In which parents grow up happy and successful children
A Life / / December 19, 2019
Parents who are raising children happy and able to have a lot in common.
They teach children socialization skills
Researchers at the University of Pennsylvania and Duke University have observed more than 700 children from all over America to for 20 years to find a connection between the development of social skills in childhood and success in the 25-year-old age.
Long-term research has shown that children who are able to collaborate with their peers, understand their feelings, willing to help others and solve problems on their own, more complete training will receive a diploma and are arranged at constant work.
Those who have a child with difficulty to establish contact with others in adulthood is much more likely to get into trouble the situation in general had higher odds of being arrested and could not boast of high social status.
"This study shows that parents should help children develop social skills and emotional intelligence. This is one of the most important skills that are necessary for your child to be prepared for the future - Schubert says Christine (Kristin Schubert), program director of the Robert Wood Johnson Foundation, funded the research. - From an early age, these skills determine whether the child will learn or gets to prison, if he gets a job or get bogged down in drug dependence. "
They expect a lot from a child
Using data from a national survey of 6600 children born in 2001, Professor Neil Helfon (Neal Halfon) and his colleagues University of California at Los Angeles were able to discover: the expectations of parents have a great influence on what their children reached in future.
"Parents who expected that in the future their child would go to university, it seems, brings it to that purpose, irrespective of family income and other factors," - said the professor.
This is confirmed by a so-called effect Pigmaliona described American psychologist Rosenthal. Its essence lies in the fact that the person who firmly believes in any fact, unconsciously acts in a way to get a real confirmation of their confidence. In the case of children, they are unconsciously trying to meet the expectations of parents.
mothers work
Psychologists have found that the daughters of working mothers go to school already having experience of independent life. In the future, these children earn on average 23% more than their peers who grow up in families where the mother did not work and all the time devoted to home and family.
Sons working mothers tend to be brighter than the care of children and housework: the study found that they spend 7.5 hours per week more than caring for children and helping around the house.
"Simulation of the situation is a way to send a signal: you show that is appropriate in terms of how you behaved than Occupation, who help ", - says the study's lead author, a professor at Harvard Business School Kathleen McGinn (Kathleen McGinn).
They have a higher socio-economic status
The higher the income of the parents, the higher the assessment of their children - is the general rule. These data may sadden us, because many families are not able to boast of a great income and great potential. Well, psychologists say, such a situation does limit the potential of the child.
Rierdon Sean (Sean Reardon), a researcher at Stanford University, points out that the statistical difference in the success of children from rich and poor families is increasing. If we compare those who were born in 1990, and those who were born in 2001, we can see that the gap has increased from 30% to 40%.
If you do not take into account the complex costly measures itself socio-economic status of the family motivates children to achieve more in their studies.
They have received higher education
The study found that children born to mothers in their teens are less likely to finish high school and go to university.
A study conducted in 2014 under the direction of psychologist Sandra Tang (Sandra Tang), found that mothers who graduated from high school and the institute is likely to raise a child who will also receive a higher education.
Responsibility for the aspirations of the child is at least partially rests on the shoulders of parents.
Psychologist Erik Oaks (Eric Dubow) found that the level of education of the parents at the time when their child turns 8 years old, is decisive for the next 40 years. This means that it is from it depends largely on the success of the child in the future.
They teach their children mathematics from an early age
Analysis of the behavior of 35,000 pre-school children from the US, Canada and England, spent in 2007, showed that the early development of mathematical abilities becomes a huge advantage for a child in the future. Why is it, is not very clear, but the fact remains. Children who from an early age to understand numbers and simple mathematical concepts, learn to read faster.
They develop relationships with their children
A study conducted in 2014 showed that children who were treated with understanding and respect in the first three years of life, not only to better show themselves in their studies, but also able to establish a healthy relationship with others. By age 30, most of them are more successful and educated people.
Parents who are sensitive and attentive to your child, give him a sense of security, you need to develop further and explore the world around them.
They are less stressed
Scientific studies show: the amount of time mothers spend alone with their children at the age from 3 to 11 years old, is of little importance for their development. But an active, intense and obsessive motherhood can be devastating.
When the mother is under stress because of attempts to balance between work and family, it is a bad influence on their children. The fact that there is a psychological phenomenon of "contagion" of emotions. Users can detect each other's feelings, just as infected with the common cold. Therefore, when one of the parents mentally exhausted or sad, this gloomy feeling passed and the child.
They appreciate the effort, not the fear of failure
For decades, Carol Dweck (Carol Dwek), a psychologist at Stanford University, conducted a study during which found: children (and adults) are able to measure the success of two ways.
The first of these is called fixed mindset. People who think this way, evaluate their ability, intelligence and talent for granted, as something that can not be changed. Respectively, for their success is measured only this value and all the power they throw out, not only to achieve this goal, but also to avoid errors in any way.
There is more long-term thinkingAimed at the adoption of the call. Failure for such a person is a "trampoline" for further growth and work on their own abilities.
Therefore, if you say to the child that he has successfully passed the test because he had "always been good at math," you teach him to a fixed way of thinking. And if you say that it happened because he made every effort, baby will understand: he can develop their abilities, and every next effort will bring new results.