Why in the first place is to take care of yourself, not for others
A Life / / December 19, 2019
When the plane at high altitude suddenly serious accident happens, then there is depressurization of the cabin. In this case, the passengers in the reserve have only 15-20 seconds to save his lifeWearing an oxygen mask.
Flight attendants have always warned in advance that the mask in any case it is necessary to put on the first, and only then to help others. If you do not have time to protect yourself in the allotted time, you simply lose consciousness and die.
When you first take care of yourself, the chances to help his family survive and grow close at times. If you try to save them first, then it is likely that no one will not survive at all.
It's not about heroism, but in the ordinary sense. For example, your child can begin to ask questions about what is happening around, why bother to wear a mask, why is it that color, why hanging from the ceiling, and so on. If he sees that the mask is already wearing on you, then most likely, just repeat the same thing.
Or imagine another situation: in order to keep yourself in good shape, you regularly visit
gym. Suddenly, your loved one gets to the hospital with serious injuries, and you throw all his work to the clock to be near him. You care for the victims, paying him all his spare time and ignoring the need to monitor and your health too.For all those months, while your loved one is struggling with the disease, you manage to become emaciated beyond recognition, spoil the stomach suhomyatku constant and in addition have a steady nerves to all this voltage.
There comes a time when you take a very unexpected, but correct decision - again start to play sports. It would seem, why? Because you are a long time neglected his health. Because the illness of a loved one - it's not a reason to give up on yourself. Because you understand that taking care of themselves and care for their loved ones - this is not mutually exclusive.
There is a very fine line between overprotection and in order to just be helpful. Sometimes we care about someone else just because we are afraid to be alone With myself.
Joe Rogan (Joe Rogan), an American stand-up comedianWhen we see someone with a problem more serious than ours, then immediately switch to them. We allow ourselves to spit on their own difficulties just because they are too lazy and cowardly. We are constantly kept putting it off. People are very creative and always find millions of reasons, only to do nothing. Sometimes these reasons are really strange. Here is one of my favorites: a person creates a bunch of non-existent problems, to distract from the most important and unpleasant.
In addition to switching to other problems in the hope of escape from their own, people often go to the other extreme - workaholism. How is it tempting - to immerse oneself in the work and do not notice anything around! Yes, it is often very, very nice, especially for those who are really passionate about their work.
We take overtime, to sit up late at the office, we start to work on the weekends, we agree to substitute a colleague fell ill, only to be nothing else to do but time. You feel that there is something fishy? The way it is. We try to hide from problems that do not want to have anything to do. The problems that we are really afraid, ashamed and avoided. From the problems that really are important. From their own problems.
If you are tired of inaction, to hide from the difficulties and take care of everyone but themselves, remember a few basic rules.
- Every day do something that brings you joy and pleasure. Go to the gym if you feel like it. Read books. Sing, draw, eat sweets. All these little encouragement to help you avoid emotional burnout. Then go do something which will benefit only you and no one else If you are creative or a public person who is constantly doing something for others.
- Take care of yourself. Broadens the mind, understand at last that what you want from this life, to what purpose are aiming for. Realize that no one but you do not. Stop neglect your interests and find your inspiration. For example, read the biography of the man, who was considered worthy of emulation and praise.
- Learn how to pause and stop overwork. Let's break the brain, during which allow yourself to just about anything not to think. Here you can greatly help the yoga or meditation.
Whitney Cummings (Whitney Cummings), American screenwriter and producerWe can not share with others that which is not in us.
It is much easier to give to friends and family joy, support and inspiration when they are within ourselves. That is why and it is necessary to take care first of all about yourself.