4 obstacles to the development of relations

If you hear an ordinary phrase "In a relationship one loves, the other allows himself to love", asks: "In whose concrete relations" It happens that the two do not like.

But love - a delicate matter. As long as you will understand, there it or not, a few years will pass. Most relationships do not survive to term, when love has a chance to occur. That is the same one true love. When you want to give your partner something just for the joy of it or none of it. Without fear and without reproach.

A first working infatuation, desire stronger tie to the man himself, in which you see the resources, feel perspective. When you shout about love, but inside - passion, pain, jealousy, hope, hatred. A lot of emotions.

And at this stage, it does happen that the partner does not want to get involved in a relationship and how to "allows himself to love." Although it is not love, as I have said, and the hunt for resources for valuable fur.

When this happens, the question is "why." Why did he not fall in love? Sometimes, after all, meet, or even any plans to build, and love to do... but there is not hooked something! How to understand, what is it?

Let's look at four major obstacles that may stand in the way of the development of relations in the occasional serious.

1. Appearance

If you feel that your partner you need more than you do it, then it may very well be that you just do not like his looks.

You are not very pretty. And he will tell you anything other than this truth, because men rarely are such boors, whatever they may say about women. I think 80% of the low-intensity relationships that can neither dissolve nor stick together, fall into the category of "Fuck - yes, meet - yes, more - no."

How do you know?

Just - just ask: "Do you think I'm beautiful?" If you said, he will say "yes" or rather usmehnotsya and say nothing (not to disclose the senses). If you do not believe it will begin to play up, elaborate, distracting, to say abstract things.

Indirectly - not to ask, and think. For example, like this: "He brags me to someone? When the drives through the streets and institutions, when a friend with your friends? Yes, no? "Well, understand.

What to do?

First, stop listening to the views of friends. Second, look at yourself sober, that is, man's eyes. Third, find a professional that you will be engaged and will make you as beautiful as possible. Fourth, if it will not work on a partner, find another.

2. Status

If you know that the partner of your looks crazy, but it still goes on talking about developing relationships, you may not have enough status.

That is marriage with you seems to him misalliance, bad deal. Maybe in his ancestor princes, and you - the peasants. Maybe he parents - academics, and you - the workers. Maybe he's wealthy, and you - no. Maybe there is critical (in his opinion) the age difference. Maybe you are of another nationality or religion. Well, you never know. Maybe everything is exactly the opposite, and it is also an obstacle.

How do you know?

Voice your inequality in the conversation, and see his reaction. The answer would be either bewildered or proof or explanation, which can also be regarded as a confirmation.

What to do?

Think about how you feel about the inequities, and to realize that in these respects, it will always be the norm. You want it?

3. Mind, habits, character

If you are 100% sure that it thinks you are in every way equal to itself beautiful, but still hinders the development of relations, perhaps he is not sure that you can trust.

This may mean that you have the habits and character traits that could potentially deprive engage in a relationship of human comfort. Alcohol or drug abuse, gambling, addiction to changes, scandals, "removal of the brain" too large (greater than zero), the number of friends, too strong bond with her mother, the ability to humiliate the partner publicly... yes you never know.

How do you know?

You quarrel? He often displeased with you? And you tell them? Well, that does not need to understand anything. Women are often not serious about quarrels: Think of all the fighting. No, not all.

What to do?

First, find out what your quality it considers incompatible with family life. How do I find it? Ask. You can not ask or think you can not answer? So you found her first serious relationship incompatible with quality. It worked (this second), then continue.

4. Partner

If the previous three paragraphs all right, maybe he's just an idiot?

Of course, he is not an idiot. Idiot, you would not have chosen, right? Or simply in the preceding three paragraphs is still not okay, or the cause is not in you, and in it. No, I'm lying. The reason is always in you. If it does not want to walk up and choose next, you are not turned his head. If he has a disease or debts that they are prevented, you do not bother to create the necessary confidence in the relationship. If... In short, the responsibility is still on you.

How do you know?

Open your eyes to its strangeness, that you are still considered unimportant. And once again think, for example, about when and how they are manifested, what he gives them an explanation. In the early stages of relationships we are often very inattentive. It points of love so arranged.

What to do?

Firstly, to avoid pressure - in the future it will return to you with bitter tears. Second, be patient. Trust - this is largely a matter of time. Third, if you show patience, it is the already very long time, ask yourself the perennial question: "And it is exactly I want?"

The vast majority of unhappy relationships are at the heart of the reluctance to leave the partner and continue the search. A strange phenomenon, is not it? Like and not suitable partner, and the like, and it can not be let go.

P. S. I understand that I will be asked: what is the obstacle, the other woman? This is a serious barrier to the development of relations! Oh, girls, no, no, no. You did not read. There is no other woman. More precisely, the whole world, and there's another woman. And your beauty, your status, your character and your attention to your partner or leave it next to you, or pushed back into the world, on a quest to market relations. Where he was waiting for thousands of other women with open arms.