finally noticed. And someone is not trying to solve their psychological problems through physical form, and simply enjoying life. And at last everything is good, regardless of whether they are skinny or fat, and it infuriates everyone else!

The attempt to impose someone any standards obviously means a loss to the dispute. This also applies to pyshnotelye ladies who flaunt their size, because they realized that the strength to fight for the dream figure is left. Any attempts to prove it to others - it's just a way to prove to yourself that you are not wasting your time and effort is not in vain live their lives.

Second Story: zhirobasiny COX

number HayterUsually it depends on the media and human popularity, upload photos of their contented person. Even one bad comment from a familiar person can spoil the mood for the whole day.

Plus size models hearing not only from outside but also from their mothers and "girlfriends" expressions such as: "Where are you flooded the podium?", "Fashion for thin!", "Zhirobasiny COX .." and that's all. If you have a minimum audience - holivary comments Guaranteed! One camp will talk about the beauty of all shapes and sizes to appeal to different standards of BMI and bring doctors and fitonyashek.

Step Two: heyters gonna Haight poteytos gonna poteyt

None of the participants of the show did not sprinkle ashes on his head. It's pointless and destructive. And you do not have to prove anything. You were born with the right to be yourself and love yourself the way you are!

Aerobatics - just do not read the spiteful comments that, even for a split second did not overshadow its existence negative notorious personalities. Not having received any response, the enemy will inevitably retreat, spending all the resources of the internal bile, leaving you a winner without any effort on your part.

History of Three: sow

But do not think that a good figure - a panacea for internet sheymerov. For every pretty girl there exists at least a dozen others who see in it the existence of a personal challenge, and the same number of men, who at one time did not perepalo and now itching to raise their self-esteem due to the object envy.

Take Eugene Podberezkin, the first model plus size, which was approved at the Maxim magazine cover (many thanks to Alexander Malenkov, chief editor). Prior to this photo of these models went to cart at the stage of negotiation.

So, no young age (19 years old), nor the title of champion in synchronized swimming world or coaching career, or body mass index within the normal range (23) did not save Eugene from shortcuts sow zhiruhi. What did Jack?

Step three: fat = $

The model does not become clogged and hide their rounded shapes. On the contrary, Eugene participated in numerous debates, agreed to an interview. Now Podberezkin about 30 thousand subscribers in Instagram, coverage - 50 thousand unique users per week. Champion proved that chubby tummy and hips is not steep object of shame, and a source of income.

You think you have something to say? Join modeling agencies, communities, plus size, dial subscribers and monetize its popularity. Now for this very time.

instead of a conclusion

The main thing - do not take the comments of others to heart. Whatever you do, no matter what size of clothing or worn - there will always be those who will want you to pour dirt. No need to look for a logical explanation for this, trying to justify or discuss because to you it has nothing to do. It's just a reflection of the fears and emotions of commentators.

If enough inner harmony - Rejoice that you have noticed. You do not leave people indifferent, and therefore, with sulfur content not merge.

If, instead of the joy of feeling hurt - do not read. The easiest way out.

To get out of any situation with your head held high, we must believe in yourself, all kind show that if you interested in the opinions of others, you ask about it, and believe in what you have - it's cool, right now, without any improvements! Then the most impressionable themselves drown their venom and others bored just to break through the wall of self-confidence, and they are gone.

Remember sheymery - it is always unfortunate people with a lack of attention to trying to solve its internal problems at your expense. No, this is not about "they are just jealous", it is about the fact that the motives for public sheyminga may be many, and the reason is always the same: dissatisfaction with their lives. And the most effective way to defeat them - be happy. Then to the opinion of others, you will be as the moon, and happiness - it is inside and does not require proof!

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