How to live life with no regrets

How often do in your life it happens that some objective circumstances force you to postpone a meeting with friends or loved ones? Do you have the feeling that you constantly do not have time to do something important?

In our everyday life, burdened by the load of various commitments, we often can not find time for what really want to do. Trying to catch everything at once, we have to stay at work, or even refuse to leave. As a result, many people regret that at one time incorrectly set our priorities.

What were the consequences of the wrong choice is fraught with the priorities? According to psychologists, pretty sad. And what, after many years, people tend to regret the most.

Frustrated relationship

According Soltts Gail (Gail Saltz), professor of psychiatry at the Presbyterian Hospital in New York, many regret that have not kept relationships with their halves. The reason many partings - excessive concern career. Often, in order to maintain the relationship, one partner has to go to certain sacrifices. But not everyone is ready for these victims.

Nowadays, many people believe that to give up career for the sake of the other person is unreasonable. And do not give up. As a result, these people really succeed, but regret that at one time did not try to save the relationship.

Gail Soltts

lost friends

Author of the book "If Only: how to transform sorrow into opportunities' (If Only: How to Turn Regret Into Opportunity) Neil Rose (Neal Roese) notes that the loss of other people often experience no less difficult than the loss of a loved one.

When, spending days and nights on the job, you are paying too little time to communicate with your friends, you are setting yourself up for future regret. Rose said that, as a result of the set of surveys, people are very much worry because of lost friendship, because the more time passes, the more difficult to find a true friend.

Doing sedentary lifestyle

It's easy to run itself, sitting all day at your desk and letting the evening workout because of terrible fatigue. However, if you neglect exercise, it not only affects your overall health, but also on your productivity. And with the years to allocate time regular exercise It becomes even more important.

According to studies, regular exercise help to slow down the aging brain (sometimes even 10 years). According to Dr. Soltts, young people are well aware that followed the abandonment of the exercise, but do not attach any special significance.

We tend to assume that we somehow just did not happen.

Gail Soltts

Alas, it is not. Therefore it is necessary to take care of your health now.

Inattention to health

Similarly, in the case of training, we forget that we need to look after their health. It is important not to ignore medical check-ups, preventive campaigns to the doctor and in time to be tested. If you do not pay attention to this, you risk to miss important warning signals that the body sends you. In this case, the doctor will not be able to provide you with timely assistance. In the presence of many diseases is extremely important, how fast they are diagnosed. On this depends the favorable outcome of the treatment.

Exposure to stress

According to experts in the field of stress management in modern conditions and constant rebooting Pressure of various stress factors, many people suffer from the consequences of lack of attention to this pressure.

It has long been proven that prolonged stress leads to various mental disorders. It is therefore very important to learn to cope with stressful situationsUntil they have caused damage to your health.

Psychologists are advised to allow time for it to analyze all the influences you stressors. You can do it yourself or take the help of a therapist. Then you will have to make an effort, as if you were going to go on a diet or quit smoking, and to do everything possible to reduce the influence of these factors to a minimum.

Try these ways to deal with stress, like meditation, exercise and breathing practices. Take advantage of every opportunity to reduce the impact of stress on your body.

Decision making by the action fear

Research clinical psychologists have shown that people often tend to regret the missed opportunities. They worry that, for fear of failure, criticism or other negative consequences, abandoned for something really important. Rather than take a risk and follow their dreams or to listen to the voice of intuition, people take wrong decisionsThat affect the rest of their lives.

In addition, under the influence of fear, many tend to compromise their principles. For example, fear of losing their jobs, people often act contrary to their own ideas of morality, conscientious work and professionalism. As time passes, they often have to regret these actions.

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Of course, it is difficult "podstelit straw" and develop a strategy for behavior that would help to avoid regrets. However, now you know what most people are spared and you can try not to repeat their mistakes, and correctly to place priorities in life. And now that advises Neil Rose:

All of us are sorry about something. Some mistakes we can forgive myself. We resort to rationalize and find reasons to explain their behavior. But there are those unfortunate to live with that very hard. So just imagine yourself a very old man, living out their last days. What would you feel sorry most of all? Perhaps the answer to this question will help you make the right choice and to live my life differently.