How do you know it's time to change the psychologist
A Life / / December 19, 2019
Elena SokolovaPracticing psychologist and co-founder of "Moscow psychological laboratory 12," says that in the behavior and words of your psychologist should alert you, and may make people think about the change therapist.
Sokolov Helen (Artamonova)
Practicing psychologist, author of Women's training, co-founder of "Moscow psychological laboratory 12" and the Center "Women's World".
In recent years, increasingly friend and client share with me a negative experience with psychologists. Not always a person in a difficult situation, he can appreciate how professional works psychologist, since in such circumstances the criticality reduced borders easily upset, a person becomes more vulnerable. Many feel uncomfortable at the reception, but do not dare to change the psychologist. Sometimes - simply because they do not know what is permissible and what is a flagrant violation of professional ethics.
I decided to create a reminder - a list of what should at least alert you when communicating with the psychologist. And as a maximum - to push for a change specialist. If your psychologist does not say so himself, and is not - a super, hold on to it.
1. A request for the service of a personal nature
For example, a therapist, learning that the customer - an excellent programmer, asks him to make a website. Or get to know someone important, or borrow money - any request, which involves the use of client resources for personal purposes therapist, unprofessional, is manipulation and harm of therapy.
2. Lesson personal affairs during your consultation
During the consultation, the therapist suddenly decide to freshen up ( "You go on, go on, while I made up"), answers the phone, reading a book (by the way, are real cases). Remember that during the consultation you are entitled to 100% of your attention to the therapist.
3. Invitation to a personal dialogue sessions outside
Drink coffee, go along to the exhibition, a walk and a chat. Personal contact between client and therapist is available sessions, but it means the end of the therapeutic relationship. And it is better if these events will take place between the time. That is, you can be friends with a therapist in six months and it will be safe for your therapy.
4. Changing roles
If the therapist asks you for advice ( "What would you do in my place?"), Or talks about his difficult situation not as an example, a request for support from the client.
5. Any specific advice in a situation of customer choice
"You need to divorce / marriage / retire / move in with my mother." It is unethical, because it puts the customer in a subordinate and dependent position. In this case, the therapist takes responsibility for client solutions. A client can, and get temporary relief, but does not receive treatment and opportunities to learn how to make these decisions on their own - for what it is, most likely, and came to therapy as well.
6. The charges to the client
"You are to blame for the fact that you have so happened", "Are you difficult to work with, you resist, do not want to change, do not want to cooperate."
7. Depreciation in any form
"Your feelings - is nonsense that you and this way nosites, is worse."
8. Allusions instead of direct communication
9. Hints of mental inadequacy
The exception is the direct question on the diagnostic interview with the presence of mental illness.