How to stop being afraid of old age

Why are we afraid of old age

It is said that Russian anywhere in the world can be found on an anxious expression on his face. And I think this is the truth. We do not know how to live here and now - we are always in the future thoughts and dramatic experience every moment.

Concerns tomorrow afternoon we have inherited from past generations. Psychologists even coined a name for this phenomenon - "transgenerational transmission". In times of war, repression, coups and devaluations it was vital to think a few moves ahead. And to have the strength to cope with life's burdens, needed to stay healthy and young. Being old means becoming weak, the poor and die.

In favor of the fact that the horror of the coming age is it inherited from the parent generation, evidenced by the fact that his experience people younger than 40 years. That is, a person has no experience of their experience of old age, it is liquid in the labor market, running in the morning and has sex regularly, but every time I look at the elderly, internally cringe! Because "generic memory" of advanced years in ailments and need archived in our unconscious. Being old - scared.

Sociologists topic fears do not spoil attention. A recent study, when the Russians asked the question "What do you fear most?", Was conductedfears "Levada Center" in October 2017. So, two years ago, fear of old age in the survey results was in fifth place, after the fear of becoming poor and unable to function - that is, in fact, synonyms age.

Fear of old age - as a multi-layered cake. It's not only about the wrinkles on the face and high blood pressure. This is primarily a story about loss - of beauty, health, disability, friends and family, of life itself, in the end. About acceptance of oneself to others in some way imperfect. And, of course, about the feelings that accompany change: loneliness, helplessness, fatigue, envy, resentment, anger and resentment - everyone will find something to add to this list.

A good diagnostic sign that we are dealing after all with fearRather than anxiety. Anxiety - a vague state, which sucks the soul. It looks like a premonition. Fear - fear of something specific. It is currently identified enemy with whom you can fight if you wish.

Fighting the fear of old age often begins with the fact that more or less can control people: with exercise, injections of Botox and other "mesotherapy". When the smooth forehead and you have blocks on the media, to convince yourself that you are still "Hoo! Young! Richard is himself again! ", Much easier.

When fear turns into a phobia

Each box has a secret fear. Looking at it, we experience a fleeting feeling of sadness, an easy sadness or excitement. Mentally healthy people do not think about their fears permanently.

If fear takes hold of consciousness completely, it takes the form of phobia. Passion rejuvenation process becomes manic: diet, grueling load in the gym, plastic surgery.

It happens, and vice versa. The young man says: "I already 30I am old, what to strive for something? "And refuses to new projects, Me, no longer care for themselves. Fear of aging is so great that the person is trying to lose inevitable scenario as soon as possible.

In very advanced cases, an obsessive fear of aging manifested panic attacks, anxiety disorder, depression, hysteria. But these diseases can be cured with the help of psychotherapy.

How to stop being afraid of old age

Old age - a logical and inevitable conclusion of our lives. You can choose for yourself whether it is lonely and gloomy or active and joyful. As is the case with pension savingsMuch it depends on how you manage your vital resources now. And if you turn back the time, we can not afford, then take care of saving and growth of the most important assets we are able to, when knocks 60 years, we have something to do.

In connection with the onset of old age, we can enjoy a variety of negative feelings and thoughts. But they can be transformed into a force that will help to keep active and in a good mood, despite the years.

Let's look at the main concerns and eliminate that cause us to age thinking.

1. loss of Beauty

"Wrinkles and loose skin nobody paint. I hate itself so / a. "

• Destructive feelings: despair, disappointment, irritation, contempt, resentment, envy.
• Transform into constructive feelings: self-worth, respect, acceptance, gratitude, self-love, tenderness.

Love to yourself - is the internal state. You can look at myself in the mirror and have fun, and it is possible, even with elastic skin and poured the body, be displeased.

Usually on the exterior experienced by women. It is believed that "men, like good wine, with age becomes only better."

This, of course, is not true. In the modern world hard to give a definition of beauty: the standards are changing rapidly. But individuality is independent of time and age.

Vivid examples - age model. Carmen Dell'Orefiche, Linda Rodin, Benedetta Barzini his example proves that the years is not a hindrance active life, career and irresistible appearance.

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After all, we live in an advanced time, and rejuvenating treatments are available to all. But it is important not to overdo it.

2. loss of reason

"With age, with a head it becomes very bad. I lose control of the body. "

• Destructive feelings: anxiety, confusion, shame, despair, self-pity, hopelessness, alienation.
• Transform into constructive feelings: hope, curiosity, kindness and pride.

One of the manifestations of aging - loss of familiar features of the brain. The state of the mental body depends not only on memory and reaction time, but also the work of the endocrine, immune and nervous systems. We can say that brain health - a source of longevity of the organism as a whole.

Up to 80% of active time is spent in a state of light trance, "out of habit." Habit reduces the ability of the brain. After all, to work effectively it needs new experiences and challenges will involve all five senses. So do not be lazy to learn something new, pay more attention to self-development, learn new technologies. Look for hobbies that will provide income, you move forward and not let the brain age.

different lobes of the brain developed in the learning process, creating new neural connections. That is the number of neural pathways in the brain rather than its volume, play a crucial role in the development and preservation of the intellect.

You have in mind should not be a question of "what to do?" And "what to do?". Grow, dial "juice" that even in old age to be claimed specialist, to enjoy the work and to have a wide circle of friends. The lack of meaning in life can turn into an old man, even a man of 25 years.

3. Loss of health and physical strength

"I'm sick and infirm. They see me weak, and I feel worthless. "

• Destructive feelings: despair, anger, resentment, rage, humiliation, fear, sorrow, regret, sadness.
• Transform into constructive feelings: delight, excitement, liberation, interest, care, self-love.

"What 50 training- you might say - if you are already in the 30 dark eyes, when you get up from the sofa abruptly "Yes, and in his youth he may die of cancer?. Fear of disease, physicians and physical weakness inherent in most men, because they used to be strong and reliable for their loved ones.

Even the ancient Greeks talked about the connection between the soul and the body. First of all our health depends on the unconscious. If you do not timely work through your stress with a therapist, not enough rest, fill up with alcohol problems, neutolonnaya mental anguish is accumulated in unconscious and sooner or later there forms a complex structure consisting of negative stimuli that trigger physiological and autonomic reaction. They cause disease.

The first usually react very sensitive systems that are responsible for communication with the outside world - the nervous, cardiovascular, immune-endocrine. And after them crumbles and everything else.

Your body - is a complex mechanism, but you - his master. Maintain the way of life in which the body can easily stay healthy, full of energy, strong. I will not write here about proper nutrition, Exercise and regular checkups at the doctor - you and without me know it.

4. Loss of self-worth

"Old people are not wanted."

• Destructive feelings: despair, anger, shame, resentment, shyness, sadness, helplessness.
• Transform into constructive feelings: friendliness, interest, kindness, trust, sincerity, reciprocity, sympathy and respect.

The presence of broad social relations in the age at times more important than in other age periods. When there is no one to talk to, to share news, discuss experiences, a person ceases to feel "being wanted", reduced self-esteem, self-confidence falls.

Despite the fact that with age, we concur with difficult people and make new friends, you must strive to to have diverse social circle, do not avoid participating in public events, maintain relationships, to develop communication skills.

Friends always easy to find on a variety of courses, workshops, study circles. When a person speaks, he has a zest for life, a desire, dreams and aspirations. Through communication a person realizes the following needs: to approve, in a secure, information, in gratitude, emotions, attention, respect and recognition of competence.

Look around. Sure you pay attention to the energetic old men and women who lead an active lifestyle, visit the swimming pool, going on holidays and traveling. Live a full life at any age, it would wish.

5. Loss of sex appeal

"Opposite Sex cease to pay attention to me. Old body no one is pleasant, and the enthusiasm is not the same. "

• Destructive feelings: disappointment, regret, shame, anger, envy, resentment, despair, and fear.
• Transform into constructive feelings: self-love, acceptance, admiration, respect, caring and happiness.

Main aphrodisiac old age is not firm buttocks, and the dignity and intelligence. Surely you've heard stories where people over 50 find their happiness and even get married.

Love, in turn, helps to preserve youthfulness. Only need to want this. Dissatisfaction with life, grouchiness, sadness and anger transform into any grandparent. In order to remain attractive to the opposite sex emitted more positive emotions. Sincere, friendly, enthusiastic, happy people attract attention at any age.

Sex appeal prolong a healthy lifestyle and personal hygiene, rather than short skirts and unbuttoned his shirt, which after 40 may look out of place.

use affirmations. They at least stimulated to pay attention to themselves and care for themselves. For example: "I look great", "I have good skin," "I have an ideal weight," "I keep vigor, freshness and vitality" and so on.

6. Loss of financial well-being

"It is impossible to live on a pension. I will languish. "

• Destructive feelings: horror, despair, helplessness, hopelessness, bitterness, humiliation, anger, anxiety, greed.
• Transform into constructive feelings: care, concern, passion, gratitude, confidence and responsibility.

Brad poverty - one of the most common psychiatric disorders in women age. That's why some products grandmother hiding under the mattress and hammer pantry supplies. Men, by the way, to the same extent suffer from delusions of jealousy.

Sources of income in old age is really limited: it is a pension benefit in case of disability, financial assistance. It should take care of financial well-being in old age, while you are young. What you will have to feed? Apartments for rent, interest on deposits, their business. For someone and their own children are successful investment project, which provides a dignified old age.

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Life is not eternal. For each of us the day will come when we leave this world. But about someone will say, "Finally otmuchilsya ..." and others will admire and set an example, even after death. We wish each other a long youth, which does not contradict the wisdom of maturity.