12 ways to get rid of excess: the thoughts, fears, and things kilograms
A Life / / December 19, 2019
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1. Use the rule of 90%
Typically 90% can be used in the event of any choice or dilemmas. Evaluate options on a scale of 0 to 100. If a specific option to obtain an estimate of less than 90 - discard it. This criterion makes you choose the perfect opportunity, and do not let other people or the universe to do it for you.
2. Get rid of unnecessary "yes"
Unable to deny people, we say "yes" more often than we would like. Time on task takes forever, and feeling joy from them - zero.
Here is an exercise that will help to say "no." In the morning, put in a drawstring pouch. Every time you loud and clear to say "no", tie a knot on it. In the evening summarize: if the counted five knots, can no longer perform this exercise.
3. Slow down
When we are nervous, afraid, and experience stress, we begin to move faster. And it is necessary to slow down. It helps just one yawn. He will give a signal of the parasympathetic nervous system, responsible for the relaxation that the danger had passed, and will help to calm down.
4. Restart your thoughts
Our memory is experiencing tremendous overload: work issues, domestic affairs, the meeting... As a result, we can not remember even simple shopping list. Restore order in the mind will help point the method of contemplation.
Select a point on a wall or a piece of paper and focus on it. Your attention will be jumping from side to side - do not resist it, and vice versa - encourage. Each time, seeing that you are distracted from this point, note that you are distracted, and come back to the point. So you will have a list of what still matters to you and must be either cleaned or decided.
5. Eat without fanaticism
How to eat properly, but do not torment themselves debilitating diet? No need to weigh your food, count calories or learn the ingredients - just follow the contents of the balance plate. Two or even three-quarters of a balanced plate should consist of plant foods: fruits, vegetables, legumes, seeds, nuts and whole grains. If you need to work on both adequate filling this part of the plate, other solutions will be of little consequence, and superfluous kgs leave.
6. Conduct an audit in social networks
Many friends are people with whom you do not want to be constantly in touch. But the sense of guilt prevents them otfrendit. Actually perform the audit in the list of friends - this is normal.
Draw on a pad of six concentric circles. The central circle - it's you. The rest of the name "day", "week", "month", "year", "other". Fill in the circle of friends from the list in accordance with the desired frequency of personal contact.
Look what happened. Now think what would happen if you otfrendite those who fell into the category of "other"? Perhaps, nothing terrible will happen, but you will be much easier without this communication.
7. Say "no" toxic people
Toxic people - the ones that force you to accept the fact that you do not like. In this case, you are wasting a lot of energy to communicate with them, and they only awaken your personal gremlins. How can they say "no" and to protect their interests?
Do not beat around the bush. If you are in doubt, toxic people feel your weakness and try to take over the top of you. Speak loud and clear:
- I'm sorry, but I can not go with you.
- I can not meet you.
- I can not come.
8. Use the formula of "4D"
If you loaded the affairs separate them. Help formula "4D":
- Come on! Cases that do not tolerate delay. If you need to do it now, take and make.
- Down with! If there is no result from business, they have nothing to do on your list. Do not be afraid to say "no" to the meetings, which do not want to go, and the stranger requests, which are only wasting your time.
- Delegate! The works that no losses can be delegated to another person. Do not attempt to take control of absolutely all processes. Stop loading himself with the affairs that can make other people.
- Until better times! If the case can be postponed until better times, then calmly set aside. Just do not forget to mention when you plan to implement.
9. Organize lists of books, movies and TV series
love be lists interesting books and movies, but it still can not overcome them? But to read and see everything possible (yes it is)! Divide the work with the list into two stages.
- First, make a list of books or movies that interest you.
- Second, next to each item, specify the reason why you decided to make the book or movie. Answer the questions: who recommend them to you, why do they read or watch, and what good you could retrieve.
What for? Additional information will help to recall the feelings that you experienced when you decided to add a book to the list. You remember why would read it, and either want to do it immediately, or choose to delete it from the list with a clear conscience.
10. Use one-touch rule
Paper - it's part of the chaos. Therefore, as soon as your hands gets a document, use one-touch rule: store it in the allotted space, perform the appropriate action (for example, pay the bill) or discard.
11. Put yourself deadlines
Walk with a notebook and a pencil around the house and write down everything you notice: lamps, which have long been like mend old clothes that went out of fashion, cooking utensils, which is gathering dust waiting for fresh juices or fondue ...
These things - the background that you almost do not notice. term disposal put down next to each item on the trash, And the foreseeable future: the date when going to finish the job. You do not know when - write to "throw" and proceed to the next step.
12. Throw away everything you do not need
Get rid of unnecessary things in the house difficult. But not necessarily to conceive a global clean - enough precision strikes. Every day, dispose of 10 items from every room. Brush your teeth in the bathroom? Bring a trash can, open the cabinet or first aid kit and find 10 things that can be thrown out.
Based on the book "personal boundaries», «Essentialism», «It is high time!», «What is the time lag», «The ability to say "no"», «overcoming fear», «Jedi technique», «Closer to the body», «communication Science».
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