The trick in focus, or how to keep order in his life

Your mistakes do not teach anything

They say that people learn from their mistakes. But it turned out to be a curse that comes to visit me from time to time to catch defocus. If I were to succeed in anything, I shift focus and instead consolidate and develop the earned success, take up my new business, leaving the old to work on autopilot.

In the yard in February 2015, and, until recently, I tried in vain to combine the management of the DJ-school and teaching (two country), writing music, cafe management and patronage, writing articles and books, internet marketing, and DJ career performances. Not only that, I'm still doing the booking and am a member of the board of directors for the creation and management of clubs.

I'm tired. I started smoking (though I rawfoodist and vegan). I'm thinking that sometimes drinking alcohol (which I do not drink for three years in general). I do not write music for half a year and is prepared to Away for a couple of hours before the show. I almost did not go on the bike and the bike, of which I have three. I rarely go out to surf. I'm constantly on their toes, even if the cases as such are not available (prokrastiniruyu).

It is time to change something. And I know what it is. I want to invite you to an interesting journey, the purpose of which will focus on one or two matters, as well as creating an atmosphere and a life full of joy, happiness and fun.

life Audit

The first thing I decided to conduct an audit of its affairs, and look from the outside, what am I really doing most of the time, and from which there is the highest sense.

Best friend in this matter - table, Which conducts financial accounting from all the cases that could be seen on the same page as each deal brings money (be specific in the figures), and at what time consumption (gross interest will be enough). This table is very sobering, even defocused man.

I gave myself a month on the analysis of numbers (in January) and is now well see how much cares.

An important tip:

If you have the opportunity to go for a few days or a week at any secluded place where you will not get up to the hands of your affairs, it will be just fine. To make calculations in the peace and tranquility of the best: there is nothing to distract you from the realization of the fact that everything is sad.

Time for a change

Once the calculations are ready, and you can see clearly where the focus of attention shifted, and where there is a real return, set yourself the question: "Which of these cases I truly love and which ones bring maximum satisfaction and joy life? ".

Be sincere. if you love their job with all my heart, even the hard work or the lack of income will not confuse you. But if you only think that you like this business, then in moments of silence you feel catch easily.

Be ruthless

Here and now give up in the head from unnecessary work, a little later, you think about how with minimal loss or even a profit to give up on a variety of them. In the meantime, just put them on the cross in my head. You feel this lightness? A pair of sandbags removed from his shoulders like? So, you're moving in the right direction.

Do not be afraid of losses

Believe me, many things that you have been doing, in fact, it is very overrated in your mind. You have inflated their value and it is in your power to blow off her back.

Psychologically it is very difficult to give up any cases, if you've already invested so long to get strength and energy. It reminds Gambling: large loss makes players more play or go for broke.

But you must clearly understand:

The most valuable resource - time.

And if you see a head and the figures that the business has no future, the sooner you stop, the more time and money to actually save.

Do not be afraid and cut to the quick. Here and now we are building our future. And it requires a change.

Understand what is important

Understand the fact. Life is not so much to to spend her to unloved thing, obscure people and uninteresting hobbies. Life - a toy store, and we are free to choose something with which we want to play. And based on that shape your life.

Every day, ask yourself these questions:

What you are doing now, is really what you need?

Whether this activity brings happiness?

It makes happy to wait for the next day and wake up without an alarm clock?

Does this activity brings benefits?

Are you inspired?

If the answers to these questions you are not happy, you chase this thing off. There is nothing more precious than time. And the more you spend it on business unloved, the more you create byproducts.

offal

In the defocus and unloved business class has an interesting side effect. I call it the offal. The longer you do such things, the more you will not accrete you are interested in information, communication, dating. You become a professional in case you are not interested in your communication experience even more are buried in it.

Nothing is permanent temporary.

So do not be comforted with the thought that in this job you have only six months. Most likely, you're stuck here for a long time.

My parents worked all his life to the work that they were not pleased. They retired with the words "finally" and immediately left for good in the city in which lived 35 years. I thank them madly, that by giving so many years unloved work, they provided a decent life for our family, but not sure if it was the only way out.

Constant tension and stress

Another side effect of overload works: you are always tense. On weekends, in the evening, with friends, with my family. Your phone is ringing off the hook, SMS and messages from social networks. You constantly check the box or, even worse, you are notified.

You're not here and now. You somewhere between his countless affairs and reality.

We are not eternal

Many of us behave as if live for eternity. But this is not the case. We strictly time-limited stay on this beautiful planet, and the need to constantly remind ourselves of this.

What is really important to you?

What would you do if half a year left to live?

With whom would you spend that time?

Disturbed would have many of the problems that worried now?

It is not necessary to live one day and indulge in all serious. But to know and remember that we are not eternal, it is very important. Understanding this will change your attitude towards life, environment, work, family.

Make your priorities in life, do not waste your time on a smaller, and everything will turn out right.

A month later

So, I spent spring cleaning in my life and decided to finish the article, sharing the results with you.

I gave up extra cases and focused on two interrelated - DJ school and DJ career. I began again to write music, and as early as March comes my first tech house release (tracks are already written and sent to the label).

I gave up smoking. I said "no" unimportant. I said "no" to many people. I said "yes" sport, recreation, reading and spiritual communication with loved ones.

I would not say that all this was hard. On the contrary, the world itself has gone to meet me and did everything possible to purge was painless. In my heart really it becomes easier, but with shoulders dropped a couple of bags of cement.

Now your turn

Books below will help you to carry out the cleaning process is particularly interesting and with maximum benefit:

• «Rework: Business without prejudices"Jason Fried and David Hansson Haynemayer;
• «Essentialism"Greg McKeon.

Book from smoking - "Easy Way to Stop Smoking" by Allen Carr. It is also very helpful to quit smoking a change of scenery to the people around you do not smoke and do not even pack flickers. At least the first time.

And finally.

Friends, do not run your life, but always to maintain order.

If you do not keep track of what you are doing, your world is full of rubbish and waste.

Do not allow this, and always, I ask you to always maintain awareness and ask yourself the right questions. What I am doing is really important, it makes me happy, help others? If the answer is "no", then you think about it, it is necessary to do it at all.

A photo: Dennis Yablonsky