Let's talk about women: his father's advice to his son

Introducing you thinking Nate Pyle (Nate Pyle) about how to treat women. These reflections Nate shared with his son, but what we share with you.

Someday I'll have to talk to your son. No, I am not referring to the subject that parents are afraid to talk with the children, and the children of such a conversation feel awkward.

I'm talking about another conversation. I understand that the time for this conversation came after to catch his eye, the look of the man who observes the object of desire. No matter where we are, when I notice the look - at the mall or on the beach. It is not the essence of where and when I see it. It will make a difference only that it is time for this conversation.

Come to me. I want to talk with you. I've seen you look at her. I do not blame you, and I do not want you to shame. I know why it happened. I also passed through it. And now I want to talk to you about it, because that's the way you look at a woman, it is of great importance.

Many people will try to prove to you that woman must ensure that the way she dresses, not to tempt us, men, on the "wrong" views.

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Listen to what I tell you. Responsible woman - dressed in the morning. Your responsibility - to look at her as a person, no matter what she wore. You want to blame it in his own wandering eye, it does not matter that she herself was wearing or not wearing.

Do not play the victim role.

You are not a helpless victim when it comes to your own eye. You have full control over them. Train. Train yourself so that you could look into her eyes. Discipline yourself so as to look at her rather than her body or clothing.

At the moment when you are playing the role of victim, you're confusing the lie that supposedly you just react to external stimuli and you can not tell right from wrong, the man of the flesh.

Listen to me. This absurd lie.

You're more than that. And women, who are you looking at, is a lot more than her clothes. It is more than the body. There is a lot of talk about the fact that men often embody women. And this is true in most cases. People embody all that is possible.

If you really love a person, do not belittle it to the things that do not look at it as an object. At that moment, when you embody a person - whether man or woman - you protest against their own humanity.

There are two opinions as to how women should dress. The first point of view: women should dress in such a way to be able to attract the attention of men. The second point of view is exactly the opposite of the first: women should dress in such a way to save men from the temptations.

Son, you must be above these points of view. Neither the woman nor any other person is not obliged to dress to attract your attention. You should not pay attention to them because of how they are dressed, but because they are men, they - the individual.

A woman should never feel that it is necessary to protect you from yourself also. You must control your feelings and emotions.

Unfortunately, the way the interact with each other people of different sexes, based on fear.

Fear of rejection, fear of being scolded, fear of losing control.

We are afraid of each other, because we have been taught to fear. We were told that a woman's body will cause us to sin. We are told that if a woman dresses so that the opening of a large part of her body, it will encourage the man to hundreds of nonsense. Let's be clear: the female body is not dangerous for you. Her body can not hurt you. It can force you to do stupid things.

If you're going to do stupid things only because I myself want to do this nonsense. So do not believe that men supposedly should be wary of women.

A woman's body is beautiful, wonderful and mysterious. Honor him, but at the same time respect the woman as a person, a living person with hopes, dreams, experiences, emotions and desires.

Let it be sure of you. Show her that she can trust you. But do not do it just because you think that it is supposedly weaker than you. This is a big misconception. Women are not weaker than men. They - not the weaker sex, they are just the opposite sex.

I'm not talking to you about that you did not look at women. Just the opposite.

But I want you to not only looked at the woman and saw her. The really saw her. Not only with his own eyes, but also your heart.

Look not to see what excites your senses; Look to see the man.

I hope that after you change your view of women, and to change yourself. You will not just be surrounded by women. You will be with women.

Because, damn it, they want to be with you. Without fear of being convicted, pristyzhonnymi, misunderstood. This is what they want.

Ultimately, that's what you want.