You can not lose weight? The whole point of obstinacy
Motivation / / December 19, 2019
If you are trying to grow thinThere are many factors that work against you, work schedule, lack of willpower, even family members. But all these factors are relatively easy to overcome. But stubbornness - not.
This is the same feature that negates all your efforts to get in shape, even if you have already made progress.
Imagine that someone expresses an opinion that is contrary to your beliefs in any area, be it religion, politics or sports. How do you react to that?
Of course, you immediately want to object to this man. You'll be thrilled, you have the participation of the pulse, you may even compress fists.
Maybe you are fully confident in their beliefs about every aspect of life, but most likely it is not. And your reaction to the opposite view - it is a kind of protection for your ego against the very possibility that you might be wrong. This is stubbornness: mindless adherence to their beliefs by default.
Hate to admit that your actions that you thought were faithful and leading to success, in fact, it was erroneous. So you decide to leave everything as it is. You simply closed in his shell before how will listen to another's point of view, to safely protect themselves from the slightest hesitation about their case.
But what unites the stubbornness - the inability to challenge their entrenched beliefs - and the impossibility of tidy up your body?
Stubbornness prevents understand what is best for you
A healthy lifestyle and sports there is no single standard. For example, some people will bring themselves into shape, if they eat a nutritious breakfast, and the other is better to skip the morning meal. But, if you close to any opinion, to break the current view of the world, you never know what is best for you: have breakfast or not.
Instead, you blindly follow what you already know and prefer to blame the "genes" or "lazy." Of course, both of these factors are important, but a huge number of people accused of laziness and genetic nepredraspolozhennost to the sport, in fact, can not lose weight just because of his stubbornness.
They think about the sport and support the good physical form as a talent who do not have, rather than a useful skill that can be developed.
Stubbornness makes you stop
Let's imagine that you love going to the gym in the morning, because you like to start your day right. You get up an hour early to exercise before work. On the way to the gym, you find yourself in a traffic jam, and after thirty minutes spent in it, you know that you no longer have time to work out.
You are very upset and angry. You think about the assholes who get into accidents because of their own carelessness and haste, and just swim in this anger.
If you act like most people, your irritation will turn predictable succession of actions and reactions. Your plans for a healthy start to the day collapsed, you are angry and upset, and your bad mood intensifies all the troubles that occur to you during the day. As a result, you have a nightmare on Monday.
Stop disastrous for the progress of fitness. You concentrate on the mistakes, the things for which you can not influence, rather than to think about what you can change in the future. Thus you have formed negative attitudes associated with fitness.
The reverse side of this destructive installation - this compassion. Perhaps the driver, due to which there was a cork, was not a fool. Perhaps it was the young mother who is trying to place a child back, because of what distracted from the road and created an emergency situation.
Or perhaps you're just not going to mentally destroy yourself and others for having missed the morning practice, because the events were out of your control. Shit happens. Forget about it and go on the day as if nothing had happened.
Stubbornness prevents you from being flexible
Here is an excerpt from a popular article, where Michael Rowe, host a TV show Dirty Jobs, tells the story of her friend Claire, who asked him for advice about relationships:
- Look at me - she says. - I take care of myself. I have come here. Why is it so difficult?
- How about that guy at the bar? He looks at you.
- Not my type.
- True? How do you know?
- I just know.
- You tried to dating sites? - I ask.
- Are you kidding? I will never meet the person with whom she met online.
- Good. How about to change their place? Does your company have offices across the country. Maybe you try to move to another city?
- What? Leave San Francisco? No way!
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In fact, Claire did not need a man. She wants the "right man" soul mate. While a soul mate with the same zip code as well as her. She created an image in my head of this guy many years ago and, hell, already so tired of waiting for it! I did not tell her this, because Claire has a tendency to sudden violence. But it's true. She regrets about his loneliness, while the rules which it has set for itself, in a more or less guarantee that loneliness will continue. She built a wall between himself and his purpose. The wall of the conditions and expectations. Maybe you have such a wall?
Many people who want to buy good physical shape, have a similar setup about a healthy lifestyle. It should include the absence of alcohol and smoking, daily jogging and other rules that are not so easy to observe from the outset. And for such people everything that went beyond their imaginary "healthy lifestyle" - defeat. Maximalists.
In this perspective, stubbornness away your flexibility. As strange as it may sound, flexibility - is the key to compliance, and adherence to the rules, in turn, - the most important for any diet.
Keeping a diet and choosing the right products at least 80% of the cases, you will achieve a lot more in the long run, than by carefully observing all the rules of a healthy lifestyle for a few weeks.
How to overcome the stubbornness
How to get rid of stubborn? Remember that stubbornness - a protective reaction, which is designed to preserve the existing order of things and your self-image. A subconscious fear of change existing habits, fear that these changes could lead to a lack of comfort and self-esteem in the future.
Accept the fact that you occasionally get stubborn. The next time when you will behave in the framework of established thought patterns, far from rationality and logic have caught myself on this. You will experience many emotions that fuel your self-righteous. Remember these feelings and be alert the next time they recur.
Another time, when you notice it, ask yourself: "Why should I continue to maintain these beliefs are and why they are so important to? I "For example, many people literally jump when they say that the breakfast - it's not the most important part of the day diet. And when you ask why they are so confident that breakfast is useful and necessary, they say something like, "Well, I heard something about it," or "Because I have always a lot of attention is paid to breakfast."
Is it really worse than be upset because of the fact that you are wrong, do not you continue the way you want? I do not think.
If you are wrong, admit it. Understand that you should be grateful, not shame, changing their existing erroneous opinions and attitudes on the right. This means that you grow and already a little better than most people who buy products without GMOs, because "GM seems to be very bad" and "everyone is doing it."
Instead, you find something that is useful for you, what helps you move forward on the chosen path and create good habits, combined with your lifestyle.
At first, breaking their installation, ignoring the moans disadvantaged ego is quite difficult. But it is all about practice, and over time you will learn how to deal with his stubbornness.
Maintaining yourself in good physical shape will be easier. Obstacles disappear from strict taboos established by the mysterious omniscient masters of the magazines of a healthy lifestyle.
More importantly, you will understand that success in this business is not dependent on the ideal way of life in which you never do wrong. It depends on how you fix your mistakes and use them for personal growth.
And you, too idealize a healthy lifestyle?