To succeed, to fail

We get used to be afraid of mistakes in school. If you put a deuce, then you are the worst. You failed, lost, and covered the shame of his name. And no matter what you drew a lesson from this, learned something new or not. With this approach to education is not surprising that in adult life we ​​are all wildly afraid of making a mistake and disgrace.

Despite our fear making mistakes - it is a common component of any business. A series of right and wrong actions - this is a normal process of performing any task. But even if you recognize it, the fear of making mistakes, escort you to the school, will not go away.

The very organic life on our planet - it is the result of trial and error in the long process of evolution. Why did you have to move forward in a different way? Without failure, you will not be able to correct mistakes, to change and become better. It turns out that a failure - it's a good thing.

Successful people make mistakes too

It is hard to imagine that successful people make mistakes, too, that they, too, are the failures and lapses. But this is so, and

failure historyWho share some successful people, just prove it.

• David Neeleman (David Neeleman), co-founder of the American budget airline JetBlue Airways, was dismissed from the post of Vice President of Southwest Airlines. Rich error experience and achievements helped him create his airline.
• Wanda Sykes (Wanda Sykes), a well-known comedian, actress and writer, awarded by the prize "Emmy", failed on the stage before her name became known.
• Howard Schultz (Howard Schultz), chairman of Starbucks, turned to 240 investors, offering his vision of modern European coffee houses, and 99% of investors refused him.
• Jesse Jacobs (Jesse Jacobs), the owner of the cafe chain Samovar Tea Lounge, walked 71 bank before received funding.
• Ben Zander (Ben Zander), conductor of the Boston Philharmonic Orchestra, has experienced failure at a very early age when his mother sent the composition of his works to the contest Art. When the results were announced of the contest, the judge said that the composition of Ben is so bad that it is not necessary to continue to make music.

Think of life as a game

Video game developers are constantly cites a study in which it appears that the players get the most pleasure from the game when they lose and try again.

Perhaps you also remember those times when during the game time in "Tetris" last block falls and the game ends or when Mario spends his last life and you click on the "Play again". Now you know more about this level, and you are one step closer to its passage.

Your brain knows that this is a video game, and does not accept defeat as a reason to give up. On the contrary, failure is seen as a delightfully interesting and exciting challenge. And you continue to playUntil you will pass the level (or until you get bored).

We develop through trial and error, and there is no reward better than to overcome defeat and solve a seemingly unsolvable problem. Failure stimulates the person to move forward and give him a chance to get better.

Failure teaches better than winning

Use failure as a tool for self-analysis and follow-up - it's a great attitude to life, and many people use it at full capability. For example, paraolimpiets and six-time world champion in the race on wheelchairs Jeff Adams (Jeff Adams).

Jeff does not allow disability stand in the way of his love for the sport, and iron determination helped him to win at Paralympic Games. Due to its failures Jeff has found the inner rod.

When I talk with the students, I'm talking about the races, which lost. Because the defeat taught me more. This time, when I grow up.

One of the most significant defeats Jeff took place during the Summer Games in Barcelona.

I took the last lap with two other guys, and in my head sounded something like this: "Today, my life will change. The last circle is impossible to me best. I'm at the finish line with only two guys, and just give the three medals. Success is guaranteed. " But I made the mistake of not sufficiently checking their gear.

Jeff seat broke on the last lap, and he flew out of the pram - face on the racing track.

I lost. And the best day turned into the worst. We are accustomed to the fact that the main thing - it is a victory. But perhaps more important than the defeat and suffering, and courage to overcome? We do not attach such importance to this as a victory.

I won the race in Sydney, and it was a wonderful day. But what I learned? It's great when you have a wonderful day? This is the strangeness of life, you learn much faster when it's not easy when things are not going smoothly.

Defeat - this is nothing, as a result. It may not be something that you had hoped, but it is a fact that can not be changed. You can not fight with facts or hide from them.

Surviving failure - means to get information. This is a new fact for further work. Now you have learned something they did not know before. Any results, good or bad, leading to new actions, supported by the new information with a calculated risk, and they bring you closer to your goal.

Change the meaning of the word

Let's change the attitude to failure, even changing the very meaning of the word. Here's how we think.

Let's try this.

Remember the circumstances of your life, that you (now or at the time) considered a failure. Using the new definition of the word, create a list of the failure of the two columns. The first will directly own failures, and in the second - what they have learned.

Fill both columns and see what you have learned through their failures. In this case, the memories of failures still can cause you a storm of negative emotions. This is normal.

Just focus on what you have learned through these defeats. In what way you grew up after that? How has your life changed in a positive way? What you're doing is not the same as before? How do you develop and maintain self-confidence to try again?

The failures as such there is nothing wrong. Bad if a person can not learn from your mistakes and grow thanks to such situations. That's a real failure.

Failures - a part of life

Craig Brewer (Craig Brewer), director of such hits as "Hustle & Flow" and "Black Snake Moan", also believes that mistakes and failures are necessary for growth.

At the very beginning of his career, Craig with friends and family decided to create a masterpiece of cinema. Abandoning their work in favor of dreams and investing in the project own money, they got down to writing the great American film.

Will it have? Craig responds with a smile: "It was a complete failure. It should be more about 30 000 dollars to dosnyat this film. And I do not think I ever undertake for it. "

And this failure was not the last. This was the first failure in the long path of Craig.

We all make mistakes. And quite often.

Fear of mistakes sits deep in every human being, but Craig has found for himself a way to deal with it. He believes that the failure - it's part of life. Painful part, which can be rough and dirty, but it is inevitable. So it should be easy to accept.

You know that you will occasionally lose. The only way to get better - it fail. So it fails. Let this process goes on as usual. Do not stop and do not delay it, because with age will only hurt more.

If people do not want to feel this pain, they get married and have children, then blame your family and circumstances, and in fact, just do not want to experience failure. So, if you want to achieve success, is experiencing failures.

Craig Brewer

How do I know what you stand

Randa UESS (Randii Wessen), a systems engineer at NASA's Jet Propulsion Laboratory, to apply for participation in the training program for astronauts 15 times in a row. And he was not accepted.

In its documents have letters from the failures of the graduate school, internships, aerospace companies, and even from the laboratory, where he now works.

"You can learn what it takes each person according to how he copes with problems, - said the rand. - What do you do when you receive a lousy rating? What are you doing when you get a rejection from the university? What to do when someone breaks the relationship with you? This is how you pull yourself out of trouble, it makes you stronger, and really shows you what you are worth. "

Anyone who challenges, risks losing. Who does not do that already lost.

Randa UESS

Defeat - this is not the end of history. In fact, it's not even defeat. Errors and epic failures - is a useful tool that helps you to follow in their path. Play it safe. Loses. Mistaken.

If things did not go the way you think about it, if you fall face in the dirt, review their methods and try again. Failure - it's just the result, nothing more. This is a series of lessons that need to learn to become a better version of yourself.

And how do you feel about failures?