Why "All the best - to children!" - incorrect installation

Traditionally, the child learns to live, looking at adults. Sure, you say, a lot of children important words how they should behave in a given situation, but all this does not go for the future, while you yourself do the opposite. So, what do you teach your children that follow parental dream to give them the best of everything?

Inattention to their health

A few years ago, walking across the expanses of the Internet, I came across a message mother of two unruly boys, which is not without pride, reported that, in spite of a sore throat, "from which much glands blackened," she cooks, walks with the children, cleaned the house and did not know any minute rest. This incomprehensible pride surprised me: the person acknowledged that the risk of the health of your heart, joints, kidneys (which is defeat these bodies threatens angina ported "on your feet") in order to have two healthy child lived usual life. But what would happened to them for three or four days in a dusty apartment, no walks, on sandwiches or semi-finished? Inattention to their health, which by default is worse than child passes from generation to generation.

Financial carelessness

Why do you take credit for the best stroller for infants and trendy envelope for discharge, in which your child will hold an hour down the road from the hospital? The baby should be warm and dry, diapers and a blanket - the top of its needs. For many years the child will not care what it looks like and how much is his clothes. Buying expensive toys and clothes just because in the yard all the same, and the infinite indulgence of children's whims in the store show the child that he can get whatever he wants at any time. The independent life it is waiting for some nasty surprises and, quite possibly, a string of credit because of the inability to temper their appetites.

Neglect of a

Unpleasant surprise "funny" photos, where a buffet breakfast for your favorite little girl - sandwich heart, and my mother's breakfast - it's cutting bread and cheese left over from square pieces of consumables. Maybe you dream that one day your children repay you in kind, will prepare beautiful and delicious breakfast will bring on a saucer. Someday they will surely do it for their children. And they themselves eat the scraps, as befits an adult. You continually infringed and hurt himself, adult, and teach children to do the same.

selfishness

Never give up food, the proposed child. Let it just plitochki from the smallest in the world of chocolate, the child gives it to you, because he loves and wants to share! Do not ruin this impulse in order that he ate more delicious. More tasty - is obesity, and the ability to share everything with your favorite - one of the foundations healthy relationships.

Disrespect for elders

It is true when all the best goes to the one who works more, and not the one who shouts louder. Why grow up child, if as an adult he will have more responsibilities, but fewer privileges? Aiming give the child everythingWhile he has not yet entered into the "real life", you deprive him of the opportunity to prepare for this life. Do not be surprised if your current desire to save himself for the sake of the child over the years become a child's desire to save you. Why do you have pozhivshim such a large apartment and a new car, when there is he - a child whose life has just begun, and it needs to start as well as possible?

Stop sacrifice themselves! Children need love, attention, warm family relationships, healthy parents. A child is not a living doll, not a status key chain is a member of your family. He should not be aware of all adult problems, because often can not adequately help in solving them, but should not live outside the family - in sterile conditions ideal, which his family can not afford allow.