What is bodisheyming and why it is bad

In a perfect world no one violates another's boundaries and does not climb with your valuable opinion about your appearance. We are all different, so look in different ways. But everyone at least once in his life faced with condemnation: for someone you are too fat, for another - too brightly dyed, he believes that the age of 20 years can not go with lilac hair, but it does not like tattoo.

All this - manifestations bodisheyminga and speaking in Russian - discrimination against those who do not fit the generally accepted standards of appearance. Very often bullied people who are overweight, although too (on someone's opinion) is also regularly gets thin.

Do you also do this? Stop immediately. And that's why.

1. It imposed stereotypes

At different times, different types were considered attractive appearance. Even in the middle of the XIX century, women wore crinolines polls to appear voluminous and puffy cheeks were considered a sign of prosperity. Thin were largely poor or consumptive (TB patients). In 90-ies of XX century standard of 90-60-90 was the standard model of the female figure. It took 15-20 years, and on the podium began to produce flat uzkobodryh androgynous. And today it is not enough just to be thin, have to be athletic.

All that you consider beautiful, imposed from the outside.

Imagine that you were born and raised on a desert island, never watched television or read magazines. As you will understand how you fat or thin? Nothing.

2. It's none of your business

Most often, your valuable opinion is not asked about their appearance. People just live in the body, which they have, nothing you do not disturbing. So why do you think you know how they should look like? Who gave you this right? None. Even if the other person - your loved one.

3. It's cruel

There is nothing more devastating than self-loathing. And in fact it feels the one who regularly shpynyayut for non-compliance standards. Condemn the appearance of another person, because we are sure that you are really something beautiful, slim and look great? Look for other ways to assert themselves, they are.

4. it is subjective

Just think about the fact that someone just can not please yourself. Well, because you have blond hair and gray eyes, and a man like brown-eyed brunettes.

5. It does not help to change

"If fat tease, they take themselves in hand and lose weight." "If you repeat that men do not rush to the bone, it will eat more and pick up the weight." No, no and NO! If you constantly remind others that it looks like something is wrong, you will achieve only resentment and unwillingness to deal with you. Some features of appearance really is genetic. But even if the one you judge, just lazy or unwilling to change for the sake of you to please - it's his right.

For all it will be better if everyone will deal with them, and leave the rest to the right to be what they are - different. It is unlikely that you will be interested to live in a world where everything is the same look and think. It's a real dystopia! Let others differ from you. It is neither better nor worse, just different! And beautiful though is anyone who loves himself and is in harmony with your own body.