How to reverse itself in 12 months and become better than you are

At one point in my life, I realized that something was missing in me: like live, but that something is not right and wrong. He looked at himself in the mirror, walked alone one intense training, read a couple of books developing. I made a disappointing conclusion that I have a bunch of bad habits, hardly spend time to your health, do not use popular with the girls, the level of organization of my rolls, and besides, I'm often on the solution of complex life tasks.

After this realization in me that something has shifted and pulled ahead of me: of course, not immediately, but took it towards the goal - to become betterThan I am. I picked up this feeling and worked on himself for 12 months. Now I can say with confidence that the algorithm works mentioned below and would like to share it with the readers Layfhakera.

No matter how many days in your life, it is important, how much life is in your days!

Sport

It all starts with sport and its implementation in his life. We start with the basic exercises, but they should perform every day. These are simple exercises: squats, the press (trunk lift), push-ups. It begins with a repetition of 5 times each day increased by 1 times, can be performed by two passes per day. A month later, you will squat 35 times, doing abdominal exercises and push-ups 35 times 35 times. Then you can increase the number of repetitions when necessary, but be sure to do it every day.

Each person needs to find their sport, and you should not go on about fashion: all the running around, then - run, do yoga all means - yoga. Look for a sport that is completely you will have to arrange, load, interest, time, financial component, people. He has to become an extension of your essence.

I tried for a year yoga, Gym, boxing, running, swimmingJiu-jitsu, aikido, cycling. At the same time he engaged in a number of species in a few months. It was a great time, as to my health, it was an absolute benefit, as well as more and more I realized exactly what I want from the sport.

My choice fell on jujitsu and swimming - it's the basis of my sporting development. Now it is for life, as the pleasure that I get in the classroom, it is difficult to put into words, and my successes in this field only reinforce this belief.

books

Have to to read and read a lot. Great result - a 40-50 books a year. I read 42 books and I understand that 50 books a year - this is real. The main thing - not stopping to read. And, of course, do not watch TV and do not linger on the social networks.

Read only for the development of the mind: psychology, Russian and foreign classics, self-development, finance - no bulvarschiny or entertaining books.

Outline the essence of reading that book impressed or did not like, remember the quote. So you train your memory and will always be able to surprise his interlocutors clever sayings from books.

Very influenced me the book Ayn Rand's "Atlas Shrugged" by its fundamental and powerful dialogues and situations, similar to the events of my life.

My morality, the morality of reason, is contained in a single axiom: reality exists in one choice - to live. Everything else flows away. To live, one must assume the higher and decisive values ​​of three things: mind, Aim, Self-esteem. Reason as the only instrument of knowledge, as the purpose of the choice of happiness, which is the instrument should reach, Self-esteem as an unbreakable confidence that he is capable of thinking and his personality worthy of happiness, which means worthy of life. These three values ​​require of all human virtues and all its virtues are related to the ratio of existence and consciousness: rationality, independence, purity, honesty, justice, efficiency, proudly.

Ayn Rand's "Atlas Shrugged"

Discipline

What distinguishes the strong personality of the average person - is discipline. Regardless of your mood, motivation, external circumstances, family relations to do what is necessary at any given time.

Learn to swim against the current life circumstances, to educate themselves so that the internal state does not depend on what is happening around. It was very hard and not just all turned out as they were failures. But again and again I went ahead with the support of family and inner desire to pass this way, come what may.

Where can I start? From morning ritual. Here is a simple and effective method for honing of discipline: on Ring the alarm immediately get up, wash, you turn on the music, doing exercises with strength training, then - a contrast shower, healthy breakfast (not fried and sweet) and reading a book (you can on the way to the office).

So you need to do, until you have to perform it on automatism and without forcing yourself. It took me 3 months, sometimes, of course, there were failures, especially after the overloaded days. I recommend to anyone who wants to change their way of life, to develop his morning ritual.

We must learn to control yourself, your speech, gait, eyes and gestures. Wherever you are, at home, at work, in the gym, you have to exude confidence and act without fuss. Remember the principle of feedback even if you yourself do not feel this is a sense of confidence and self-discipline will come.

A very useful exercise for the development of inner strength - despite all their natural fears, not to look away from the source, from passing by people who look you in the eye. Frankly, I have helped in this martial arts. But also look good and warm eyes, showing that you are tuned friendly.

To educate myself, I learned to indulge in the pleasures of: bars, alcohol, sweets, cigarettes, impulse purchases, idleness, idle talk at work. It might not come immediately, but we have all the time to think about it, to work in this direction. And one day I said to myself, "Yes, I do not drink for three months and I do not eat sweet for two months."

I attended sports classes or courses in spite of the mood, circumstances, weather, and my motivation. Schedule and perform it, gave up all their favorite excuses. I like to come into the room when others something stopped, and when associates were willing to support me in this endeavor.

And most importantly - we must learn to control yourself when little turns and going around the mess. Be an island of serenity and cold exposure.

Finance

Get a financial magazine. Keep it a month, second, third, and do not stop. And not just his lead, and analyzes each month, and where it is going, why and how to fix it.

I had to spend more on coffee - 1300 rubles per month. I knew it was time to reduce the amount, and now the level of spending on coffee - 600 rubles a month. Coffee - a weakness of mine, of which I do not want to get rid of.

Many say that the magazine - a useless thing: "I already know how much I spend and earn." And you try to drive it 1 year with an accurate analysis and graphs and see the whole picture of your financial literacy or illiteracy.

Keep yourself in a financial austerity, stop to buy something that is not necessary or imposed by advertising and acquaintances. The majority of our purchases are useless and will not be useful in life, and it is safe to do without them.

Find extra income, even if it is small, but it zamotiviruet you to even greater achievements. Let this be an increased load on the work, extra work (of any size), freelancing, sale of unnecessary things, the training of others. Error majority - everyone wants a lot of money in the early stages, and it does not happen. You're at work not just to earn a lot, and everything in life gradually.

Relationship

This point applies more to men, who have not found your soul mate, or even do not want it, what I was. If you are one and you have a lot of time, skill, develop love with girls. Sign up for dating sites, meet in cafes and on the streets, talk in the gym, ask your friends about the girl friend.

Try different communication strategies: a gentleman, macho, modesty, athletic guy. Meet girls smarter than you, accept it, to conquer them.

In various situations, not everything will turn out not the words, not the method, not your people, the failure in bed. But you do not stop, you must temper it.

And over time, you learn to understand the opposite sex and learn to easily start a conversation, make beautiful compliments. Girls will often reciprocate, feel in you an interesting person. But do not be arrogant, look for one that will assess your quality of "uncut", and be loyal and faithful to her.

If simple - love, suffer, conquer, expenses and start anew. Become those with whom you want to spend time with whom to be comfortable in all situations, be able to understand and listen to the other person. And remember that your other half can always get away from you, so enjoy every moment together.

skills

Begin to develop skills that you previously did not have, for example, swimming breaststroke, skoropechatanie, contextual planning, kontravariynoy driving. Master them, find a mentor on the subject, go training. Such achievements are developing personality, make it versatile.

Also, you will learn how to deliberately go out of their comfort zone and overcome fear, which later will be your driving force. All great achievements start with small victories over himself.

Over the past 12 months I've been doing what has never worked before: heavy strength training, meditation, training children, training, asceticism.

Spirituality

Identify your values ​​in life, create an inner and social rules, get your "I".

Finally, find an answer to the eternal question: "Why am I here? What is my mission? "

How? Ask yourself important questions, do not look at other people who drift like a boat in the ocean, become the reference point both for themselves and for others. Read spiritual books, visit spiritual places and, finally, create your own picture of the world order. This is very important because you will be steadfast and you will own faith. Not the one that is shown in the media, namely its interior.

Most people are afraid to ask themselves tough questions and closed materialism, as I do at the time, but it's a dead-end branch of development. Clothes and household bustle not close, they will not give you the happiness that you feel when will gain something important inside, which will lead you on.

healthy habits

As soon as you get rid of bad habits and structural change, you will need other habits - and better, so that they are useful.

For example, if you talk a lot, you learn to be silent and listen to the interlocutor, even if you already have itchy tongue - silent.

If you eat a lot of sweet, replace it with nuts or dried fruits, do not eat so much chocolate and of cookies, washed down with sweet tea.

From TV and Internet addiction great save books. Just the brain no longer wants to "liquefy".

If nothing is planned at you and everything happens for a reason, get a notebook, sign all your tasks for the day, week, month. Write down the thoughts that come to you, fresh ideas, describe events and people. Keep accounting and analysis of their lives.

If smoke, roll and immediately hit the sport, preferably one in which light to expel all of the resin work most.

The algorithm of structural change yourself for 12 months

• Sport load every day. For a long time to decide his sport, to deal with it, in spite of everything, the whole year.
• Read a lot of books, 3-4 pieces per month. Record resume reading.
• Develop discipline. Indulge in the pleasures. Stay calm when there are "storm". Try each month indulge in something.
• Develop financial literacy. Keep financial magazine and find additional income for the year.
• If you are alone - look for your soul mate, and develop the skills of seduction. If you are not already one, fall in love again in his chosen one.
• Master new skills that had not previously possessed. Desirable - 1 Skill 2 months.
• Find the answer, why are you here, even approximate - will already be well. Take it for as long as you see fit.
• Acquire good habits instead of bad. This everyday work.

Victory over the other - that is the true success in life.

Change is difficult, but possible. The main thing - to want to put yourself interesting (and not so) goals and achieve them no matter what. All at once will not turn out to be a misfire, breakdowns, but the motion vector need to save, and you're sure will break the barrier of his weakness.

If you think that this requires motivation, or money, you're wrong: you only need one pure desire to become better than you are, and time, which is so little in our lives. But remember, there is no limit to perfection, it is a constant work on himself, and it continues until the end of your days. Developed person lives much happier than those who are weak in front of himself and gives way to life's circumstances.