Because of which there is self-doubt and how to overcome it
A Life / / December 19, 2019
Because of the uncertainty which arises
past mistakes
They greatly change our attitude towards him, especially if there was something serious, such heavy breakup or dismissal. But the past does not change. Do not dwell on the old mistakes. Remove from them a lesson, or you take the time to waste.
training
If the parents were always dissatisfied with you, as a teacher you tried only estimated, you could learn from childhood habit of doubting yourself. But now you are an adult, and it's only your life. You no longer need to seek the approval of parents and teachers.
Comparing yourself to others
We compare ourselves with colleagues who manage more than we do. With bloggers in social networks, we are living more interesting. As a result, disappointed and angry with himself. Solving the problem is quite simple - learn value yourself. We are all different, we understand all the different things.
And yet sometimes compare themselves with others is helpful. Note what qualities you lack, and develop them.
unfamiliar situations
You do not know how to react and what to expect from the situation. Naturally, there is self-doubt. Use this as an opportunity to learn something new. Once you are able to walk, but now copes with it. Remind yourself that wrong - this is normal. Due to the errors we learn.
The success in the past
With it comes the fear that you will never do anything better. Do not think how to repeat this success. Think about how to surpass himself. Let you do something good at, still has room to grow. Develop your strengths.
How to get rid of uncertainty
Think about the good
If you notice at the negative thoughts, focus on something positive. Be prepared to provide something that will help tune into a positive way. For example:
- List of counterarguments: "I will succeed", "This is an opportunity to learn something new," "I'm just wasting my time, doubts will not change anything."
- List of happy memories.
- The folder with the photos that make you smile.
- List of action that energizes you.
- Wholesome food, which can be a quick snack.
change activity
The longer you get hung up on one emotion, the harder it is to get rid of it. Relax and go do something else. You stop to think about unpleasant and look at everything on the other side.
Ask for help
Support for relatives, friends or head to help in a difficult situation. Their advice will charge confidence and motivation.
Keep records
Each week, write down what makes you doubt yourself. So you determine what is causing uncertainty and how to overcome it. Also write down what you are grateful for. You begin to appreciate yourself and focus on what you have.
How to regain confidence in three weeks
- First week. Every day, write down three things for which you are grateful. Gradually, you will notice that you have in the lives of many reasons for joy. At the end of the week again review the full list.
- second week. Write down the situations in which you doubt yourself, and possible causes of uncertainty. By the end of the week, you define your basic fears. Think about how to cope with them that change.
- third week. Write down what you have done to overcome the uncertainty and how you feel. No matter how small or were your steps, it's still a victory. You have a little bit closer to your goal.