13 tips how to enjoy solitude

Today, it seems that with you that something is not right, if you're alone. We exalt extroverts - those who know how to behave in a crowd and have a lot of friends. We think that working in groups and teams - the only way to find a solution to the problem. That two heads are better than one. Cooperation - the only way to the future.

But the truth is that more than half the world's population does not agree with this. But sometimes the pressure becomes so strong that it makes me wonder what's wrong with me. Why am I not worthy to be a party, or to work in large teams, or to be in the spotlight.

But I'm all right. I introvert. There is a 50 percent chance that you will too. If you are an introvert, welcome to the club. There will be no meetings, because we prefer to be alone, but this knowledge will help you understand that you are not alone in their world view.

If you extrovertDo not think that there is no value in this article is for you. In the same way as introverts try to find pleasure in dealing with a group of people, you can find a way to get pleasure from spending time with yourself. This is a great value - to be able to be alone with him.

The following 13 rules I use when I'm alone. Whether you're an introvert, try to adapt to the world of extroverted, or extrovert students to be alone, I think that these rules will help you, too.

1. Understand that you are good in themselves

You are a valuable person, you do not need someone else's approval to verify this. When you are alone, remind yourself about it, because you yourself have made such a choice. Very easy to find someone who will hold you time, but remind yourself that it is better to be alone than with someone who is not worthy of you.

2. Value the opinion of others, but their - more

Do not ask for advice, if in fact you do not need. Instead, ask for advice from you. The more time you ask questions about yourself, the less you'll have to wait for a response from others.

When you trust yourself to solve problems, you become stronger and more confident person. You will be able to take up the challenges in the decision does not have the strength before.

3. Learn to be an observer

If you are not interested in anything, it says more about you than if someone finds you boring. To really enjoy the solitude, learn to see the usual situation in a new light. Go to the park and watch how people play with the kids or dogs.

Wherever you go, make an effort to understand the people around. Understanding how people act when no one is looking at them will make you feel more connected with them.

4. Close your eyes in a dark room and listen to the silence

World - lively place. If you occasionally will not step back from it, it is easy to forget how wonderful to just sit alone and enjoy their company.

Select a minute and sit quietly in a dark room. Listen to everything that happens around you. You can learn a lot about yourself in those moments when no busy, when there is nothing that would distract you from thoughts and feelings that you can deny it later.

5. Learn to talk to yourself

Perfectly normal to talk to himself. You're crazy if you think that this is not so. Everyone has an inner voice that constantly talking with him.

Find out the owner of that voice and learn to speak with him - one of the most important things you can do for yourself. When you fill the time by other people, it is easier to ignore this voice, but when you're alone, it's your only company.

6. Appreciate every moment

Some people need to survive tragedyBefore you realize how short their stay in this world. Time alone is important. Time alone is fine. But this time spent on others.

There is no such thing as a boring person or boring situation. If you get bored, you're not paying attention. The problem is you, not in your environment. Be interested in people who come into your life. Listen carefully to what they say. Watch what they do. Try to understand them. And you will be the best for them.

7. Rearrange furniture

When you are alone, it is easy to feel as if nothing around is not changed. And this is true if you do not make an effort to change something.

Rearrange the furniture - not such an important thing, but it can breathe life into a routine, which is easy to become a victim, if you long to be alone.

8. Avoid mindless consumption

When you are alone, you have a tremendous opportunity to think about your life and the direction that you should choose. Do you really happy and fulfilling? Should you continue to do what you do? Or you feel dissatisfied? You have to change something?

Only you can answer these questions. If instead you fill your life meaningless consumption - TV, movies, Internet surfing - you will never be able to answer clearly to them.

9. Create

Create - the main thing that you can do in your life. When you are alone, the only person preventing you to be creative and work - you yourself. Excuses no more.

There is an option to ignore the need to create something, and seek comfort in the things and people that eventually will leave you unsatisfied. Use his solitude for creativity.

10. Up with a plan for the future and implement them immediately

It is practically impossible to be satisfied with their lives and have some direction in it. The purpose of life should not be complicated. You only need to submit it.

Implement our plans immediately. Do not delay them, do not expect a great opportunity. The longer you wait, the harder it is to start somewhere.

When you reach your goals, two things happen. Firstly, you feel confident. Secondly, this confidence is attracting into your life new and interesting people.

11. Go to watch movies alone

Get used to perform alone the actions that society dictates to perform together. Go to the cinema and enjoy the movie. Dine with. Take yourself on a date, and contact with them well.

At first it will be uncomfortable. Do not try to hide the discomfort, take it. Then laugh at it, because someone decided that you can not do these things alone?

12. Grasp the hopeless project

When you work in a team, high pressure exerted on you, because you have to match the requirements. In my opinion, this is a terrible way to create something really important and meaningful.

When you are alone, you can take up any thing you like. Use this freedom to your advantage.

Important part of life - doing what all consider unreasonable or impractical. Think of the weirdest things that wanted to do, and then take a small step toward its implementation. This is something you do only for myself.

13. Voluntarily spend their time on other

Be alone and happy does not mean to isolate oneself from the world. It means to be confident enough to know that you can surround yourself with people, but do not depend on them.

A good way to start - surround yourself with good people you will find when you spend your time on them.