Words of wisdom 90-year-old woman, who has a lot to learn
A Life / / December 19, 2019
Grandmother columnist Mark Chernoff lived to be 90 years. In her life she kept a diary in the last ten years. 270 pages describing a woman learned from the lessons of life situations and events that have helped her learn important truths.
Ten years after her death, the hundredth anniversary of her grandmother, Mark Chernov shared her wisdoms with the readers of your blog.
1. Thousands of people spend their lives in the "default settings", although you can adjust all for themselves
Not content with that itself floats in your hands. Find love, their talent, their passion. Do not hide behind other people's decisions, do not let others tell you what you should want. The life you create for yourself, a lot better than what you get if you do not do anything.
2. Happiness - is the path, not a destination
Best experience you get in the process of achieving its goals. This is an exciting journey to an infinite horizon, where the looming goals and dreams. The most important reason for moving from one place to the other - the desire to see what is in between. It is in this segment is the love, dreams are realized and formed precious life memories.
3. Willingness to do difficult things a great opportunity
Man grows during difficulties and discomfort and at the same time to achieve the best in life. Because the most important things can not be obtained without effort. And if you are not ready to stand up to the challenges of fate, then miss all the fun.
Learn new things difficult. Build relationships difficult. Staying healthy hard. Hard to build a business. But all this is worth the effort.
If you have a good deal with the difficulties, you can do anything.
4. Little achieve long-term change everything
The idea that the great achievements you need to go step by step, it seems obvious. But at some point we want to get everything right now. And this leads us to bite off more than we can chew. Remind yourself: you can not raise 1 ton of time, but you can raise 1 kg of a thousand times.
5. To win, you need not only to move forward
Sometimes, in order to win, you need to retreat. For example, if you are at an impasse, it may indicate that you're going the wrong way. But you can still go back and go direct route to your destination.
Life teaches that unfold on the road, you can not miss this opportunity and do not confuse a strategic retreat with defeat.
6. The biggest disappointment - it is always the result of unreasonable expectations
Our expectations are growing from year to year, but the idea of how things should be, often breaking on the way things really are. And this leads to stress and disappointments. Therefore it is necessary to make expectations more realistic.
Not everything happens as we want, and it's a good idea: it surprises make life interesting.
7. Hardest character is shown at the extreme ups and downs
In a particularly difficult time, when it seems to you that you do not manage, just remember that before you have passed through 100% of the problems.
8. life is changeable
When the going gets tough times, it is easy to start thinking that everything will be even worse in the future. In the moments of happiness usually everyone understands that fleeting joy.
If you look at the future through a contaminated lens with negative emotions, it will only feed feelings. Do not think that tomorrow will be the same as today.
9. You can only win the current battle
No matter what happens, you can only fight effectively in today's battle. Attempts to solve at the same time yesterday, and tomorrow's problems make life extremely difficult.
10. Do not be at all times in order - this is normal
Sometimes the only thing that we can experience - is that we are not in order. If you give yourself the right to negative emotionsYou can lose significant weight from the soul. And to be honest, it is normal to be out of order, when someone whom you love dies, when life goes downhill when you are faced with betrayal.
No matter how the situation will change in the future, it is important that is happening to you right now.
11. The sensitivity can be superpower
Sensitivity is often perceived as a weakness. But in reality, it is the characteristic of a living person, capable of compassion. There is no shame in expressing true feelings. That emotional people create a more humane world. Therefore do not be ashamed to open your heart.
12. Help the person to whom not all the same, can heal a broken heart
Be heartbroken - it's like getting lost in the woods: you see a million trails, but each of them leads to nowhere. At the same time, if you will be a man who has found himself in such a situation and got out, it will give you hope that you too will be able to get through the difficulties.
13. loneliness is important
In the moments when you feel lonely, Should be alone with yourself, as paradoxical as it may sound. It is necessary to understand their thoughts and feelings, listen to your intuition. Self-talk requires silence, the only sound which is the beating of your heart. Only in this case you will hear what it says.
14. Most often you sufficiently small to be happy
If something does not add up, subtract the start. Life becomes easier and more enjoyable when you are thrown out of her emotional garbage.
15. Start the day with love and gratitude
When get up in the morning, think about how wonderful it is: to be alive, to see, hear, think, love. Understand that happiness does not make you grateful and gratitude makes you happy. If you start the morning with kindness, you'll see her around during the day.
16. It is very important what kind of people we choose to communicate
Spend time with good, smart people you admire. relations should to help you and not to harm. Life is too short to waste it on someone who drains you of power and takes away the desire to be happy.
When you are released from the society of people who drag you down, you soar up much easier.
17. Boundaries in relationships are saving lives
If you are treated with indifference and contempt, the best option - to eliminate such destructive relationships. Sometimes it is necessary to tear "on live" when you mean nothing to someone who is very important to you. But this banal self-esteem.
Realize your value and not bad bargain, offering their society.
18. You will learn the essence of people, when you come hard times
Pay attention to those who remain there when you have problems. And thank the people who have left you, because they make room for those who you really are important.
19. You are always waiting for new opportunities
No one can live a life without a loss, but they make us stronger and move to future possibilities. Do not miss them. Engage in a new relationship, take different proposals. Always be prepared to encounter something that will change your life forever.
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