Why do we hate ourselves

Most often we hate:

• their abilities;
• your body;
• himself as a person;
• their relationship.

We will understand with everything in order.

abilities

Hatred of his abilities - that feeling that you are not good enough in that area, which "must" be a professional. A concrete example - grades in school. In adult life - the amount of income. You feel uncomfortable about this, work hard to achieve recognition, money, respect, in any field.

But you do not do it for work as such: you need to succeed, come what may. You customize the fear that life would have no meaning if it does not happen.

Often the person begins to build a career in a field where success can be achieved with a higher degree of probability (Law, finance, technology) - is a safe and secure, because there is much easier to put a special shield. As for the shield, he hides behind his success and prestige, but the true, deeper goals and desires may go unfulfilled.

Throughout his life, you pay for the shield (and the price is very, very high), but it is unlikely you'll see it in his youth. Therefore, in the media, we often encounter the tragic story of the life of "Man of successful Hollywood", which all jealous, but he felt only emptiness and dissatisfaction.

Body

Hate to your body - it's a feeling that the nature of your body that something is wrong. And this feeling takes many forms: it seems to you that you are too fat or too thin, or too high, or too low. Too hairy, hair, or not enough. Too dark or too light. Too flat. Too... And this feeling is the main cause of low self-esteem, which can unpredictably affect our behavior.

Problems with food (too much or too little), disorderly sexual life, anxiety disorders and dependence originate in the negative attitude towards one's own body.

personality

Hatred of the self - the feeling that you're the "wrong" people. It may appear, if you belong to a national minority. You may feel that you have "bad" sex. Sexual orientation, religious beliefs and other factors can also run the self-hatred. In general, the negative can occur for various reasons, but the reaction is formed on the same principle as in the case of hatred of his ability, only instead of a shield of the success and the money we are beginning to grasp at the shield of competence professionally. Other natural reaction - anger, which becomes hidden, suppressed part of your Self

Relationship

Hatred of the relationship - is the deep conviction that you have to be with a particular person and your relationship should be developed perfectly, but this is not happening. Therefore, it is forming a deep conviction that to you that something is wrong. Often the root cause lies in the parents - or they are divorced or not sufficiently express the love and approval of the child. For example, you think that you will be loved only if you are lucky, or if you are obedient, grateful. In general, you will be loved only if you - the ideal man.

We all think about it

We are all negative on yourself in one degree or another, and the only difference is in what proportions each of us mix these ingredients.

In other words, if your inner voice is prone to negativity, he often jumps from one of your "lack" on the other - so he hides to always be one step ahead. If you stop worrying on one occasion, he immediately begins to attack you on other fronts. "Well, you lost weight by 2 kg, so what? You're still not as rich as it could be. " Here we go again.

The hardest part of getting rid of self-hatred - is to understand what you're dealing with.

The danger may lurk deep inside, but that does not mean that one day the problem is not crawl out.

But more often we are simply afraid to look into his soul - who knows what we can find there?

But if you really want to stop hating a part of yourself, you have to find the true cause. And then resist the temptation to suppress the problem, drown it with alcohol or pills, or get away from it, after covering themselves as "urgent" or work with a head plunged into a new love.

The inner voice is a constant companion of your life, but do not trust him unconditionally. Understand the reasons for their behavior, understand how to get it into your overall boat and once again become a team. Do not let negativity drown you.