How to make friends with fear
A Life / / December 19, 2019
As fear is perceived by society
Fear - an emotion inherent in absolutely everyone. If you are suddenly attacked the beast, do not consider yourself a hopeless coward. Believe me, even the most successful people sitting in the big chair, often concerned about the same problem. They, of course, seek the help of psychologistsAnd those, in turn, have it in exchange for primitive actions tidy sum.
Marianne Williamson, American writerLove - it is something with which you were born, and fear - what they have learned here.
Did you catch yourself thinking that is sometimes hard to cross the line and share worries with friends or relatives? It is natural. Suddenly ridicule and twist a finger at a temple, saying that you're an adult. If you encounter this problem, follow these simple recommendations will fall by the way.
"I'm afraid to look down!"
We consider the case of the normal reaction of the brain on high, rather than pathology. when abnormal fear - acrophobia - everything is much more complicated. As long as the situation does not become neglected, need tremendous work on himself. Do not throw to medicines, try yourself to make friends with your fear. Suddenly he would not be so terrible?
1. Define the trigger fear of heights
Write in a notebook what makes you afraid, whether view from the window of the tenth floor or travel by plane. When you understand how many missed feeding your fear, then, is likely to motivate themselves for further work.
2. Consider whether you physical harm threatens
Believe me, you do not fall out of the Ferris wheel, if you simply will take hold of the handrails. The maximum that you face - cold. The wheel makes more than a hundred laps a day, it is designed for heavy loads.
3. Relax
No wonder Buddhism followers preach harmony. Harmony begins with you, it can not be found elsewhere. Move your breath, calm mind, understand this: in fact, there is no reason for concern. All that is outside of you, you are not concerned. Try yoga and meditation. They are great to unload the brain and relax the body.
4. Gradually tame fear
Having passed all the steps and deciding not to slow myself phobia, you will be able to meet face to face with the height. Do not force yourself, do not start with a walk on the skyscraper alone. If it is impossible to overcome the alarming situation is simply out of control. Wander other or girlfriend in a high mountain, breathe fresh air. You will be surprised when you realize how many have lost because of the irrational fear.
Monster under the bed
You turn out the light, running from the lamp to the bed with the wind speed and quickly jump up under the covers: and then suddenly the monster will have time to grab the heel! Fear of the dark have not only children but also many adults. Often this is due to the imagination, which is activated by nightfall.
1. Try to break the habit of light
If you still do not turn off the night light while sleeping, it's time with this tie. Firstly, even dim light interferes with normal sleep and be ready for a new day. Secondly, it is a good idea saves energy! :)
2. Prepare for the day to rest in the dark
Think even talk to yourself about what you will be in the evening to dive headlong into the abode of fear itself. By the way, you can even record audio with a relaxation program and listen to it from time to time.
3. Compete with fear
And here you are in bed, and thought about the monster's not go... First, lower your legs, then straightened up and stand up. Move the breath and look under the bed. And if you see a monster, call Ghostbusters.
4. Change the very idea of the darkness
If you passed a stage with a daily training and can now rest without light, try to write down what you think about his fear of the dark. Maybe you call it a fluffy black beast that guards your sleep? Why not just tell the imagination!
"Everyone will look at me, so many of them!"
Some fear public speaking originates in childhood, when it is necessary to read the verse in kindergarten and then in school. Often after experiencing stress headache, often beating heart, sometimes you can plop into a swoon. The problem is that we are in favor not too often or at least once every two days, so simply are not accustomed to the attention of the audience. But also businessmen and politicians are a problem with that. Watch the movie "The King's Speech."
1. Train in front of the mirror
Experiment with facial expressions, gestures, a look that is right for you. Try to remember and apply it in the future. But such training should not be disposable.
2. Come up with toast
Even if you do not drink alcohol, then one way or another are selected on the gatherings with friends. Harvested at each meeting at least one interesting, literate toast, which is not limited to the wishes of happiness and health. Called toasts independently and not under duress. It is always easier to check!
3. Prepare for action
Ideally, the text of the speech is to be made by you; then you will know exactly what to say, even if you go astray from the written. Before you choose a theme, you need to posorfit on the Internet, to find evidence of the facts, analyze them, to be able to refute any comment on the part of, and not an inarticulate grunt, and ensure a clear voice.
Make for yourself a brief a plan that will build performance. Front of the mirror can try several times to tell the text, referring only to the plan. And again, in learning there is nothing to be ashamed of! Remember how to memorize the multiplication table.
Pay attention to the appearance. It will help you feel at altitude.
4. Be prepared for criticism
You should understand that all men have a right to their opinion. Yes, no one says you have to accept it and agree with it, but tolerance - an integral part of the success. Prepare yourself for the fact that listeners can express criticism, discontent, cynical and full of rush phrases skepticism. Be higher learning does not pass through a negative. Let it pass by, and you stay in the same classroom. :)
Say "no" to the suffering
Here are only the most common phobias. However, tips on how to make friends with fear, we can safely transform for themselves, under their own fear spiders or water ...
Now that you have on hand visual instructions, go for it! You can defeat any dragon, and achieve their goals, without giving up on any buns.