5 things that are not capable of a weak personality
A Life / / December 19, 2019
Andrew Yakomaskin
Teacher and writer. Divided in their inspiring stories group in the social network "VKontakte".
Indian revolutionary Mahatma Gandhi belong to the following words: "The ability to forgive - strong property. Weak never forgive. "
Divide people on the strengths and weaknesses may seem out of place. It is impossible to determine exactly what is the criterion. However, there is one suggestion.
Weak people - one that is not capable of being happy. He is full of fears, avoids responsibility and live past mistakes. Strong is not typical. He wants only one thing - life filled with happiness for yourself and loved ones.
The two groups have little in common but a lot of differences. Most of them is in regard to the life and deeds, which are not capable of a weak personality. That's what I tell you today.
1. Apology
Embarrassed to ask for forgiveness. When we do this, we have to admit they were wrong, but it beats the ego. But those who still obtained, Gain peace of mind and strength of spirit. And that's why.
The pain that causes a person does not disappear without a trace. This is true for both sides, though weak and people believe the opposite. They cling to the quick, go, but begin to suffer from neurosis, "Why did I do that? Why do not fix it? "And in the end suffer more than those who have offended.
Do not be afraid to ask for forgiveness.
This makes us more human in the eyes of others and brings mutual calm. But do not rush to search for those to whom you are guilty. To get started, simply right to admit that something you might be wrong.
2. Request for help
Asking for help is as difficult as to apologize. These items are inextricably linked. Please forcing people to admit that he does not know how to deal with the problem. However, if we have done wrong, it is necessary to ask for help from those who can guide us.
The thing is, who to turn to the issue. If you want to get pragmatic advice - consult a professional. But if you just bother doubt, talk with someone who will listen to your story. Perhaps together you find decision.
To ask for help - it means not to be afraid of his own shortcomings. Therefore, if you do not know what to do - ask. Not necessarily follow every advice, just look at the problem through the eyes of strangers.
3. Optimism
"Gray road, gray sky, gray person" - as my friends describe cityscapes. And infrequently there are people with a sincere smile - simply because they want to please others, not because they got paid.
Optimism is given a hard time. That's why hold this view of life only the strong people.
Their secret supports good mood: thoughts, things, people who at any moment can boost morale. To create such a support, it is worth regularly ask, "What makes me happy?"
And to these supports is not blown away sadness, need fewer access the main source of all anxieties - past and future. After all that, and another - it's just a thought in the present. So, if we look for inspiration in this, The past and the future will always be happy.
Unfortunately, there is no guarantee that you will not suffer any more. But the main difference between the strong personality of the weak: in the strong hope is always there.
4. Sincerity
In 2004, Frank Warren printed 3000 blank cards and handed them out to passers-by with a request to share any secret. He is not much hope of success, but this week it occurred more than a hundred cards filled. Today, the number exceeded one million, and the Frank became the founder of the project "Post Secret", where people continue to send postcards with intimate confessions.
People tend to be genuine. They want to share their experiences and fearsBut do not know how to do it. And when they find a suitable way, the gain a little peace of mind. After all, so they understand what you need to fight. For example, here is the text of one of the cards that have come to Warren:
"By profession I am a firefighter, and I fear that the day will come when I will not be so brave as it should."
Not necessarily shout their secrets publicly. To begin to admit because of experience, and only then look for who to share with.
You will be surprised to know how many problems can be avoided if the time to decide to be sincere.
5. Freedom and responsibility
Here is what Konstantin Raikin once said about freedom:
"Freedom means a lot of foreign" no "inside: you can not steal, you can not be rude. And not because someone is banned, but because you did so decided. "
To be free can only be a strong personality, because freedom means discipline and obligations. You need to constantly remind yourself that you can and can not do. Granted, this is a paradox, but it is possible to be free, for example, civil or parental responsibility?
If you want to be free, to decide what obligations follow what your principles, values, which you practice. Weak personalities do not, they fall under the influence of the outside world and called it freedom to choose for them.
In other words, to be free, you need to submit your values.
Finally
At the qualities and actions that I mentioned have in common - their purchase or commission requires effort. To apologize, you need to overcome your ego. To remain optimistic - to withstand external stimuli. To be free - to strictly follow their convictions.
This confirms the idea that everything worthwhile in life we have not just. For the sake of this we have to fight and make sacrifices. But if you're willing to work on themselves, the result will not take long.
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