How to stop criticizing yourself
A Life / / December 19, 2019
First, let's look at how self-criticism becomes an integral part of human life.
For some reason our model works
1. A circle
We walk around in a non-stop mode. It may sound as if we were in some kind of trap mind. But in fact, it is that the brain works in cycles, there is nothing wrong. On the contrary, this is great.
Stability, certainty, and our innate "Settings" helps us to stay afloat. It seems to us that we simply go by moving the legs. But each time when walking the brain works out the same program. We can simultaneously drive a car and listen to music. We are able to maintain a conversation and on the machine to perform several tasks. The same cycles are explained and our habits, values, and traits.
2. Criticism
Each inner critic sitting of us. His voice makes us work hard to achieve goals, overcome difficulties and achieve better results.
As well as the cyclical criticism peculiar to each individual. It holds us together, calls for logic, helps people become more successful and moves us forward.
3. Volume
Mind resembles a mixing console, where you can take off and add volume. With people changing over time. At a certain period of life some of the values and beliefs are included at full capacity, and some - and subtracting forgotten.
Why criticism does not always help
If the dominant inner voice is a criticism that drowns out everything else, you just hung up on her. Criticism is added to the entire volume, and you just can not disable it.
Most of us are too hard to imagine. Even those who seem to us from the ideal. Simply, we are convinced that to achieve something in this life and to become successfulWe have always laid out in full.
A spur us to our inner critic, which is not always expressed in our favor. Healthy criticism can push us to new achievements and unfounded - completely kill the motivation and the desire to move on.
How to stop criticizing yourself
To do this, start a conscious approach to their lives. Our inner voices throw up hundreds of thoughts, both positive and negative. Listen and accept them. Do not try to turn off the voices. Try to stifle self-flagellation, and turn up the volume of the voices that cheer, help to overcome the difficulties and criticize the merits.
Gradually, your mind will be reconstructed on the conscious criticism. This will help to achieve more effective ways.
- Keep a journal and write to all of your thoughts and emotions. This will help you understand what the criticism is unfair and prevents moving forward.
- Observe daily five good things that you did or that happened to you. Be sure to write them down so that you can re-read and charged positive.
- Practice mindfulness meditation. It will help you calm the mind and learn to listen to your inner critic as if from outside, did not dwell on his rebuke.
If you try to do it every day, then a week later you will surely feel the change.