4 tips to help overcome any difficulties in life

In life, inevitably there are various difficulties: health problems, economic crises or family problems. To cope with them, need to develop psychological stability.

Maureen Amy (Amy Morin)

Psychotherapist, author of the bestseller "13 things that avoid strong personalities."

To survive during all tests need to be able to control their thoughts, feelings and actions. This will help four simple advice.

1. accept reality

Adoption does not mean consent. You just need to recognize that this or that event - it is a fait accompli. Resting and repeating, that this should not happen, you're just wasting your time and effort. Accepting what is happening, you make the first step to find a way out of the situation.

Imagine the traffic congestion. One man will think, "How unfair! And why is it always happening to me? ". He starts to get angry, nervous and argue with other drivers.

Psychologically stable person simply remind yourself: "Every day the roads go, millions of machines, of course, from time to time will be traffic jams." Such an attitude to what is going to help keep the peace. Such persons include

To accept the reality, you need to understand that we can control and what is not. In situations which you can not influence, try to control yourself.

2. Stop feeling sorry for yourself

Acceptance of reality will help organize thoughts and feelings. This is the key to productive behavior. The way we behave when faced with any problem, determines how quickly we find its solution. Even if our problem defies solution (eg, the loss of a loved one), We still every time we choose how to respond to the incident.

You should not indulge in self-pity. It will not allow you to move on and completely deprive of fortitude. Ask yourself, "What can I do right now, to do something to help yourself?". You may have to overcome your fear and do something unpleasant. The main thing - to act.

3. Control sad thoughts

The mind can be our best ally, and our worst enemy. If you let negative thoughts take hold of them, you just can not do anything.

Thoughts like, "I never get it" or "I will not stand it a minute" will prevent you achieve your goals. So try to notice when your thoughts become too pessimistic.

If you feel that you fall into a panic, think about what you would say if in this situation turned out to be your friend. Surely you would have encouraged him and assured that he will succeed.

4. Train psychological stability advance

The crisis - not the best time to begin to develop the psychological stability. This must be done in advance.

You're not going to wait, when you need to lift something heavy, to start to swing muscles? It is unlikely to help you if you take tjagat iron five minutes before bed to move. But, gradually increasing strength, you will be able to lift more weight.

The same can be said about the psychological stability. That you had the strength of mind to overcome the difficulties of life, train it every day.