4 ways to solve any problem
A Life / / December 19, 2019
Desperate situations do not happen. Layfhaker tell you how to solve the problem in any area of life using a simple algorithm.
possible solutions
What would you not worried: the choice of a new gadget, the relationship with the partner or the excessive demands of a new chief - you have four ways to get rid of this feeling:
- change themselves and their behavior;
- to change the situation;
- get out of the situation;
- change their attitude to the situation.
Undoubtedly, there is an option to leave everything as it is, but it's definitely not about the resolution of the problem.
All list ended. More, no matter how hard you try not to think of anything. And if you want to reflect on what to do, I suggest to follow these steps.
The algorithm
1. Formulate the problem in the first person
Problems "in the world have not yet created a gadget that I need," "He does not care about me" and "Head - the beast that demands the impossible," unsolvable. But the problem of "I can not find a gadget that fits my criteria," "I feel unhappy because the fact that the partner does not care about me "and" I can not do something that requires me to Head "is quite a workers.
2. Analyze your problem
Assume four ways of solutions presented above:
- You can change themselves and their behavior: review their requirements for the gadget, ask a partner to take care and learn how to do something that requires a boss.
- You can make a difference: create yourself a gadget that's perfect to match your criteria, to talk with your partner about your feelings or make your boss fired.
- You can get out of the situation: decide not to buy a gadget at all, parting with a partner or resign.
- You can change your attitude to the situation: read reviews on forums and assess whether you need just such a gadget; talk to a psychologist, and learn how you can take care of themselves; referring to the Buddhist philosophy, come to terms with the nature of the author and do not accept his claim to heart.
3. Think about what method suits you best
Perhaps you will understand that you would like to combine several of them, such as to change their attitude to the situation, and then change their behavior. And maybe you'll start to consider a number of ways to choose from. This is normal.
4. After selecting one, two or even three ways, make a brainstorming
Take a sheet of paper and a pen. For each method write as much as possible solutions to the problem. At this stage, give up all the filters ( "indecent", "impossible", "ugly", "shame", etc.) and write down everything that comes to mind.
For example:
Change themselves and their behavior | ||
I can not find a gadget that fits my criteria | I feel unhappy because of the fact that your partner does not care about me | I can not do something that requires me to Head |
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For inspiration:
- Imagine someone you respect and who definitely could help you. What are the solutions to the problem, he would suggest?
- Ask for help from friends and acquaintances: brainstorming in the company runs more fun.
5. Look at the list of all the solutions to your problems
Choose the most suitable for you in this situation.
6. Ask yourself the following questions:
- What do I need to do to put this decision into practice?
- What I can prevent and how can I overcome this?
- Who can help me do this?
- What I will do in the next three days to start to solve their problem?
7. Act!
Without action, all these reflections and analysis - a waste of time. You all must succeed! And remember:
A desperate situation - a situation, the obvious solution of which you do not like.