What to do when things go wrong, as we expect

No expectations - no disappointment

We live, set goals, and expecting that when we reach them, we get what we want. We live, thinking that we have friends waiting for them to come to our aid in a difficult situation. We think that our home will always be welcome.

But, as we all know, not everything always happens as we expect in our world.

If you own a car dealership, you can set a goal: to sell 25 cars a month, but in fact to sell a total of 8.

Why?

Because you have set a very ambitious goal, to reach which can not yet because of lack of resources, links and other things.

We can expect that our friends listen to us when we are depressed. But sometimes they do not drop everything and rush to our aid. And we are in this situation feel that they ignore us, our friends spit on us.

Why?

Because we expect our friends too much, while they have their own lives and their own problems.

Every morning, we expect the road to work, if go out this time, it'll come back in an hour. If our car stalled on the road, we panic - because we are late, and plus everything we had one more unnecessary problems.

Why?

Because we are waiting for the world to play by our rules.

Expectations often lead to the same result - a disappointment. We can not absolutely reach all the goals set for ourselves. Our friends can not always be with us. We can not always have time to time there, where we are heading.

The best way to cope with disappointment - do not expect.

No expectations - no disappointment.

This is one of the most difficult lessons: you must work on ourselves and not expect anything from the world.

A simple way to deal with disappointment

1. Manage your emotions

This is the first and important step towards the resolution of any difficulties. Do not let emotions get the upper hand over you, do not take important decisions until you calm down, even if it is you need a few hours or days.

2. Nothing ever take to heart

Many of us are willing to write off all the bad that happens to us, our personal shortcomings. We say that we have not yet earned get something or to become so-and-so is, we believe that we are "simply not good enough."

Stop yourself hassle. This is perhaps the most important.

Do not be afraid to ask for help

1. Do not be afraid to ask for help: the family, friends and acquaintances. And never seek revenge on those who make you suffer - this will never get anything good.
2. Monitor your health: Do not forget to get enough sleep and eat right.
3. Stay alone with his thoughts, set aside the magazines and newspapers, turn off the TV and do not linger on the Internet.

Understand that not everything is always as we plan

At any moment, anything can go wrong, as you had planned, and you should always be prepared for the consequences. This is the best way to deal with the disappointments that have been, are and will be.

Just take everything that happened

Just accept everything that happened. Or live with regrets over the next few years. Why worry about something that we can no longer change?

Life does not always give us what we want. It is difficult to accept, but in the end the realization of this will make us stronger.

It sounds absurd, but sometimes when we do not get what we want - this is the best outcome.

disappointment valuable

Disappointment - it's a great experience that you should not be avoided. Think about it from the perspective of the child. If from the very beginning of life was getting everything I wanted, not knowing failure, he would never have learned to be thankful for.

Disappointments are valuable - they are what make us human.

Direct your emotions in the right direction

Frustration deplete us. But go on the reverse: instead of wasting energy on anger and feelings about what is not change, send your emotions in the right direction. Learn something new, help someone, or create something. This will help you to escape. Moreover, it will help you to make use even of the situation that, at first glance, seemed hopeless to you.

What do you think about this?