Simple and complex truths that people find in their 20s
A Life / / December 19, 2019
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Follow that tells you the heart, not as easy as it seems
- I work hard - that's not all. You from childhood were taught that in order to succeed in life, you need to work hard and a lot. If you still think that the hard work in front of you opens all doors, then think twice. Be smarter and smarter, do not forget that many decide to communications, so not only to faithfully perform their duties, but also the crank contacts with the right people.
- If you've got a good job, it does not mean that you get rid of all the problems with money. After settling on their first job, many 20-year-olds think that financial problems will affect them no more. But, dear friends, the thought of money will never leave you alone, because you pay the bill will have throughout life.
- Good friends hard to find. As a rule, the best of friends, we are in school or university. Colleagues can be good friends who are willing to help you in many ways, but they rarely become best friends, mostly just friends.
- Life is not fair. Life has never been fair and had such will not. The sooner you get used to this fact, the easier it will be to go through life. You will not always reward for good work. If you are a loving and caring person, it does not mean that your boyfriend or your girlfriend one day will not leave you. You will have a lot to blame the fact that they are unjust towards you. But remember: Life is not necessarily fair.
- Follow that tells you the heart, not as easy as it seems. You something to enjoy. It can be a photo, or music, or maybe you want to start their own business. If you want to realize your dreams and plans in life, you have to take the risk. Many people are afraid to take risks and in 20 years, almost at the very beginning, to give up, that they like.
If I had known in my 20 years that ...
Now I regret that I did not know in my 20 years that:
- Love hurts, but that's no reason to give up on love.
- Friendship is very important in life is more important than your job.
- No one is irreplaceable. You are replaceable. There are thousands of people in the world who are able to deal with your employment is better than you.
- Marry / marry - it is an important decision that can affect your entire life. This is not the case when you can make a decision rashly.
- Take care of your health. It is very short-lived.
- Find a hobby that you would like, it is just as important as finding a job, which will be engaged with pleasure.
- Do not compare yourself with others, it will lead to only one disappointment.
The media loves to feed us stories about lucky that at the right time in the right place and thus achieve success. But such people - an exception to the rule, and the remaining 99.99999% living on the earth will have to work hard to realize their dreams in life.
- High expectations give rise to great disappointment. Down to earth and do not put yourself unachievable goals.
- Do not complain. Or change what you do not like, or to reconcile and not Retrieve your lost.
- Do not be discouraged because of the low salaries, which, most likely, you will first get on the first job. Who is for you the main thing - is to gain experience, to become a master of his craft. And the money will make after.
- Do not look down on others.
- Failure - is not a reason to give up. This is a great opportunity to try again.
- If you know what to blame, apologized.
- If you are just a man, do not remind him, and do not bring yourself to your old resentments - is low.
- Everyone needs an editor. Absolutely everything. Even by the editors.
- Watch your thoughts. They are really strong influence on your life.
I'm still learning - is not always possible to adhere to this list, despite the fact that I myself created it. But I'm trying.
Quarter life crisis
Here's what I learned during the "crisis-quarters of life":
- Do not pay the debts of tomorrow today. Students - the main target for creditors. You will promise mountains of gold for a very small percentage, but in the end you will pay in two, maybe even three or four times more. Do not take credit unless absolutely needs.
- Success does not come to you for a reason. You have to make a hell of a lot of effort to achieve it. As a child, we are often taught that you need to follow your dream and never settle for less. We were told that the most important thing - is to love your job. Undoubtedly, this is very good, but reality quickly dispel the boyish. You can work on the work that I enjoy, but to succeed in it, you will have to make a lot of effort. Do you want to become a famous artist or an artist? Constantly training, hone their skills, draw 10,000 paintings or give 10 thousand concerts. It's hellishly difficult, but constant practice, the daily efforts - is the only way to success.
- I do not know in 20 years, where to go, that's fine, but it can not be an excuse to sit idly by. 20 years - perfect age when you feel really free: You have no family, you want to provide, and that needs to be taken care of, you have not yet realized what real a responsibility. If you do not know what you want, then most likely, you still know what you exactly want, so do not do the work, to which you do not belong to the soul. If you do not want to continue their education, begin to actively look for an area that will get you close. Do not miss a single chance, communicate with new people who are employed in various fields, and then you notice how many new doors will swing open in front of you.
That's what I think about it. But I'm sure that's not all, because this is a very profound question.
In 25 years, I know that ...
Now I am 25, so I'm not sure I can give a complete answer to this question, but still.
- school is over. Now you myself teacher. You will not put marks for what you are doing. It may seem shocking, but sometimes I'm still waiting for the approval of their actions by someone from the outside. You must learn to rely on themselves rather than wait for someone else tells you what is right and what is not.
- Life is not a smooth asphalt road. It is a winding mountain path. We are often taught in schools and colleges, which at the time of issue of your life must be completely painted: who want to work in what city live, the age at which you want to marry / married, etc... But life - it is not a plan on paper. Of course, such a plan will help you, but remember that life is not all and not always happen the way we planned. Be prepared for the unexpected.
- take care of yourself. When we are young, we do not think about their health and we believe that with us will never happen nothing wrong. 20 years - it's time to stop being immature teenager and start eat right, Get enough sleep, exercise regularly and give up bad habits.
- Learn to forgive yourself. Each of us did, does and will make mistakes throughout life. It is very difficult to admit their mistakes, but even more difficult - they learn to forgive yourself. Do not be too hard on yourself. Remember that nobody is perfect. Learn from your mistakes, but do not do samoedstvom.
- Do not judge others. You should always have their opinions, but remember that you do not have to be the judge of all and sundry. I love to compete, always defend your opinion, but remember that no one is obliged to agree with me. As I do not have to agree in everything with others. Try to treat others impartially and always think before you say something.
- Do not go to extremes. 20-year-olds often fall into two common extremes: some still see themselves as children and continue to live carelessly and constantly entertained, not thinking about what awaits them tomorrow; and the latter, like a mantra, repeated: "I'm an adult and responsible person" - and the head goes to work. Throughout the necessary measure. Do not forget to enjoy life, but remember that you have both obligations.
simple lessons
I'm almost 30 years old, and I was fortunate to meet wonderful people who taught me important lessons. Here are some of these lessons:
- In 20 years, you have to make a choice a few times, the fruits of which you will reap a lifetime. Here, everything is important, even the little things. Come to everything with the mind, do not make rash acts.
- Even if you graduated from high school and university, it is not a reason to stop learning. Learn throughout life.
- Surround yourself with people who will help you to achieve goals. Indeed, sometimes we just need advice of a loved one, it is sometimes necessary to someone pushed us, told us, "Hey, man, you will do it! Be courageous! ".
- Always have your opinion, but do not forget to listen to others.
- Praise yourself for your progress and never stop there.
tezisno
- Time - the most valuable resource that you have ever had.
- No one and nothing in the world is not what it seems, including yourself.
- Success comes not to the most intelligent, but those who are able to make decisions.
- Only real moment. Tomorrow may never come.
Oasis is no longer
Fortunately or unfortunately, but most of the 20-year-old grew up in an oasis. Family, school, even the police - all harmless and indemnify you from the real world.
And now you are 20 years old, you enter into the adult world, but just can not stop being a child. But the world has changed - no one else cares about you as before.
You no longer so easy to make friends at school: the world's adults own rules, there is often "friends" on the basis of the benefits that one can get through another, not because you fanateete one rock band or are sick of the same football command.
For the police, you are no longer a child, which must be protected. You are a witness or a suspect.
The company in which you work - this is not a school. You do not always praised for their achievements, and to expel you can at any time.
Parents no longer force you to wear a hat or dinner - you are self-explanatory. If you do not care about yourself, then you do not care about anybody.
Make your own choice
I think that the hardest thing for a 20-year-old man - is to make their own choices.
No one knows how it will correct.
Often young people bury their dreams and plans due to the fact that parents, peers and the media impose on them a completely different model of life, assuring them that their childhood dreams - this is something that will never make them successful people.
It is important to remember that this is your life, and that the choice you have to make yourself. And most importantly - no one knows how it will correct.
15 truths
- Your mom will always be your best friend.
- We have always been taught to be honest, but sometimes you need to be tricky.
- Everything is temporary.
- Money talks a lot. It's a sad truth, but it is.
- Do not get stuck in the past. Life goes on.
- The road to success is never easy.
- Man is able to change a lot of what he does not like.
- People are willing to do anything to achieve what they want. Prepare to be that even friends can betray you.
- No one is perfect, everyone has their weaknesses. It is important to take them.
- You should always be a hobby - it will save you from boredom.
- Do not waste your loved one because of foolish pride. If you are wrong, go and apologize.
- Patience works wonders.
- Do not judge others, as they say, on clothes.
- Be an optimist. If you have something still does not work, be sure to get in a short time. Provided, of course, that you attach to it enough effort.
- Life is short. Live it so that you have something to be proud of.
about the consequences
Everyone should understand that all actions have consequences, and to disentangle these effects have not mom and dad and you.
Think before you do something, think before you say something.
You are free
Now I am 25 years old and I often notice that my peers do not want to take a simple truth - we are free.
They all want to buy mortgage house and for over 10 years to pay for it, get married / get married, have a baby, buy a car on credit heaped... The list is long.
I have nothing against his wife, children and his own house, but not now. Now we are free from the obligations and silly to spend this time in vain.
I can go away for a weekend with friends in another city, and I do not need to report to anyone. I can collect my backpack and go in the 10-month journey, as I'm going to do now.
I'll get invaluable experience. And what will my friends? Their life from the beginning to flow for a given track: home - work - home.
Remember that a couple of years it's worth to live only for ourselves.
proceed
You are very young, you want to achieve a lot and a lot of dreams, but do not take action. Do you think that happiness is waiting for you just around the corner.
Discard the ephemeral dreams, start to act. Put clear objectives. Yeah, maybe you do not become an astronaut as a child dreamed of, but you can choose other, equally important profession that will help you make the world a better place.
Ask questions
I'm almost 30 years old, and most importantly, what I realized:
If you do not ask questions, you do not get a response.
You have whole life ahead. But it goes with every second
- All people are different. Humiliate and despise someone because of their age or nationality - so show myself weak and unworthy man.
- If you do not believe in yourself, no one will believe in you. You may be very capable and talented man, but what good is that if you do not use it?
- We live in a cruel world, but we do not have to live with a cruel heart.
- Always fight for what you believe.
- Yes, you have a whole life ahead, but it passes the second. Do not delay life later.
You do not get a second chance
- You are not omnipotent.
- You are not immortal.
- You never get a second chance to live my life again.
Keep this in mind.
What others think
In youth we are often concerned about what other people think about us. Relax. Everyone thinks only of himself. Others do not have time for you.
3 Council
- The plan, which you share with your fellow students during prom - it's just a beautiful speech that sounds cool. Not all our dreams come true.
- Not all problems come from other people. Some come from you.
- Nobody is obliged to disentangle the consequences of your mistakes. Count only on themselves.
What do you think about this?